What to do when the one you still love so much stops loving you and dating with other people?

Question

It's hard to move on. Should I try to get him back or let go? My heart is breaking into thousand pieces now. Please help!
Thank you.

Answer 1

Kim,

I understand first hand what you are going through, you feel as though the weight of the world is on your shoulders, as though your heart will break through your chest, and as though everything that has transpired is your fault.

I do understand this pain Kim, and it will hurt for awhile, I can not tell you when that pain will go or if it ever will. What I can tell you is, don't run from it,,,embrace it,,,do not hide in the dark, in the corner, like a child to scared to open their eyes,,,instead stand firm, stand ready and fierce, like a Tigris ready for combat.

We all have a strength inside us, a power so ancient that it has been with Men & Women for years. You have that strength to, and you will find it. Kim, even if your heart breaks, pick up the pieces and put it back together again, because even though you feel that pain,,,,, I have learned that it let's me know that You and I and so many like us are alive, that are hearts are open, that we feel and that we can love.

DO NOT ALLOW anyone to take away your gift, your gift to love, to feel, to care. Do not allow them to take away your strength or even your will,,,,,ever.
But most of all,,,,,let him go, if he cannot see that beauty and the power of love inside you, then he is not worthy of the gift inside your heart.

Remember,,,you are strong and beautiful.

Michael.

Answer 2

When you love someone you have to let them go. It is like the love you gave them were wings and now they have flown away. As painful as it might sound you are stronger than you can ever imagine. You had the power to give someone wings now it is time to give them to yours elf. It is always have a closure. Make an album of the two of you. Write down all the good moments you ahd, and all that you feel. Feel free to cry till you drop. Then vow, for the sake of all the people you love you will radiate love and look better. Have an extreme make over. Sell and give away all your clothes and buy new ones, change your shoes, look for new hair styles and make your hair. Go for a facial. This will help you to love yourself once more and there fore radiate love to other people. Visit new places. it is a big world out there and only an adventorous person like you can see them. Join an exciting club or something that you have always desired to do. ive your life to your self. Do all the interesting things you used to do as a young and beautiful girl and laugh at least three times a day. I mean laugh out loud until your ribs ache

Answer 3

Your heart may be breaking into a thousand pieces right now, but if you chase after someone who clearly doesn't want you, you will only make yourself look pathetic and needy, and your dignity will likewise be broken into a thousand pieces. I say, move on with your dignity intact, at least.

Answer 4

She left me after three years of going out, it's impossible to move on, i tried replacing her with other girls, it didn't work, i wouldn't eat, i wouldn't sleep, i wouldn't smile, a heavy rustle of leaves in the dark was all i could hear.

It took time to get over it as it wasn't wise to get her back for the risk of me going through this pain again, now that 8 years have gone by i realize what a moron i was to fall in love with the wrong person, if someone could ignore the fact that they put me through immense pain and it doesnt matter to them do not deserve me.

Time is all i have spent, time is all that it takes to realize. hey you can learn from me and not make the same mistake i made, if you will get over it in a few years, why not now? yeah it's hard, but think about it.

Answer 5

Personally I feel that there is no point to get the guy back when he doesn't love you at all. You got to learn to let go of this relationship no matter how hurt you are. You have to be brave when you face this sort of situation. I believe there are a lot of guys out there who will treat you better.

Answer 6

It sounds like he's moved on. You owe it to yourself to do the same. Easier said than done I know, but start slow. Go the cliche route- grap a few chick flicks, go out with the girls, eat ice cream. Once you start regaining your confidence you'll be able to start loving again. As for him- stay away, limit your time talking or seeing each other until you're completely healed. You can do it!

Answer 7

let him go, my sister is going through all that with a bf of 2 years decides to love someone else and she tried to get back with him and it all just went worse...i know it will hurt but you gotta be strong. There is someone out there for you who will always love you no matter what. Some guys are jerks and it sounds like he isnt worth it. I hope this helps.

Answer 8

Don't fool yourself. You're NOT going to move on. Why even ask this question? You're stuck on this guy, you're going to try to be his "friend" even though that's not what you really want to be. He's going to humor you since it's easier for him than confrontation, and you are going to make yourself more and more miserable. It's your destiny. You can tell me how mad you are about this message, but you can think about it the next time you call him, which will probably be this weekend.

Answer 9

I just wrote a little poem for you. It goes like this...

It's time for you to move on and not look back
You and him are headed down two different tracks
You will slowly heal as time goes on
And soon you will forget that he was ever even gone

Shirley

Answer 10

i know exactly how ya feel. only time can take some of the pain away. it's also not bad to get a rebound guy either. if that doesn't work Jack Daniels sure did the trick for me.