Married or divorced please. my wife of 15 years is currently about 3 months on other side.
2007-01-26 19:12:36 · 7 answers · asked by shawclint 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO the grass is certainly not greener on the other side. If you don't believe me, ask my husband as he knows first hand that the grass is always greener in your own yard. Try to work out your problems if you can, 15 yrs is a long time together to just throw it away. Best of luck to you
2007-01-27 00:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...the grass definitely isn't greener. My fiance and I both learned this the hard way not too long ago and it's going to take some time rebuilding trust and feeling free enough to show all the love we have for each other. The other person may have been okay to look at, good at sex, smart, nice to talk to, fun and all the other things that dating people do and are, but you are MARRIED (in our case, engaged...no small thing in itself) there is NO comparison for love and the life you have spent years building together...talk to your wife and try and see if there is something you can do to make her happy again with you. If there is love, then your efforts will be rewarded. You will be tempted to use this in an disagreement...my advice is DON'T. What has happened is in the past and a learning experience - just that. Now you will need to see each other with new eyes and make a better effort at making each other happy instead of doing the things that made the other person dissatisfied or not try in the first place. Tell her you love her unconditionally - you don't want it to happen again, but you do want her to know she is important to you and that you love her and want to rebuild all the good things that only SEEM lost right now. Then give her the chance to show how much she loves you without using this as an excuse not to accept her love. That can be hard, but it's the only way if you want to get back to feeling open enough to show your love for each other. Trust is a fragile thing for most people...real love is when you know a person has made a mistake and is sorry and ashamed of what they've done and you give them an HONEST chance to fix things. I don't know all of what happened - chances are if you were with her for so long it wasn't because she was a heartless wretch and you did love things about her - she's probably a very good person ordinarily but made a mistake...maybe she just felt sad and was looking for something to not feel so sad without being able to express what that thing was. You are going to have to put your whole heart into this if you want the magic back, though. I hope this helps - good luck!
2007-01-27 18:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by think about it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say the grass was greener! My ex was a jerk and my new almost 3 year relationship is WAY better. Wouldn't trade him for anyone.
2007-01-27 07:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is never greener on the other side.
2007-01-27 03:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All divorces and marriages are different but I LOVE being single now. When I first found out about my ex's affair, I sincerely thought I would never be happy again. Now I realize, the whole seven years I was married I wasnt truly happy but I loved knowing other people thinking I had it all. Now, I amTRULY happy and I do not care at all what others think.
2007-01-27 05:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by salinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it seems like the next in line is a better fit but sometimes not so much. Take consolation in the fact that an even higher percentage of second marriages fail than those in round one. ESPECIALLY if they have LEFT for the person in the second marriage.
2007-01-27 03:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass is greener on the other side.i think u must not of mowed the grass to her liking...sorry,,,,u need to sow some new grass seeds of ur own
2007-01-27 03:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by tootsieroll1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋