hide them even if we said its okay to have friends from the opposite sex, his reasons 4 doing this was to apperently not to hurt a very sensitive wife, is this cheating in your eyes.
2007-01-26 19:16:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
fault and blame goes to both parties. he shouldnt hide the numbers if it is indeed just a friend and she shouldnt be so sensitive that he feels he needs to hide them
2007-01-26 19:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Wren Tagair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't done anything then it wouldn't be exactly cheating though it seems like he is messing around in dangerous waters. Sort of like he's playing around, flirting, just to see how far he can go. Setting himself up for temptation can certainly open the door for cheating. By hiding what ever he is doing would seem a might deceptive on his part. Got to wonder about that. To use the wife's sensitive feelings is a lame excuse to justify his shady actions. One thing for sure, whatever he is doing is detracting his attention from his marriage so you know that can't be right. If you two agreed to have opposite gender based friends wouldn't that imply that it would be with each others knowledge? If the wife's tender feelings are causing a rift then it's time for wife to have a serious talk with her spouse. It may be time to speak up and clarify just what is acceptable in terms of boundary's within the limits of your marriage.
2007-01-27 04:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that your marriage wont last another year!
Saying that your husband is okay to 'have friends of the opposite sex' is different than 'making friends of the opposite sex'.
The former was probably meant in the sense that if he ALREADY had friends that were girls then keep them. He is going out and cultivating female friendships.....
why would any married man do that?
that is just asking for trouble
and do you really think that these women
KNOW that he is married and give him their numbers anyway? I seriously doubt it.
If you do, revise the aforementioned estimate to six months!
2007-01-27 03:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Why does he need girls numbers when he has a wife? Why would you even agree to this? It is one thing to have male/female friends at work but to be calling other woman that is just not right when you are in a marriage, there is no reason for this except for a possible booty call.
2007-01-27 03:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, YEAH!! If his hiding it then there's more to the relationship then just friends. I'd find that number and call that heifer up and tell her a thing or two, then I'd tell him I took care of the problem of hiding the number from me. If he had a problem with that I'd give him a problem too. If you don't want to be with your spouse anymore then have the guts to say so, that's the cowards way out.
2007-01-27 04:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes no senses.The husband and the wife agreed to have friends of the opposite sex.If they both agreed to that.Why would his wife be sensitive to this woman being friends with her husband?
If the other woman was nothing more than a friend to him.Why would he want to keep his wife in the dark about this other woman?It has nothing to do with hurting his wife.It has to do with his feelings for this other woman as to why?He hid her phone number/kept his wife in the dark about her.He is lying to his wife about it.
2007-01-27 04:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...that's cheating. There is nothing wrong with being friends with the opposite sex but there's also a line you don't cross. I'm married myself and if he ever came at me with that BS, we'd have problems. His excuse is a cop out. Plain and simple.
2007-01-27 03:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY is he hiding the numbers? That has cheating all over it. He can have female friends as long as i know about them. You really can't choose there friends, but when they get into hiding stuff...then you have to wonder why.
2007-01-27 03:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by ME!! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can call it any way you see it, but he's not being honest with you, and what is he doing with girls phone numbers when he is married to you?
I would want to know, if it was me, who these girls are whose numbers he has been collecting, and what they are to him.
Your husband could just be feeling insecure and wanting to get attention from you, by playing this game.
If you want to stay married, you may want to spend more time together doing things, and being intimate, so he doesn't stray, especially if you have young children together.
If it gets really serious, you may want to see a marriage and family counselor together to try and resolve this issue.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-27 03:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the number one and most important thing is that if he has female friends, you should know all of them. And same for him. He should know all your guy friends. In my eyes it starts getting suspicious if he is trying to hide stuff. Honestly he shouldn't be trying to make any new female "friends" anyways...he is married.
2007-01-27 03:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋