Family & Relationships - 21 January 2007

I met an amazing man a few months back and things were perfect between us. We discussed,marriage, kids and going away on holiday together. Then one day he changed when his daughter moved in,he stopped calling,txting and started avoiding me at work. He explained his daughter moved in and i said i would wait,like a fool i did for two months and then i rang and he said he just wanted to be friends and saying how the age gap was a problem,i think his daughter had turned him against me,how can one minute he explain his never dying love for me and the next treat me like i dont exist?the age never bothered him at first. He also turned down a big job opportunity for me,now he treats me like the invisible woman.

p.s i'm over him but i cant understand the big change?

2007-01-21 09:25:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im 16 and my boyfriend's 18. Im a virgin. He's had around five sexual partners. We've been togather now nearly for 5months. Im not sure if Im ready to have sex, so I've told him Im not ready and he's not insisting that I should. Would he be feeling impatient?
(Don't bother with writing about no sex before marriage, everyone has different views. And Don't bother writing about contraception, I'm know.)

2007-01-21 09:22:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

tried everything to get out of this, but my friends said "A deals a deal" (i bet that philidelphia would beat the saints in last weeks football game)


How do I not get caught?
If Mrs. Kramer sees me, will she be upset or will she think "no harm no foul"
Any more general advice apprecited. thanks

2007-01-21 09:22:39 · 7 answers · asked by thank you come again 2 in Singles & Dating

What is the ideal weight and size for a woman? Let's say she's 5 ft. 4 in., then what weight and size would you want her to be? 115 pounds and a size 2? Would you like her if she was superskinny, thin, or a bit on the heavy side? How about healthy? And do guys like heavy girls? Just like to know.

2007-01-21 09:21:57 · 17 answers · asked by rainbowgirl07 2 in Singles & Dating

We have been friends for almost 3 years and are very close... I know I have strong feelings for him... I'm just not sure... and I think I want to loose my virginity to him... I'm just not sure if it's right because I don't want to get pregnant or get any diseases, I'm just not sure.... and I don't know if he can wait for me, even tho he says he can... any advice?????

2007-01-21 09:21:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

but im realy realy realy shy i can't sing infront of people or dance nothing i get realy nervoice wat should i do to stop that and face my fears.....

2007-01-21 09:21:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband is agood man. He works, he helps around the house and he's great with my daughter. The problem is we married after a long distance relationship. We moved in together and immediately were married. Now that I've gotten to know him, I really don't like him. There are so many things he does that I didn't know about before we married. There's no spark when we kiss. I want to tell him how I feel, but I know he'll leave and I know he has no where to go. What should I do?

2007-01-21 09:21:32 · 16 answers · asked by cadjsm 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have an older sister who's 1 and goes to college (we were homeschooled so she started last year). She works parttime in a pet store with three other people and is friends with a guy. Later that night shes on AIM when he messages her and asks if she'll sell him her beanie babies. She says no because she still likes them and wants to keep them and eventually give them to her own kids. Then for several minutes he begins pleading and begging her for them. She repsonds no several times and then gives him a ebay link where he can buy some. He still continues.

Then he responds with his niece wants them and begins insulting her and calling her names and insulting her. She says let me think about it. (she honesty loves them still and doesn't want to part with them and uses them to decorate her apartment). Then he gets his two four year old nieces on begging her to give them to her. Unable to say no, she feels she has no choice and says yes. What should she do?

2007-01-21 09:20:43 · 6 answers · asked by Erika F 2 in Family

We have been dating for almost three years and he has recently been treating me less romantically. He believes that this is because he is not getting his "friend" energy where he needs it. He says that he needs time to make friends (I am really his only friend) before he can be good to me. I understand his dilemma, but I'm really having trouble understanding why he needs to separate from me in order to make friends. He believes that having a "girlfriend" makes it seem like he is unavailable to other people as a friend. What should I do? I'm not sure he truly understands what it would be like to not have me as a resource or support. I told him that I would like to take a week apart and then discuss either ending our relationship or reconfiguring it in order to make him more available to other people so that he can make more friends. What kind of compromise could this be? Is there a solution where we could be together but he could have the freedom he needs?

2007-01-21 09:20:34 · 3 answers · asked by bananaknit 1 in Singles & Dating

I am a 21-yr. old male married to a 28 yr. old woman.

She has been emotionally abusive to me: she loses her temper, gives me the cold shoulder, has broken objects, thrown away my pots and pans (I love to cook)...

As fast as that can happen, she can love me like a new boyfriend and lavish me with affection and sex. Perhaps thats what gets to me the most: how fast she can bounce between hating me and loving me.

In addition, I'm getting her a green card (She's from Canada). When she gets angry, she'll often make a remark like "I'm only staying for the green card..."

Should I believe her, or is it just anger talking?

In spite of all this, we are usually both happy and loving towards each other. It's just that lately I notice the negative is increasing and the positive is decreasing.

We are both full-time undergrad students.

Any perspectives? Advice?

2007-01-21 09:20:21 · 12 answers · asked by tudn127 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My brother likes poodles, Littlest Pet Shop, and other things-that are mostly for girls. And whenever me and my dad tell him that, my mom chimes in saying "Anyone can play with them". And my brother ends up getting mad at my father and I. He doesn't play with cars-something my best friend at the time and I played with constantly. I'm a 15 year old female. I liked Power Rangers when I was younger. I never really played with barbies. And now that I'm older, I'm a cars fanatic. My grandmother often says I'm "not a girl". I tell her that just because I don't like skirts doesn't mean I'm not a girl. Now, I don't want my brother playing with things like Poodles and naming them "Princess". I've rarely ever seen him play with Power Rangers. He has them-but he doens't play with them. Is it normal for my 6 year old brother to like girl things-things I didn't really like as a kid?

2007-01-21 09:19:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i only been away to college bout 2 hours from home, but i liked it. i had my own rooms. now i wanna get my own apt. but i'm scare to live on my own (don't want NO ROOMMATE). think somebody might breaks in or i won't make it out in da world. why i'm scared and how I can work on that?

2007-01-21 09:18:38 · 20 answers · asked by smartsexycurvy 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

there is this boy at skool that i like but ive already asked him so many times to b with me or if he likes me but he said no. what should i do

2007-01-21 09:18:31 · 16 answers · asked by brunettebabi 2 in Singles & Dating

I am planning on getting married June 2008. I went to look at dresses to day with my maid of honor and the lady at the store said it was too soon to be picking dresses and colors. But I know for sure I want the colors I have picked out and am in love with the dresses. Was she right or am I correct in starting early. I have issues with putting off things i am looking forward too for any amount of time and am already stressing over the planning. Any NICE advice would be appreciated.

2007-01-21 09:18:22 · 20 answers · asked by countrygal87 1 in Weddings

My husband is agood man. He works, he helps around the house and he's great with my daughter. The problem is we married after a long distance relationship. We moved in together and immediately were married. Now that I've gotten to know him, I really don't like him. There are so many things he does that I didn't know about before we married. I want to tell him how I feel, but I know he'll leave and I know he has no where to go. What should I do?

2007-01-21 09:18:12 · 3 answers · asked by cadjsm 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Someone recently told me I was his "madonna". I think it has to do with soulmate?? What exactly does this term refer to?

2007-01-21 09:17:26 · 4 answers · asked by Gizzard 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-01-21 09:16:50 · 10 answers · asked by toni s 1 in Singles & Dating

i am a independent, professional white lesbian. i am shy when it comes to meets girls, so i figured i would post an ad seeking friends. i am looking forward to dating in the future if we are a match. i am honest, laid back, sensitive, caring, goofy and very sarcastic. i am more of a homebody. i am looking for a fem white lesbian between the ages of 25-35. i am not racist just attractive to white ladies.

2007-01-21 09:15:47 · 7 answers · asked by bluekitty 1 in Singles & Dating

Have you ever gotten to the point where you realize that you may not want a fairytale ending becuase they don't exsist...and you may just want to stay single because you don't think there's anyone that compliments you.

2007-01-21 09:15:18 · 28 answers · asked by *Ms Manners* 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been dating my beautiful girlfriend for almost 2 years now. What are some romantic ideas I can plan for the big day?

No huge ideas. Just nice ones.

2007-01-21 09:14:37 · 3 answers · asked by Dax 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-21 09:14:27 · 10 answers · asked by scott h 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-21 09:14:10 · 14 answers · asked by sammy 2 in Singles & Dating

i thought about sending stuff to her work, she loves that. I want to make sure that if i send something to her work, that no one else get anything better. ideas? maybe some nice date ideas too?

2007-01-21 09:13:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

every one says i look really good axcept that my eyes have this i hate you look. how can i change that and one time i was walking through the park with my gf and some lil kid ran into me and i looked down at him and he started crying. my gf says its probly cuz im 6'8 and because i have a really cold eyes.
i found out that alot of people judge me cuz of the way my eyes are i am a cold person alot but i cant help that i look cold too.
my gf says theyer blue green and you can even see them through my sunglasses and contacts dont help at all.

2007-01-21 09:12:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

she gives full consent to having sex, but for some reason she says she doesn't want to kiss

you don't force violence on her or anything like that, but you kiss her anyway, despite her reluctance.

is this rape?
if not, what is it? (sexual abuse?)

why would any girl agree to have sex, but not to kiss?
usually, kissing is considered 1st base and sex is home run.
you can't get a home run without first getting to first base, can you?

2007-01-21 09:12:30 · 11 answers · asked by cambridgebrian 1 in Singles & Dating

O.K. here's the situation. I used to go out with this boy( avery sexy one at that). He had a bad past. He's 15 in the 8th grade(I'm 14 in the 8th grade), He has a little girl, he used to be in a gang, and used to use drugs and live on the street. He's clean now and I love him very much, but my parents found out about him and flipped out. They called, him told him to to back off and told us to break up. He still loves me, and I still love him. The tension between us is killing me. We don't get to talk much, but he stares at me longingly a A LOT!!!! What should I do. I hate my parents for doning this to me.

2007-01-21 09:11:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

eharmony or match.com?
i know that eharmony is free, but is it better then having to pay for match.com? im just asking cuz im kinda curious of how all that crap works....

2007-01-21 09:11:19 · 15 answers · asked by 88 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-21 09:11:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 4 years, and I think I want to call it off. His famliy make me fell 2 inchs tall, his mother is always going on about what i eat and how much wait i have lost a wieght watcher, his dad always slates students (which i am) his older brother always lectures me on how his is more intellegent as he has a degree. And when this happens my boyfriend never sticks up for me.Last night we wnet to a party and we had fun but at the end my best mates ex started having a go at me about his ex, my boyfriend never stuck up and left me to be ganged up on by my friends ex and his new girlfriend.
Today he said he was going to the pub and coming back at 6 which i didn't mind he said he was coming home at 7 when he rang and then rang agin at 9 and said he was on his way. This is the first time he has done this and we have broken up because of this b4 should i finally say it's over. My 21st birthday is on 23rd I don't mind not getting gifts i just want upset

2007-01-21 09:11:00 · 27 answers · asked by Lora 2 in Singles & Dating

im ALMOST POSITIVE y crush likes me but he wont ask me!!!! i think asking him is wrong...how can i get him to ask me!? and why wont he??

2007-01-21 09:10:58 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating