We have been friends for almost 3 years and are very close... I know I have strong feelings for him... I'm just not sure... and I think I want to loose my virginity to him... I'm just not sure if it's right because I don't want to get pregnant or get any diseases, I'm just not sure.... and I don't know if he can wait for me, even tho he says he can... any advice?????
2007-01-21 09:21:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait
2007-01-21 09:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, if your saying that your not sure if you should have sex with him, then you shouldn't. All the reasons that make you wonder about it are very good and very true reasons. So, listen to that little voice in your head, it usually has some pretty good advice. And for another thing, if he can't wait for you to be ready on your own, and not with him pushing you into it, then he's not the right one. He may tell you that he can wait for you to be ready for it, but actions speak louder than words. You're only 13 years old, and you have the rest of your life to have sex. I know this because I was young when I had sex the first time. We dated for a while, and I thought he was the right guy and that I was in love, so I did it. We broke up about a month later and I was heartbroken. I always wish that I would have waited, just to know what it would have been like if I was truly in love. So, don't think that it happens to every girl who doesn't wait, because it doesn't. But it did happen to me, and I don't want it to happen to you.
2007-01-21 17:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you have strong feelings... because you haven't experienced any adult lifestyles yet...enjoy the puppy love to go on and also, go to school get good grades and then go to college and then you will totally think what an idiot you were falling in love with this guy. When you are established and maybe (not likely) RICH you will find a suitable partner..you really should show this answer to your parents because they would agree with me...toatlly....let's hope for the best for you...seriously
remember losing your virginity (please be reminded you could not even spell "losing"..you spelt it as "loosing" meaning you are loose...hmmmm)
If you want to report me for being mean to you...than go ahead..you asked the question and I gave the answer...you can send me all the hate mail that you like..but please get in line and pick a number...I have too many of them:))))
I would suggest...wait and wait....life is so great if you set your goals and achieve them. I am assuming there is no father in the picture right now for you?
Sorry for the big words...I know your only a child and may not understand.
2007-01-21 17:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice to you is WAIT. You are only thirteen, and I know what its like to be a girl at that age. You are easily overwhelmed with strong emotions of what seem to be love, when it could really just be infauation. There's a lot of changes going on with you right now hormonally and mentally and physically, and I dont think you should act on emotions like that. Once you start getting involved with people in that way (meaning, physically), you'll find yourself doing that with the next guy that comes around, when you might not even feel anything for him at all. So overall, I say dont do it because you are too young and, honestly, your hormones are messing up your head.
2007-01-21 17:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by SpectacularVernacular 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think if you do get pregnant you will be with that kid for the reat of your life. If I were you I would wait till I was in my twentys and get to have a good life before I had a kid.Plus if he dosn't want to be your boyfriend just because you won't have it with him then he truly isn't the right guy for you.Sorry if I sound mean I just don't know why anyone would want to do something like that at such a young age.Hope I helped you.
P.S. What would your parents say? Just think about it for me.
2007-01-21 17:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uhm..it's a hard one. You see there's a side of me saying NO WAY, you're far to young and it's incredibly likely you'll regret that one day plus you'll seem like a sl*t to many others; but then again at 13 I probably would have had sex with him myself.
The law says no, but if it were me I would follow my heart.
If you can wait, go for it, but i've been there done that (kinda) and well I know where you're coming from.
If you have sex make sure you use protection okay.
2007-01-21 17:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by claireybearyfairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. You're way too young to have sex. It doesn't matter if he waits or not--you need to wait. #2. At 13 you don't know what you want yet. You're still figuring out who you are. Therefore, it is way too early to decide who you want to spend your life with. Any boy you date right now is temporary. YOU WILL NOT MARRY HIM. Just get that idea clear and base any major decisions on this fact. That way you may save yourself from a broken heart later on.
2007-01-21 17:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by Cali Snow Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you are only 13 so dont loose you virginity!!! I cant say that you are in love but i can say you have realy realy good fellings for him so just keep going out and if you end up like my friend you will be still going out when your 17!!!
2007-01-21 17:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got a question for you? If you are worried about getting pregnant and diseases, why do you think you should do something that might get you pregnant and a disease? There is no risk in having a relationship with him. Why not do that?
2007-01-21 17:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by tweetjj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until marriage, and don't let anyone pressure you into it.
At age 13, you still have a lot of your life ahead of you, and pregnancy and STDs are a risk that you take when you have sex. Remember, no birth control works 100% of the time, and many STDs are not prevented by mere condoms.
2007-01-21 17:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋