What do I do about my juvenille delinquent "lover"?

Question

O.K. here's the situation. I used to go out with this boy( avery sexy one at that). He had a bad past. He's 15 in the 8th grade(I'm 14 in the 8th grade), He has a little girl, he used to be in a gang, and used to use drugs and live on the street. He's clean now and I love him very much, but my parents found out about him and flipped out. They called, him told him to to back off and told us to break up. He still loves me, and I still love him. The tension between us is killing me. We don't get to talk much, but he stares at me longingly a A LOT!!!! What should I do. I hate my parents for doning this to me.

Answer 1

Leave him alone.
He is trouble

Answer 2

I'd probably leave him alone, he's 15 and he has a kid already, it takes awhile for someone to become 'clean' and start correcting themselves and their mistakes. It seems like he doesn't need a new relationship at the moment, he should be taking care of his kid and figuring himself out. Remember, a person can act perfectly normal on the outside, and still can be an emotional mess on the inside, and guys are really good at hiding their feelings, for example, even though he's very nice to you and says he loves you.. there still is a good chance he could be using you.

Until you are 18, my advice would be to stick with your parents, I learned the hard way they're usually right about things because they've had a lot of prior experience, and the times don't' change that much when it comes to people, social situations and people's behaviors.

Answer 3

If he is clean and trying to get his life together that is a good thing, but he shouldn't have a relationship with someone if he's a little unstable. Since you're only 14 and 15, I wouldn't advise putting too much pressure on it... especially if he already has a kid. I know you don't want to hear it, but you're way too young to be thinking about a serious long term relationship. If you REALLY do love each other, he'll understand the need to just be friends, or else he'll show ways to prove to your parents that he's trustworthy. Tell your parents the two of you will hang out with your parents until they learn what kind of a person he is, and that he's nothing to worry about. If they don't go for that, just let him go. Trust me, there's PLENTY of fish in the sea, including ones that don't have such a rocky past.

Answer 4

UH - until you are 18, your parents have the RIGHT and obligation to guide you towards what is BEST for you. I know that is NOT what you WANT to hear, but it's FACT. If you were my daughter, I would do whatever legally possible to keep a 15 year old dude with a past (let alone a kid!) away!!!! LIFE IS HARD - it really is - you are not doing yourself any favors by attaching yourself to a guy who already has attachments!!!! You have MANY years ahead of you - explore, learn, grow - forget this guy and go have some fun!

Answer 5

Young lady.
What do you know about love? Are you infatuated with this guy? Do you want to mother one of his kids at 15? Your parents are right for being concerned. I have been in your shoes. I am now 34. Look for someone who has more to offer. This "boy" either has a bad home/family life or is very impressionable and wants acceptance from the wrong crowd. Does he have something to prove? I know bad boys have a sort of sex appeal. But that is the life that he knows best. He may go back to his ways, just wait it out and see.....
Girlfriend, focus on other things right now. You have many, many years of meeting a good guy. Your parents want what is best for you. Its okay to be angry. You might not understand why they are so in your business... listen to them. They will not let you go down the wrong road. Please, don't willingly go down the wrong road. Good luck!

Answer 6

Ok so ur 14, and your parents are telling you that you cant see thiz boy nemore... well thiz would be a very hard relationship to keep going with your parents not letting you around him. I think maybe you should try to date someone else at the moment to test and see if your love iz real for thiz guy. Plus there iz a good chance that thiz iz only an infatuation and not real love.

Answer 7

I'm going through the same thing!! Seriously!! Just without the child, and we're both fourteen. It's really risky but I am in your position and I haven't broke up with him, we're still together.

Just remember, you have to make sure he really changed, and if he changed, is it for you? I mean you can't be too sure he stopped. If he uninvites you to any parties, it's a sign of what he might be doing. Drugs and stuff.

You know? Just be careful. You gotta make sure he's the right guy for you before you do that to your parents. It has to be worth it.

Answer 8

You are so very young and they are just trying to protect you. That's alot for a grown- up to handle ...let alone a 14 year old eighth grader. If you really want to see him try getting your parents to sit down and have an open talk. Get everything out in the open. But, being more than his friend is going to get really complicated. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Don't hate your parents. They have your best interest at heart. I'd do the same thing if it was my daughter. Trust me, you are only 14, you don't have a clue. Listen to your parents.

Answer 10

Please listen to your parents, they just want what's best for you, they can see what will possibly;y happen to you in the future, and they're terrified! He looks at you with lust, not with love, there's a difference. Give him some time to fully get it together: get into school, graduate, get a job, and if it's meant to be, you'll be together one day.

Answer 11

Listen to your Parents. They dont want u to be the next girl he gets pregnant and bails on.