afraid to move out and lives on my own?

Question

i only been away to college bout 2 hours from home, but i liked it. i had my own rooms. now i wanna get my own apt. but i'm scare to live on my own (don't want NO ROOMMATE). think somebody might breaks in or i won't make it out in da world. why i'm scared and how I can work on that?

i have learning disability so i nervous bout moving, paying bills, etc. just makin it on my own.

Answer 1

It's natural to feel some anxiety when you first leave home, especially when you had your own room and never had to share your space.
A lot will depend if you get a bad first impression your roommate. If they don't strike you as trustworthy - see about getting another roommate or at least give the person a chance.
Meanwhile, you could be checking the papers for an efficiency apartment. Look for one with a security system or doorman if necessary. That is if you can afford it.
If not, come to agreement over space and limitations with your roommate. Who knows once you get past the shock of being away from home and the security of the room, you might find you enjoy having people around.
Stay true to yourself and have fun.

Answer 2

I am the biggest chicken in the whole world, so I can definitely understand where you're coming from! First off you need to take a look at the area you'll be living in and make sure it's very safe. When I moved into my apt., I got to know a few of my neighbors and that helped. I also chose to move into a second floor apartment. That makes me feel safer knowing that someone can only come in one way, the front door. As for worrying if you'll make it in the real world, I think you will. People that are concerned and actually do worry about it tend to make strong efforts to make it work and therefore they succeed. Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all are you financially prepared to move out on your own? Rent isn't the only thing you will be responsible for. There are other bills that come with having one's own place, and if you don't have the money to pay those bills then you're not ready to move out on your own period. If you want to be secur move into a security complex (some are gated, other's have security guards 24/7 others have both but the rent on these types of places is usually much higher), you can purchase a dog for security but then you will have to find a place that allows pets and again there is an extra deposit for the pet that can be as high as the actual rent of the apartment itself.

Answer 4

If I were you, I would stay in 'the dorm' for now, and take a good look at the COST of 'living on my own' ... because you'll have to pay for EVERYTHING yourself ... Rent, Electricity, Utilities (water and garbage), Cable, Phone, FOOD ... and you'll have to 'clean up after yourself' which is everything from doing laundry and dishes to dusting, vacuuming, mopping, and even washing walls and windows. Do you have enough money to do all that? Do you have the time and the skills? THEN you'll be 'ready' to think about 'living on your own' ... and just getting an apartment in a building with 'good security' and being a 'good neighbor' and being friendly with your neighbors, you'll feel MUCH BETTER about 'making it out in the world.' AND GOOD FOR YOU for 'asking this question' because most kid's don't and many 'get into trouble' or 'debt' because they 'think they know it all' when they really are not at all 'prepared.'

Answer 5

Its a good idea before you move to make plans and preparations before you decide to actually do it. Make a list of things that your going to need in order to move into your own place.

Start saving money back in order to move and for expenses like groceries, and household items that you need. If you dont have a saving or checking account now is a good time to have one to help you save and handle your money. Plan out how much money your expenses are and what you have coming in. If you want to go out sometimes or want extra things budget yourself for it. Also plan out for emergencies.

Look at the things that you are afraid of, look at the reasons why your afraid. Are they legitimate reasons? Make a list and leave yourself some space and for every fear you have wrote down, writed down something that you can do in order to put that fear to rest. Be reasonable with yourself and be specific.

If your afraid of someone breaking in, look at the neighborhood that has a watch going on or getting to know your neighbors so you can both keep an eye out for things. If you know a neighborhood is bad stay away from renting a place there!

Maybe you can look for a apartment that has security already set up. You can also make sure your locks work properly and you have locked everything down before you leave and when you come in as well, also locks on the windows.

Make sure you have good lighting as well. Alot of places have Light outside the building so you can see around your surroundings.

If you have everything planned out and the money and the things you need to move it will help you be well prepared to move. good luck!!
Ps If you cant afford to move by yourself though and do need a roomate just set some ground rules ahead of time then it will work out. ;)

Answer 6

Change is really the big roadblock your facing here, not the move itself. I have faced much change in my life and each time i have been able to turn my mindset around to embrace it as a new opportunity for adventure, relationships, and fun. To answer your last question, your independence and your self esteem are only lost if you let them go. Set some boundarys with your parents for when/if you move with them, and if you do move with them, try to spend as little time at the house with them as possible. Your future is yours, and you'll waste your life away if you keep running from change. Hope things work out for you :)

Answer 7

All changes are scary. But if it's what you want, as you said, then you have to just go for it. Know someone close by that you can depend on if you need them....take the proper precations (alarm, dont tell new people where you live too quickly). You'll be okay....we all have to do things that seem intimidating at some point. Best of luck!

Answer 8

Change your thought process. Make it an adventure instead of a scary change. Be prepared. Research neighborhoods, crime rate etc. Get an alarm or get a trained dog to live with you. Either way it's something that you'll get used with time. Think of the freedom and Independence you'll feel with your own place.

Answer 9

OK so you're scared to live on your own so what you gonna do? live with your parents forever?

You'll make it in the world as long as you always try your best & work hard.
Get decent security for your place, a burglar alarm, decent doorlocks and window locks and don't sleep with the window open

Answer 10

FACE YOUR FEAR. There is nothing in the world like waking up that first night in your own apartment, walking to the fridge, drinking a little milk and thinking, "damn... this is my milk, in my apartment and I am the king (or queen) of all I survey."

At some point in your life you're going to have to face the world. It isn't pretty, it isn't always fun but there is nothing like the feeling of independence. Free is a FINE way to be. You'll find that the taste suits you.