Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 4 years, and I think I want to call it off. His famliy make me fell 2 inchs tall, his mother is always going on about what i eat and how much wait i have lost a wieght watcher, his dad always slates students (which i am) his older brother always lectures me on how his is more intellegent as he has a degree. And when this happens my boyfriend never sticks up for me.Last night we wnet to a party and we had fun but at the end my best mates ex started having a go at me about his ex, my boyfriend never stuck up and left me to be ganged up on by my friends ex and his new girlfriend.
Today he said he was going to the pub and coming back at 6 which i didn't mind he said he was coming home at 7 when he rang and then rang agin at 9 and said he was on his way. This is the first time he has done this and we have broken up because of this b4 should i finally say it's over. My 21st birthday is on 23rd I don't mind not getting gifts i just want upset
2007-01-21 09:11:00 · 27 answers · asked by Lora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I refernce to the pub the fact is that the pub is no more than a 30 minute walk and he said he was on his way to see me at 7, thats why I became upset when he rang at 9.
I know I should learn how to stick up for myself but I find it hard, and always have done and I am seeking help through counciling to get over these issuses. I dont want to sound like a sob story but the basics are that I am sick of waiting around for him to come and see me, he is usually drunk or wanting to have a shower which irratates me as he could have arranged to see me later and I could have arranged other plans. And we usually end up at his house (which is at his parents (yet i live with mine too)) watching **** day to day t.v and niggled at when I eat.
2007-01-21 09:39:19 · update #1
Have you sat down and discussed with him about him not sticking up for you?
In any relationship, you have to have communication and honesty. Sit down with him and tell him how you feel. If you don't think he is willing to try to help or put any effort into the relationship, then yes, I would leave him. First talk to him and see. I am sorry it has been 4 years of this. No one should be subjected to any of this. Best wishes to you. Hugs to you and Happy early Birthday. If it doesn't work out between you, then your new year will be better as you will find someone who will respect you as you should be respected.
2007-01-21 09:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get out while you can,there seems to be so many things eating away at you that if you were to stick around they will just get worse.You are still young and you should feed yourself with things that make you feel good,not negative about yourself.These problems will not fade away and you said that you have broken up before and the problems are still there.Good relationships dont make you feel like your are feeling are at the moment.Dont go down the road of tolerating things that eat you away for the sake of having a partner.However,if you really love this guy,you need to sit down and state what you are prepared to tolerate in the relationship and what you are not.Men do find it hard to stick up for their partners infront of their parents and this would be something you would need to learn to accept.You need to ask yourself how much you love this person and can you see yourself a few years down the line with.If you dont then ite time to let him down in the best way you see fit.Good luck in whatever you do.Sit down and weigh up the pros and cons of everything.
2007-01-21 09:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by smiler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has a spine like an invertebrate (that is, none.) If he lets his family and friends slag off on you like this now, imagine what they'd be like if you were married to him.
Plus, men like this are about as supportive as last decade's Wonderbra. If anything bad ever happened to you, like a death in the family, losing a job, financial setbacks, a serious injury or illness, being robbed at knifepoint, etc. - this guy will be incapable of being there for you in the way that you deserve. You shouldn't feel lonely and abandoned within a relationship - a relationship should be your primary source of support!
I agree with everyone else here - get rid of him. Every woman (and man) deserves to be treated better than that.
2007-01-21 09:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by Guernica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is allowed to stay at the pub as long as he wants, at least he let you know. He doesn't answer to you you know!
On the other hand, if you are not happy, dump him. But what do you expect him to do? Get into every fight you are in? And as for his family and you, ok, they don't like you, but do not expect him to get inbetween you lot. He loves you, he loves them, he is doing the sesible thing and staying out of it, he sounds perfectly normal to me, why on earth would he get involved in a row with your friends ex? Why did you get in a row with him? You should have just said it's between you two and walked away. I think you need to grow up a little, and that sounds harsh but I'm not trying to say that in a nasty way.
2007-01-21 09:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The operative be conscious is boyfriend. that's a boy who hasn't matured right into a guy. actual adult males do no longer verbally abuse women. some stay as boys all their existence. Do your self a choose early in existence and are available across a actual guy. they're obtainable.
2016-11-26 00:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years is way too much time to waste on a spineless jerk who is willing to stand by and watch you be treated like a doormat. Break up with him for good, and make sure you tell him it's because he's a pathetic mama's boy.
2007-01-21 09:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a small thing really. If you are with someone they are suposed to be like your best friend. A best friend is there when you need them. If someone is picking a fight with you your best friend is the one that runs up behind you and sucker punches them. If their parents start in on you or siblings your best friend tells them please dont start this and tells them to mind their business and runs out of the room with your hand in theirs.
Now as for the staying out I really dont mind that me n my fiance trust eachother and we know once either of us are out with our friends time tables are hard to set. But it goes both ways if hes out I trust him and if I'm out he trust me. We call and check in but I dont usually tell him exactly when I will be in.
You dont need a guy to have a happy birthday get together with your mates and go clubing all night.
2007-01-21 09:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by ki4ki_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if his family really makes you feel that way then you should talk to him and ask him for a little back up next time. if the pub thing keeps going on ask about it to don't go jumping to conclusions. if he doesn't answer then dump him like the sorry fool he is.
2007-01-21 09:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by The one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why has it took you this long to want to dump the weed! theres nothing worse than being put down all the time. your boyfriends family will never accept you so don't make your life a misery and find someone that will love you for the way you are.
2007-01-21 09:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you depending on him to stand up for you, You have a brain and a tongue so speak up for your self you can only be used as a door mat if you lay down and let every one walk all over you, So grow up and become informed and give back as well as get, Remember you are not a helpless baby you are old enough to have a boyfriend so be mature enough to behave like one
2007-01-21 09:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋