Family & Relationships - 16 January 2007

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2007-01-16 06:02:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have a major problem, i have known my current boyfriend since i was 9 I'm 24 now(my bros friend). we never really hung out until last summer and when we did talk it was like he was a male me and we clicked so we started going out and now he has told his sons mother whom he was in a relationship with for 6 years off and on that he has a girlfriend and he is never coming back, now let me pause and tell you the situation between them well she has three sons 13,10,and his son who is 6 he takes care of all three and i commend that so we don't want to tear him away from them knowing he iis the only father figure thay have, but she does things in front of them and to herself to make my boyfriend feel bad for not coming back home. now here is my problem he wants to be there for the kids but not her and she has cut her self , starved herself, told him and the kids she was going to kill her self, and everytime we are having a good time she finds a way to mess it up. what should i do?

2007-01-16 06:02:05 · 13 answers · asked by vashi p 2 in Singles & Dating

Here is what she wrote:
Tonight the clipped moon reminds me of your toe nails in the carpet. A splinter finding my foot on the edge of leaving. Autumn has given us these dry left overs collecting against the walls.
Out of the house, two blocks further, and the night has swallowed my shadow. The aftertaste of city lights cast me back down to the dead leaves light in the in-between world of not letting go.
There is one last call to beckon me back...The cleft between apartments filled with each windows open offering. Garlic
upon damp sheets tossing, two glasses toasting. How I try so hard to not find you camouflaged in these dark masses, instead
mulishly keep walking away as you stand.Further your squinting eyes to reach me.

what is she s trying to tell me here? please no x for reason answers. i dont know how to respond. she was a great girl but we were too young at the time it has been 4 years later. a year ago she told me she will never talk to me again what is this?

2007-01-16 06:01:38 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am getting remmaried and my exhusband has had nothing to do with my daughter since he left. No visitation (his choice) no phone calls or anything. REFUSES TO be in her life, but refuses to relinquish his last name from her. I just don't want to be a family of six with her being the outcast.

I live in virginia.

2007-01-16 06:01:05 · 18 answers · asked by rothe_jabbuk 3 in Family

i got these two friend and they are older then me and i keep on lying to them.,what do i do?

2007-01-16 06:00:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What areas of your life do you most feel inadequate in?....or are you quite capable?

2007-01-16 06:00:20 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My wife yells and rants and raves a lot about her needs. Ever since we got married she’s been very controlling about what I do (like when I go on a business trip I can’t even have one beer because she “knows what happens on those trips”. FYI I’ve been doing it before I met her and never “hooked up” with anyone on a business trip). When she gets mad, she tells me horrible things like “She needs to talk to my ex. wife because my ex. should have me back because I’m such a problem” or “I just use her to take care of my kids (they are only with us a few days a week. Otherwise it’s her kid all the time) and she’s sick of being used and I’m the last person who will ever use her” or “ I totally disrespect her and that I don’t care about her at all” if I fail to see 100% of her needs all the time. She is a very attractive woman who has a great personality but once you go below the surface there is something from her past that eats at her. I’m starting to realize now why she was single. Beautiful women are usually snatched up pretty quick and she was never married or even dating anyone when I met her (she’s 30). She acts like I’m the worst thing that ever happened to her even though I know that if I wasn’t married to her, I’d have been gone a long time ago. When I talk to her about past relationships, she constantly talks about being used, abused, and so forth and so on. My opinion is that it takes two to make a relationship work and if she said the things she says to me to her previous guys, they probably high tailed it out of there. My question is this: Does she say these things to me because she thinks I am actually the worst thing that has happened to her or is her self esteem in the crapper and she’s threatened by mine? Usually they say that people who verbally abuse say to you what they are thinking about themselves. So does she think she is using me, she’s disrespecting me, she’s thinking I should give her back to some previous boyfriend and knows what goes on in business trips because she’s actually had something happen on a trip? When people verbally abuse, are they really talking about you or themselves? How much should I listen to and how much should I just say “crap she’s talking about herself again. I’m tuning out”? I know sometimes people get upset out of frustration but to listen to her say these horrible things to me like “I wish I would have never met you” and “you’re not a man” then love me again the next day….I don’t know. One thing to add, according to her I have mood issues not her. I never did before I met her.

2007-01-16 06:00:08 · 15 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

As opposed to living together.

2007-01-16 05:59:29 · 20 answers · asked by cece 4 in Marriage & Divorce

is that saying "happy as a CLAM" or "happy as a CLOWN"?

i always thought it was clam.... but she disagrees

2007-01-16 05:59:03 · 16 answers · asked by GirliGirl 3 in Friends

I need some advice, on how to sell this products

2007-01-16 05:58:01 · 5 answers · asked by *Cutie* 4 in Family

He always blows me off - says he will call never does.
So Wednesday, he told me he would talk to me then.
But I have already made plans with an old guy friend. Should I tell him at all?
Or just go out with my friend?

2007-01-16 05:57:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-16 05:56:13 · 1 answers · asked by badcompany4043 1 in Friends

We had a wonderful realtionship and I miss every bit of it. His hugs,his kisses,our dreams hopes and fears, I miss him so badly, I even took a chance dating another guy who looks like him and is the same age.and because I tried 2 use him to pick-up where my boyfriend left off in our relationship, I made a terrible mistake by letting him give me oral sex after knowing him for a week. Now he stops calling, and i'm left with an even bigger void in my life. In addition to regret and I feel like I disappointed and disrespected my late boyfriend. I also feel bad because this last guy leaving me, is replacing the times my boyfriend cheating(it's like i don't wanna get over him at all, not even the time he broke my heart cuz i feel like he isn't gonna come back evr again, so I want everything about him to be left in tact even the pain)
Am I crazy for feeling this way?Its just that I treause everything about our realtionships, the pain and love?

2007-01-16 05:55:40 · 5 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Singles & Dating

In the last 7 or 8 years my dad has been really rough on me. For example, I bought new shoes the other day and the first thing he said was "they are going to look stupid with your pants". Also, I catch him staring at me and when I ask why he's doing it, he says that he wasn't staring, but he obviously is. I'm a good son and we get along alot but he talks down to me alot too. It's like nothing is good enough that I do. What is your take on this?

2007-01-16 05:55:27 · 5 answers · asked by xxbenchxxmarksxx 1 in Family

i was with a guy on and of for seven months who claimed he didn't want a relationship. I told him many times over that i could not be with him and every time i left he would come after me. When we tried to be friends he would get mad and be mean when i refused to hook with him , finally i got fed up and left because i was sick of the games and mental abuse and just generally being treated like his personal call girl . Well he had a few choice words for me . He even went on to tell he would never love me and then claimed he was my friend and wanted to stay my friend , i told him to go hell. A month later he starts calling me and and wants to take me out or wants to hang out and of course i say no . It amazing that after all the **** he did and said ,he thinks its okay to call and ask to hang out . He told me his birthday is coming up , should i even bother saying happy birthday , because although i care about him still , i never again want to be with him and i just want to move on

2007-01-16 05:55:25 · 5 answers · asked by nyasha33 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-16 05:55:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm only 14 but I was wonderin cuz I'm losing mine and I'll probly be without any for a few months at least.

2007-01-16 05:54:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm popular in my school you know,all the guys wanna date me and the girls wanna hang around with me-but-I think it's just pretending.I heard my best friend told everybody that I'm a biatch and that i'm a whoare and stuff and then she hang around with me!!! So now I think the girls just want to be with me cause the guys are always near me and i think that they just want to use me=?

2007-01-16 05:53:10 · 13 answers · asked by glad to help :) 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

I made the biggest mistake of my life and did something horrible. If you want to know im me becuz im not putting it on here. Plz someone help me. I lost someone's email addie and cant find anything to contact them. Can someone plz help me! Help me find this person!!!!!! Plz!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-01-16 05:52:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have been friends for years, but we have become much closer over the last few months. I now share everything in my life with her. We talked a while back about our feelings, but we decided to stay friends due to reservations. Since then, I tell her everything including how I feel about her, and she just acts like it is ok. We get closer all the time as friends, but I cannot help but want more now. Could it happen??

2007-01-16 05:51:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a big crush on this girl and how can i deal with it?
Her and i are 17.
I know her because her friend introduced me to her and we have talked to each other whenever we had anytime.
She is attractive to me, she has a great personality, and a great sense of humor, etc.
Question: i have a big crush on this girl and how can i deal with it?
How can i express my feeling toward her like: i love you, i want to go out and date you, etc.
Just give me the best advice that fits for her and myself PLEASE TRY TO SAY IT IN DETIAL LIKE YOU ARE SPECIFYING IT i am trying not to be harsh!
Here is a secret: i already have her # i just have not called her yet. How can i try talking her for a sleep over so that way i could ask her if she wants to feel the way how i am feeling.
This is what i am feeling about her:
love (sex), dating (going to the movies), i want to talk to her about anything, etc
How can i express my feelings toward her!!!
Although i feel like that i want to have sex with her!!!

2007-01-16 05:51:36 · 13 answers · asked by Sewer Tank 1 in Friends

and they have baby fever and they are bossy and they get all emotional with their mode swings....that is why i love younger chicks.

2007-01-16 05:51:17 · 17 answers · asked by bigboobsucker 1 in Singles & Dating

last night i call my friend and he said that we would call me back in ten minutes he was at the gym and couldn't talk. so an hour or so went by and i hadnt heard back from him so i sent him a text message, which he usually response to right away. i didnt hear anything back from him so i texted him again about an hour later and nothing. then this morning i text him two more times and still nothing. should i be worried or am i just be paraniod?

2007-01-16 05:49:20 · 18 answers · asked by questionsrme 1 in Singles & Dating

which is better individgeuallity ( you know what i mean ) or fitting in?

2007-01-16 05:49:02 · 27 answers · asked by immortal_god 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I catch my self daydreaming a lot about a guy that I like. Is it an indication that I love him?

2007-01-16 05:48:44 · 7 answers · asked by Isabelle06 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

also gift suggestions that cost little to nothing....thanks

2007-01-16 05:48:10 · 13 answers · asked by SNAP! 4 in Weddings

When the school year started this girl I didnt really like much, kept coming over to me and telling me storys, also during classes she would say stuff like "I went to that hotel", "you can build computer, COOL!", But saying I didnt like her I shrugged outta the conversation. Now she nevers talks to me and im wondering, how to attract who over to start talking to me again, I have a crush. I have also found out she is now going out with someone else, and I know I should just leave it alone but, I really want to go out with her. Is there anyway I can stand out and maybe slowly get her attracted to me again so If it dosent work out with her other boyfriend she might consider me? HELP!

2007-01-16 05:47:43 · 18 answers · asked by matthew 1 in Singles & Dating

ok, my fiance and i have been living together for about 10 months...his friend lives with us as a roommate to share the bills. i am a clean freak...when we moved in i told them i dont mind doing most of the house work but since there are three of us i wouldnt do it all. (b/c we arent married yet and our roommate is not my kid-obviously) between the two of them i gave two chores...to load/run the dishwasher and to take out the trash. they wont do it until i turn into what they call "mega *****" sometimes the trash will sit by the door for like 3 weeks and they wont take it out. the dishes never get done and then when someone finally does it they try to blame me for there being smelly mold growing. wtf?! my list of chores that i have no problem doing are: vacuuming, dusting, getting the mail, cleaning the bathrooms, cooking, laundry, making our bed, feeding the cat, litter box, etc. they come home and dont do anything. i work full time as do they...what is wrong with them? what do i do?

2007-01-16 05:47:39 · 17 answers · asked by tinkerbell20 1 in Friends

Hello,im a 16 year old guy and i live in California,i have a friend whos a girl whos 18.Her parents are kicking her out and making her pay rent so she needs to get out.Would anyone find this weird if this happend?Were just freinds and i care for her and i offered her to stay at my place free of charge till she can get a place of her own.Would this be wierd to anyone or anything?What do you think?

2007-01-16 05:46:12 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 22 and my mom and I used to be close, she and I would always hang out together, she would confide in me and i would do the same.We had our little spats but it was never to serious. But now, its as if hell froze over. Sometimes she's sweet. But other days she's awful. She doesnt seem to want to talk as much anymore,she constantly complains that I dont help around the house. which i do, i honestly do! Im sure i can do more, but i dont do nothing!She calls me a little princess, and she says she hates the fact that Im so delicate and not a hands on type of woman. Whatever she means by that. This all started when I got my serious boyfriend. I had boyfriends before but she was fine, she always talked about how rich and successful they were, and now that im dating a carpenter she's different. She also tries to convince me that Im not inlove with him,but i am. It's like she wants to run my life for me.She also keeps referring to me STILL being home.I love my mom but Im so confused

2007-01-16 05:45:58 · 12 answers · asked by pink_starlet84 1 in Singles & Dating