i am looking for two of my children that have never met me.how can i find out if they are trying to find me?

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if they were adopted (assuming?) and depending what state they were born in, can make a difference . If you know any of the following facts, you will have good chance of tracking them down, and can ask them yourself. Uncommon last name-whose name did they take ? If you know the hospital they were born in - they will most likely have a record-the hospital I was born in did and I am 44 years old! Now, in California-Im not sure if federally-you can go to the office of public records in the town they were born and a law has recently been passed where the ORIGINAL birth certificate can be "opened" .When a child is adopted they make a "dummy" birth certificate which puts your adoptive parents as your real parents, and is only available through the state capital Sacramento-(total pain in the ***) , while the real one is right at your local recorder-even the library has it, I think.Social security # would help. Infant's pediatrician or one of the witness's to the birth. In California you can now just call Sacramento and get your ORIGINAL birth certificate. Back when I was born it was very "hush hush" and the birth parents and adoptive parents were urged to not let the children meet their biological parent(s) -because it could cause undue strife to their present relationship and mabey "ruin" their lives.This is told even if the birth parents want to meet or find out where their child/children are. I hope I have helped -Im thinking of doing the same thing - but reversed. GOOD LUCK Im sure your two kids would be thrilled to meet you!