Family & Relationships - 15 January 2007

the reason why he dumped me is cause i act like i'm single (going out on the weekends alone with friends, not coming home til morning, etc..)
and yes..i do admit i do act careless towards him, cause its my life..and i feel like i should be able to do what i please. I guess you can say i'm not ready for a relationship (which i have been dragging on for the last 3 years ^ up)
so after he dumped me again last weekend...i had my heart on moving OUT and ON with my life. but as i was packing up my stuff..he comes crying to me, telling me he didn't mean it =/
now i am really confused! cause i had my heart on movin out and on with my life..but i took him back out of feeling pity =/ and not wanting to hurt him..
i'm so confused right now..and don't know what to feel.
because i honestly can tell you..i am not going to change my ways..so he will be hurt again eventually. should i call it quits?
i feel so terrible for thinking this way >< what would u do?

2007-01-15 12:56:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi,
I've been interested in BDSM and specifically the D/S side of things for awhile now. I'm a dominant male, and a relationship with a submissive female is something that I'd be interested in exploring (I have very little first-hand experience). There's a few problems.
The first is knowing which girls would perhaps be interested in this. In most places, submissives don't go announcing their preference, and where somebody falls on the D/s spectrum is not a normal topic of conversation (at least with the people I'm usually with). Since it's rarely immediately obvious, and it would be awkward at best to directly ask, how is one supposed to go about finding a girl who would be interested in a relationship like that?

And when/if I'd finally find a girl like that, how do you go about starting up a relationship like that, especially since it'd be largely public (I'm in college, and even the dorms are not super private places)?

Thanks for any advice or suggestions you can give :)

2007-01-15 12:56:42 · 6 answers · asked by Cat 2 in Singles & Dating

From day one my relationship with my gf was a struggle. I thought that the reason she kept wanting to breakup was her parents (we r of different races, and are both 23 univ students). But after about a year I sat down and gave some thought and realized the problem was that she was afraid that committing to me would hinder her from getting better things (someone of her own race that has my qualities). I asked her and she said that I am right, but that she is trying to fix this problem bec she loves me. She now says that she loves me and is happy I didn't leave her because of all the stress she gave me and that she is going to be with me now. I just don't trust her. She has said that she has made up her mind so many times before and then changed. This time I'm just afraid to trust her. I've told her about this and she told me that I'll see over time that this time it's true. Should I trust her this time or is she just going to hurt me again?

2007-01-15 12:55:42 · 5 answers · asked by Na n 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

What were the differencs between your gf/bf/fiance(e) and your wife/husband after you were married to them? Examples please, positive and/or negative.

2007-01-15 12:55:34 · 9 answers · asked by ...huh... 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-15 12:55:30 · 3 answers · asked by mercedes c 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-15 12:55:29 · 2 answers · asked by J 1 in Friends

2007-01-15 12:53:41 · 9 answers · asked by Denise A 1 in Singles & Dating

what it would be like to be, like, old and stuff. ya know, like 35 or something.

I wonder if I will pee my pants when I am that old, or if I will have dentures.

2007-01-15 12:53:36 · 15 answers · asked by Lisa s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

At HOME!

2007-01-15 12:52:48 · 43 answers · asked by Jmeシ 1 in Family

not me! my friend says its not weird and so do i but my other friend says it is. like to think your dad was cute when you see a picture of him your age. or think your cousin was hot. etc.

2007-01-15 12:52:41 · 35 answers · asked by mlissers 2 in Singles & Dating

Why is it not OK for guys to look at other women, but it is OK for women to look at other guys?

2007-01-15 12:51:39 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

She's turning 14 and I don't know what 2 get her. She likes Frogs. All help appreciated. She's my hottie and she Rocks my World.

2007-01-15 12:51:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have depression and anxiety. I had a parent die a couple years ago. About a year ago I was unfaithful to my husband. I kissed 2 guys within a 6 month period.
I told my husband about it and he wanted to work it out. We've been trying, but it's hard. He didn't like marraige counseling, so that's not really an option.

I feel extremely guilty and have really low self esteem because of what I did. I was so weak. Our relationship was under a lot of stress at the time and it was so easy to find comfort in another man. My husband was closed off to me at the time because he didn't know how to help me with my depression and it was killing him. There's no excuse for what I did. I know I'm lucky he didn't just leave me.

The thing is, it came out during an argument last night that it still really bothers him. Is there anything I can do to make him feel more secure, and to let him know I would never do it again? When I think about how I almost lost him.. I can't even say how it makes me feel.

2007-01-15 12:51:13 · 6 answers · asked by Dawn 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I mean dissapoint, etc

2007-01-15 12:50:57 · 3 answers · asked by Seerin 4 in Singles & Dating

A guy's gotta protect himself these days.

2007-01-15 12:50:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife and i have been together for 27 years, she is 50 and i 46. I felt we had a good relationship that was built on trust. In January my wife left for a Carribean Island that we vactioned for the last three years. We sold our house and our two kids age 23 and 21 move out on their own. For us it was meant to be a break from the action for a couple of years and see what life was like in another country. In February she asked for me to come for a holiday for two weeks because she missed me. I left February 26th and after a great holiday we were both looking forward to our time in the sun together. It was on March 13th that all hell broke loose. I had quit my post and was ready to move down for good when she said she needed time and space. I knew this was a lie and made my way down anyway and found the inevitible she was with another man a caucasion 62 year old that we used to invite for supper. It has been 9 months and i can't get over what has happened..the betrayal and pain hurts.

2007-01-15 12:49:37 · 30 answers · asked by Glenn B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

me and this guy had sex together for the first time. he was not a virgin, but i was, and he knew before we had sex that i was a virgin. however, the first time we had sex together, he didn't talk much at all, but the second time he talked a lot more, and was physically helpful. he acted like the second time was my first time, and he constantly asked me if i was alright, and told me to tell him when to stop and when it hurts.

what does this mean?

2007-01-15 12:49:34 · 13 answers · asked by lucy aaaaa 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-15 12:49:29 · 13 answers · asked by slimshady50009 1 in Singles & Dating

in toronto

2007-01-15 12:49:16 · 1 answers · asked by lesley b 1 in Weddings

She has this guy and he is a preppy boy that is a jerk to people. I like the girl but she is kind of preppy too but that doesn't matter to me. I want to win her over but I'm not sure how to do it. I really like her a lot and I hate to see her with a guy like this.

2007-01-15 12:48:25 · 14 answers · asked by Joel 2 in Singles & Dating

hey! i'm first year of uni..n after the new year, most of my friends are no longer single!! i am single, n my guy friendz n girl friendz were mostly single so it was ok ..but now..it's horrible cuz they r all in this new n awsome relationships...n i feel soo ugly n unwanted n i feel i will remain single for ever n it's hard to watch them...help me! wat should i do!

2007-01-15 12:48:24 · 12 answers · asked by kitXcat 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-15 12:47:21 · 10 answers · asked by Eddy 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

MY HUSBANDS PARENTS WERE DIVORSED AT 3 AND HIS MOTHER SEEMS TO HAVE BEEN IN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS EVER SINCE, RELYING ON HER ONLY SON ALMOST AS HER PARTNER. SHE LIVES WITH HER BOYFRIEND & HER SON THERE TO PROTECT HER & I FOUND THE CLOSER WE BECAME THE MORE SHE WOULD ARGUE WITH HER BOYFRIEND SHE HASN'T GROWN UP AT ALL AND HAS NO FRIENDS OF HER OWN & SPONGES OFF HER SON FOR FRIENDS. HE SEEMS TOTALY UNAWARE OF THE BAD PARENTING HE HAD & SEES IT AS HIS JOB TO PROTECT HER. SHE CRYS WHEN HE DOESN'T TAKE HER WITH HIM ON DAYS OUT & AS OUR RELATIONSHIP PROGRESSED HER 20 YEAR RELATIONSHIP SEEMED TO GET WORSE UNTILL WE WERE ABOUT TO MOVE IN TOGETHER & SHE HAD A HUGE FIGHT WITH HER BOYFRIEND & MY PARTNER WENT IN TO SAVE HER AGAIN SAYING THAT HE COULDN'T LEAVE HER BECAUSE SHE NEEDED HIS PROTECTION. HE STARTED 2 SUGGEST WE ALL MOVE IN, I SAID I COULD NEVER LIVE WITH THEM BOTH..I AM NOW PREGNANT AND FRIGHTENED OF HER MANIPULATION & CONSTANT EMOTIONAL DRAINING ON MY RELATIONSHIP..HELP!!

2007-01-15 12:46:23 · 18 answers · asked by edith2talk 1 in Family

im a sophomore in highschool. and i ususally never ahngout with ppl my own age. im mature for my age i guess you can say. and well i hangout with ppl a few years older then me. and well one day i met this guy who i find out is a sophomore in college. i told him i was a senior in highschool and 17 but i was 15 . soon to be 16 in a few months. hes 19. but i lied. the more we talk to him the more i like him. i want to tell him, but i really liek him and dont wnat him to hate me or anything or not like me the same all because of my age. age is just a number but i dont know if i should wait until were more serious or tell him now. HELLLPPP!!! i dont want to lose him at all. =[

2007-01-15 12:46:07 · 16 answers · asked by LC 1 in Singles & Dating

My ex-boyfriend dumped me a year ago, yet last week he called me and asked me to go see a movie with him. I went with him, he picked me up & after the movie he just took me home.On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to see me 'every once in awhile'. Why does he wanna hang out and see me once in awhile, when we only dated for one month? By the way, we never had sex during our relationship cuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. We would cuddle, kiss, hug, & hold hands, it was a pure & beautiful thing. Even AFTER he ended it, he would still say hi to me on msn, so we did communicate during this yr. albeit only by msn. We just never met up & he never called me until that day he asked to go see a movie, after the yr. Does he feel guilty for dumping me & wanted to feel better by taking me out or did he miss me & wanna be friends? He's in Asia now, but comes back in one month. Should I ask for coffee one time, but just as friends?

2007-01-15 12:45:17 · 27 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Singles & Dating

if a guy says he loves you and wants to be with you but he calls four times a month or once a week... is he lying

2007-01-15 12:45:00 · 11 answers · asked by proudvegan12 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, here's the scoop. There are these two guys, Jake and Zack. I've like Zack since gradeschool and never stopped liking him. But until this year, he hasn't paid me one lick of attention. Now he talks to me and stuff. But then there's Jake. Jake, he's really cool, really funny, and really hot. We used to hate each others guts, but now I like him, and he isn't mean to me. We joke around and stuff. I wish I knew if he liked me or not. I can't decide who I like more, Zack or Jake. If one of them asked me out, I would definately go out with him. There's one thing I haven't told you. I'm through with confronting guys! I've been turned down too many times! And one of those turn downs was Zack. I'm afraid to talk to him again. And as for Jake, I'm just afraid! I have a lot of classes with him, so if he turned me down I wouldn't be able to stand it. I'm so confused!?! Please Help Me!!!!

2007-01-15 12:44:50 · 4 answers · asked by Look into the Air 3 in Friends

2007-01-15 12:44:36 · 6 answers · asked by leena 4 in Friends

I know my ex's email password and I want her to change them so I am not tempted to check them. It is driving me crazy to look and I know I will someday and I don't want to be some kind of cyber stalker. I can't let her know that I know them? Any help?

2007-01-15 12:44:32 · 9 answers · asked by x98lbwuss 2 in Singles & Dating

woman

2007-01-15 12:43:32 · 34 answers · asked by chav69 5 in Singles & Dating