From day one my relationship with my gf was a struggle. I thought that the reason she kept wanting to breakup was her parents (we r of different races, and are both 23 univ students). But after about a year I sat down and gave some thought and realized the problem was that she was afraid that committing to me would hinder her from getting better things (someone of her own race that has my qualities). I asked her and she said that I am right, but that she is trying to fix this problem bec she loves me. She now says that she loves me and is happy I didn't leave her because of all the stress she gave me and that she is going to be with me now. I just don't trust her. She has said that she has made up her mind so many times before and then changed. This time I'm just afraid to trust her. I've told her about this and she told me that I'll see over time that this time it's true. Should I trust her this time or is she just going to hurt me again?
2007-01-15 12:55:42 · 5 answers · asked by Na n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no i wouldnt
2007-01-15 13:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by imalickyouallover69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being of different races should not have anything to do with it.Being 23 has everything to do with it. You both are too young for a serious relationship. You both have your lives ahead of you and you should get your ducks in a row. A relationship should be the last thing on your minds. Get to know who each of you are. (As individuals) then focus on your future and what you want to do with your life. You may find that you are not meant for each other and that is o.k. You will live without a boyfriend or a girl friend. You might find that you can really enjoy life without all the stresses that go along with being involved with someone.
2007-01-15 21:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by childofgod4_evr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is one the most important factors in a relationship! If she has done this before, the possibility is that she may do it again is scary. You sound like a good guy and maybe you should leave her behind and find someone that will love you for you and not because of the color of skin. You deserve someone much better than this. At the age of 23 the world has endless possiblities in it and you shouldn't want to settle with "okay, i chose you", it's not fair to you! Good luck!
2007-01-15 21:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by lil' miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give completely in to her, but give it some thaught. She may be telling the trueth depending on how long yall been at it if you love her then try to be considerate but if you have a doubt then i suggest you lay back and let time take its course as it does upon everyone.
2007-01-15 21:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Angelia W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep giving her chances, you might never meet the right girl. There are better girls out there and whe u keep givin her chances, youll never meet the right one.
2007-01-15 21:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by Renee C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋