My ex-boyfriend dumped me a year ago, yet last week he called me and asked me to go see a movie with him. I went with him, he picked me up & after the movie he just took me home.On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to see me 'every once in awhile'. Why does he wanna hang out and see me once in awhile, when we only dated for one month? By the way, we never had sex during our relationship cuz he knew that I wanna save myself for marriage. We would cuddle, kiss, hug, & hold hands, it was a pure & beautiful thing. Even AFTER he ended it, he would still say hi to me on msn, so we did communicate during this yr. albeit only by msn. We just never met up & he never called me until that day he asked to go see a movie, after the yr. Does he feel guilty for dumping me & wanted to feel better by taking me out or did he miss me & wanna be friends? He's in Asia now, but comes back in one month. Should I ask for coffee one time, but just as friends?
2007-01-15 12:45:17 · 27 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
On yahoo, 80% of people, (usually guys, but girls say it too) that they think the only reason my ex is back and wants to hang out is cuz he thinks I'll eventually put out for him. But he knows my strict views on premarital sex, so he knows he can't trick me? Can't he just miss me?
2007-01-15 12:47:05 · update #1
it sounds like he respected what you had and things ended good and he respects your friendship. it's a good thing if you can keep ex's as friends it says a lot about your character and his. if he wants sex he'll get it somewhere else. it's not like a year later he's saying hey i think i'll give her a call and see if i can get some. that's just retarded. a lot of people just want to see the worst and be negative. it sounds like to me he wants to be friends. yes you should see if he wants to grab some coffee as friends. i have a lot of male friends and they are very rewarding friendships. he seems to really respect you and the fact you don't want to have sex until you're married. just because a relationship doesn't work out doesn't mean it's because he thought you were a bad person or because they don't like you as a person. sometimes it's just because you aren't right for each other and in those situations why not stay friends? hang out and have fun. until he makes an advance towards you why should anyone think he's after sex? just trust yourself and what you feel is going on.
2007-01-15 12:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 15:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...he has a girlfriend.......are you the kind of person who needs sex? are you the kind of person who can share a partner? are you and your ex over cuz if you get it on you aren't! What are you hoping to get from one more time? And if one more time is good why not two or three? So what is it, are you done with him sexually or not? It might just be better with you? it might be a security blanket for him? He might not be getting it from the new g/f but doesn't want to dump her when he can use you? maybe he is making sure your still in reach so he can dump her? and these are just a few things I came up with. Hell you asked him why and he said "I don't know" surely not a great answer to capture a girl heart!
2016-03-28 23:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by Beverly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should definately be friends. Maybe in the future you both will hook up again. You'll know if he wants sex if he makes it totally obvious. If you enjoy hanging out with him as friends then I think there is nothing wrong with that. You already told him that you wanna save yourself for marriage so its clear to him that he's not gonna get any from you.
2007-01-15 12:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by karenlm215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I think... I believe he doesn't think he can hold out until you guys get married.. and he is not ready for that kind of relationship yet..
However he is probably wanting to keep in touch with you.. now and then.. because he looks at you as a possible... "possible" marriage material for the future...
I have a son who.. stays in touch with all of his past girlfriends but one..
Because he says.. while he is too young to marry now.. he wants to keep his options open.. he always leaves on really good terms with these girls.. just in case. My son just turned 21.. he does not want to burn any bridges.
I don't think my son is the only one who thinks this way.
2007-01-15 12:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Esther J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At first glance, you would think that all he wants is sex. But because of your vow, to no pre-marital sex, I don't think thats what this is about. Maybe he needs a friend, or he misses you. I don't think he feels bad about dumping you. You should ask him for the coffee, because maybe he just wants you as a friend. If you don't, then maybe you'll miss the chance.
2007-01-15 12:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the question is what are his views on premarital sex? If he is for sex before marriage he might just think it would exciting to do a virgin. Guys are always up to something and him coming back around after a year seems a little fishy. Best of luck!
2007-01-15 12:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-boyfriend wants to start back going with you. Otherwise he would not have asked you to go see a movie; he would have asked another female. It's not that he want to see you he wants to be apart of your life i mean why else would he wait a year later.
2007-01-15 12:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by Angelia W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-30 16:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I don't exactly know what you're question is, but I do know this: He doesn't want sex. It is nice (sometimes) to go see old boyfriends && girlfriends just as friends. Go ahead && ask him out for coffee, but not till about...March. Yeah. March.
2007-01-15 13:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋