I have depression and anxiety. I had a parent die a couple years ago. About a year ago I was unfaithful to my husband. I kissed 2 guys within a 6 month period.
I told my husband about it and he wanted to work it out. We've been trying, but it's hard. He didn't like marraige counseling, so that's not really an option.
I feel extremely guilty and have really low self esteem because of what I did. I was so weak. Our relationship was under a lot of stress at the time and it was so easy to find comfort in another man. My husband was closed off to me at the time because he didn't know how to help me with my depression and it was killing him. There's no excuse for what I did. I know I'm lucky he didn't just leave me.
The thing is, it came out during an argument last night that it still really bothers him. Is there anything I can do to make him feel more secure, and to let him know I would never do it again? When I think about how I almost lost him.. I can't even say how it makes me feel.
2007-01-15 12:51:13 · 6 answers · asked by Dawn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think he brought it up in the argument. It was about money.
2007-01-15 12:56:35 · update #1
He will forever be bothered by what you have done. Work on yourself & be positive with him. Why did you have an argument? Did he bring it up or did you? If you did, do not ever bring it up again.
2007-01-15 12:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It just takes time sweetie! You have to forgive yourself for what you have done if you don't how can you expect him to? I know how hard it is to deal with hurting someone you love so much I cheated on my husband when we first met. Its been long enough now to where he doesn't bring it up anymore not even when we fight. I had sex with the man you kissed one there is a big difference there. You were really stronger than your giving yourself credit for because it didn't go further than a kiss. Mostly I think you have to give your husband the time he needs to be mad at you. It well get better I promise it will just give it time. As far as proving you won't do it again that takes time too. You have to take little steps and then bigger ones. Your husband does love you or he wouldn't have stayed with you. Just give him time to heal. Good luck
2007-01-15 21:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by corene D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A kiss, well he should be happy you didnt sleep with them right now, he needs to come to terms with it, then you both need to talk about what the real underlining reason is. His not able to cope or help you with your issues and needs to try to understand your depression, which is not easy. He will have to try to help you and bring your esteem up and try to talk more about you and any issues to come to mutual agreement . Communication is key, thats the number one reason women leave or cheat because men dont talk the time to talk or understand them, or comfort them.. Good Luck
2007-01-15 21:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by P_a94 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't take back what you have already done. Treat him the way you want to be treated and be there. Be open and honest with him. Good luck!
2007-01-15 20:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by swim_chic07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to read this article http://nitzitry.notlong.com/ i found, will be useful also has info on different treatments, natural treatment and depression as a whole.
2007-01-16 20:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by tony l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really -- the damage is done - if he can't get over it - it will always be a trust issue
you reap what you sow
2007-01-15 20:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋