the reason why he dumped me is cause i act like i'm single (going out on the weekends alone with friends, not coming home til morning, etc..)
and yes..i do admit i do act careless towards him, cause its my life..and i feel like i should be able to do what i please. I guess you can say i'm not ready for a relationship (which i have been dragging on for the last 3 years ^ up)
so after he dumped me again last weekend...i had my heart on moving OUT and ON with my life. but as i was packing up my stuff..he comes crying to me, telling me he didn't mean it =/
now i am really confused! cause i had my heart on movin out and on with my life..but i took him back out of feeling pity =/ and not wanting to hurt him..
i'm so confused right now..and don't know what to feel.
because i honestly can tell you..i am not going to change my ways..so he will be hurt again eventually. should i call it quits?
i feel so terrible for thinking this way >< what would u do?
2007-01-15 12:56:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
personally, i'd break up with him. you want to go out and have fun, he seems like more of a babysitter than a boyfriend. it sounds like you've set your heart on being single and having fun, and if you're young, go for it! you have plenty of time to be tied down. don't be afraid to hurt him, cause if you're not changing then it'll just get worse in the future.
it's up to you though. i'd sleep on it and see how i felt in the morning.
2007-01-15 13:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the guy's situation before. By sticking around only because you don't want to hurt him, you will actually hurt him more in the long run. He probably has put up with your behavior because he is scared to death to be alone or being faced with starting over again. Once the realization sets in after breaking up with you, he gets scared and begs you to come back.
I would start by moving out as soon as possible. I think you both need space to figure out what you want. Try remaining friends, but if he can't handle it, than you need total separation for a while. Whatever you do, don't lead him on. It sucks to be the 2 AM drunken booty call, only to get crushed again the next day. Good luck!
2007-01-15 13:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by spaniard1977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, girls who ask question like this sound very very sad and full of misery. But you're a different case. Well, it seems that your boyfriend thought by dumping you he will get your attention after the break up but then he realized he went too far. You sound like you've moved on already, like one day after the break up. If you don't feel like having back your boyfriend as a boyfriend, the best solution to this is just tell him that you don't want him back. But, don't be so hard on him. Tell him that you're not really into commitment and relationship at the moment. It's not fair to both of you if you take him back out of sheer pity. I dunno if you guys can be friends. But do make sure that you guys separate without hatred and revenge cause that's gonna take a toll on you. Hoping for the best for both of you!!!
2007-01-15 13:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Afiq H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with bf for 6 months. I'm not happy and have tried to end it. I dumped him and he wound up calling me every hour crying begging me to take him back. It started to get annoying and made me feel bad. So I took him back....I regret doing so...
Your relationship has been dragging on like that for 3+ years? Call it quits girl...
2007-01-15 13:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you dont care much for him, and it sounds like ur bored of it too. So you like to be independent but you can take him along, do things together w/friends. If you are ready to move on just save the headaches and sit with him, let him know that you are ready to move on, to start a new chapter of your life. But you will continue to be confused until you sit with him and share equally ur thougts and feelings, let him say what he feels and, u say what u feel also. But never be with him for pitty (it never ends well) . Take care and do what ur heart tells you to do.
2007-01-15 13:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what makes you happy. Dump him and move on with your life. Your not doing any favors for him by keeping him around based on pity, and in the end you wil resent him casue he ruined your life when you coulda been doing what you really wanted to do. Put yourself before any guy and you will be fine.
2007-01-15 13:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was in same situation, but for me i ended up marring this guy. and if had to do it all over again i would have left along time ago. i was always worried about how he would feel and afraid of hurting him. but when it was all said and done, he is actually happier now and relizes that we wasn't meant to be. If you are not happy you shouldn't settle or stay with him cause of feeling sorry for him. its not fair to you or him. hate to say this but i figured that out after waisting 17 years of my life with him. but thank god was only married for like 4. good luck in ur decision, but follow ur heart not ur mind.
2007-01-15 13:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Fran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, you have to do what makes you happy, but dont hurt him. He sounds like a good guy, and there are not many left today. Someone may want him, and you may just mess him up for the rest of us. If you know what i mean!
2007-01-15 13:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do whats right why ,stay with him and make him suffer (on you in wondering where u are and such) You should move on and find someone that accepts you going out with your friends and coming home til morning.
2007-01-15 13:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you want to leave the relationship if you could when ya'll were together you dont need to get back with him if he brought pain plus maybe you just his rebound girl and the best way to start fresh is to just say no your not ready to be commited and you need to do your own thing 4 a while
2007-01-15 13:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely cryz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋