Family & Relationships - 8 January 2007

I am just nervous about being in school again at the age of 31. I feel like I really haven't accomplished much in my life. I am divorced, haven't been able to hold a stable job, and I can sometimes compromise my values (such as lie to my parents about losing my last job). I feel stressed out because I am moving to a new house this week, started school, will be working 30 hours per week soon, Getting married next month, and I feel financially strained. I know my fiance has been so dissapointed in me the last few months. I know that I haven't been easy to love, but I keep wondering if he resents me. I have been feeling really insecure lately with him. I also have been experiencing a lot side effects from the anti-depressant I was on. He thinks that I have a weak will. Maybe I do? Whenever I think about this I start to really hate myself. Am I not a strong person? Maybe I just have to prove myself to him, my family, and me. I don't want my fiance to resent me.

2007-01-08 14:44:43 · 10 answers · asked by lc 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, frist you have to understand that i'm still in high school. She says she loves me, and says she won't go out with me, but because she just broke up. I've been waiting for her to dump her boyfriend for a while. She likes to "kiss and tell" if you know what i mean. Whenever she goes on a date it usally ends up turning into somthing sexual, and she tells me all about it. It just brakes my heart to see her go out with these guys that are just going to hurt her after they get what they want, because they think she is "easy." It is kind of true. But i love this girl. Should i go out with her. She has cheated on her past boyfriends. If i go out with her am i just setting my self up to get my heart broken? Please try and help me with this problem. And please dont leave some smart*** remark. This is serious to me.

2007-01-08 14:44:15 · 9 answers · asked by theholy.musiclover 1 in Singles & Dating

Be open....i want all differ answers...thanks

2007-01-08 14:43:41 · 5 answers · asked by I dont know everything ! 2 in Weddings

My fiance is not very happy with my social life. I like to be around people (in a positive way just enjoying life with people) Well, anyways, he thinks that when couples are going to get married they should spend most of their time together and not go out a lot with other people (which I agree with to an extent). I had a work Christmas party (1 hour long and no drinking or anything) that I wanted him to go to but after the party he said that he didn't want to go. I wanted him to go to see me in that aspect of my life and get to know me more and the people I work with. He thinks that is unnecesary. Also, in his opinion, guys only go out to social events if they want to meet or look at other women, even if they are with their loved one.
He also said that it would be nearly impossible to find a guy who would like to go out with me with groups of people or to parties who wants to go for the right reasons.
What is your opinion of couples and how a social life should be maintained?

2007-01-08 14:43:31 · 28 answers · asked by souplane21 2 in Marriage & Divorce

So i met this guy back in june...hes a promoter so we started going to the club he promotes for. We go pretty much every saturday. I always thought he was goodlooking but u know..it didn't mean anything. Back in the begining of December my friends and i had a party at the club and afterwards 3 of us hung out with him and his friends at their hotel. Things started happening. I stayed there for the nite. We DID NOT HAVE SEX, we just made out,cuddled and talked. It was nice. I dont really hang out with him outside of the club....untill this past weekend when he invited me and my friends for food with him and his friends. We had a nice time. He told me to add him to msn and what not. We been talking. Heres the problem. He has a gf. Most of his friends know i'm interested and are not trying to stop anyting. Some have told me to go for him. Hes very FLIRTY with me and none of my other friends. He is a nice guy in general. He used to talk about his gf but hasn't in over a month. What do i do?

2007-01-08 14:43:13 · 6 answers · asked by Katrina H 1 in Singles & Dating

... whats the recommended interval to wait on calling?

2007-01-08 14:42:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if u love someone sooo much be he/she doesnot love u too,just like u so much
if u like someone soo much but this person loves u
who would u choose to be with?

2007-01-08 14:42:34 · 3 answers · asked by Tara 6 in Singles & Dating

i really like him and it seems like he likes me too, how do i find out?

2007-01-08 14:42:16 · 1 answers · asked by candy girl 3 in Singles & Dating

We've been together for 10 years. Things haven't been good for the past three. He's just been spending less and less time with me. Last night he came over and wanted to sleep with me. It's happened before and I thought it meant things were going to get better but they didn't. Last night I thought he was just using me and today I thought that maybe he was just doing it because he felt sorry for me. I can't have any of that. So, we're breaking up but, he just left me a message saying that he was sorry about last night, he was just tired and not thinking especially well..and he asked me how I was. Last night he knew I wasn't happy. So, how should I act now? Since I hardly ever see him anyway, should I just act like everything's cool and just never see him again. He might not even notice for a while. Thanks.

2007-01-08 14:41:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-08 14:41:20 · 4 answers · asked by darkmaterial 2 in Friends

Would you divorce/spilt up, with them or try to help them?

2007-01-08 14:39:28 · 35 answers · asked by Jessica - AKA - Carolina Girl 2 in Singles & Dating

Would you rather the girl to ask you? I mean, I know that it's sorta normally the other way around, but what do you prefer?

2007-01-08 14:39:12 · 10 answers · asked by Captain Oblivious 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-08 14:38:47 · 2 answers · asked by juju 3 in Singles & Dating

I the maid of honor at my sisters wedding and i have no idea what kind of ideas there are for bachelette parties any idea?

2007-01-08 14:38:41 · 4 answers · asked by Krista H 1 in Weddings

2007-01-08 14:38:32 · 6 answers · asked by lonestarlady 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2 months ago, i met this girl who rocked my world. she is everything you could ever want and more. she liked me too, somewhat but was scared bc i was moving away (as i just graduated college and am going back home 500 miles away). so now she is dating someone else. and i am also trying to date other people, trouble is i can't forget her. i keep thinking about how my life would be with her, there is like something missing. i just graduated and always thought i'd be glad for that but now all i want is to go back in time. i can't tell her how i feel bc that would be unfair to her. she wrote to me recently that she has gotten over her guilt (i think for liking me while dating someone else but it could be for hurting mean) and that she is open to whatever i want to write but i don't know what this means. i am the most clean-cut, well-behaved kid but all i want to do is disappear into drugs or something, just to forget. what should i do??

2007-01-08 14:38:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-08 14:38:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Today we were outside and this guy started talking about Love and he mentioned to my crush that I like him and he was like "shut up" in an annoyed sorta tone...is that good or bad? He hugged me 2 weeks ago cuz I got him this very thoughtful present...if it counts! I told him my feelings months ago, he blushed a lot and that was it....

2007-01-08 14:37:35 · 3 answers · asked by HAPPY <3 2 in Friends

I know. It's an odd question. But after the christmas holidays I've been feeling sooo fat. I'm going back to school in 2 weeks and I'm excited to see my guy. It's just every time we get together we hook up and I don't want him to think I don't want to because of something HE did. Can any of you think of any believable excuses for why I can't take off my clothes for another week? I need that time to work out. (I have an ed, so obviously this thinking is distorted. But I just was wondering if instead of criticism and "oh it'll be fine-if he really likes you it won't matter" sort of statements people could give me some actual creative excuses. It matters to ME how he sees my body, even if it doesn't matter to HIM whether i've gained weight.) PLEASE DO NOT ANSWER THIS QUESTION IF YOU'RE NOT GOING TO TAKE IT SEMI-SERIOUSLY. THANK YOU!

2007-01-08 14:37:20 · 26 answers · asked by cooljuly88 1 in Singles & Dating

i get told i'm really pretty and cute and stuff but no one ever says i'm hot. i wanna be hot too. and its not like i'm fat. i'm skinny. but i do actually have curves so it's not like i look unhealthy.

2007-01-08 14:36:42 · 11 answers · asked by ♥♥♫ 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-08 14:36:32 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Singles & Dating

my mom has this crazy thing goin on in her head that i dont love her. i love my mom adn i want to prove it to her. i want to do something for her birthday which is on wed. but what should i do to let her know i care about her?

2007-01-08 14:36:05 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I was spring cleaning the house yesterday night and found out pages and pages of my friends and I messaging one another on msn and yahoo. Dated back since 2004, keep in mind I wasn't aware. so, control freak or just a guy who's insecure?

2007-01-08 14:35:59 · 3 answers · asked by Hyatt A 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm 24 and hes 22. I've been with him for 8 months and he wants me to move in with him. I've been staying with him every night, I just don't have my clothes, toothbrush etc there. I basically just go to work or school then over to his apt stay over and go home the next day. I love him a lot and I know he loves me. Is it too soon? SHould I just keep things the way they are? I'm scared of getting tired of one another.

2007-01-08 14:35:33 · 17 answers · asked by Helen 1 in Singles & Dating

Just wondering how bitter people can become

2007-01-08 14:35:33 · 23 answers · asked by reckontheirlife 2 in Singles & Dating

See me and this guy have been dating for a while, but now my friends are starting to say stuff about us. Example : one said that i'm just dating him for his looks.

2007-01-08 14:35:31 · 5 answers · asked by ArkansasMommy 2 in Singles & Dating

mine is james. i love him to death and he is so cute, and confident, and nice and smart and cool and sexy and funny and silly and crazy and responsible. i love him sooooooooo much and i'd give anything to be his woman. but it will never happen (sigh)

2007-01-08 14:35:28 · 2 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Singles & Dating

my best friend is cheating on her boyfriend and hes my friend to and i like him what should i do

2007-01-08 14:35:25 · 2 answers · asked by Taylor R 1 in Friends

This happened to me a couple times. when i am talking to a girl on the phone, i hear the aim sound over the phone so i ask her if she is on im and she says yes. i dont like it when a girl is on im while talking to me since she is alll in to the ims and not consentrating on me + half the time she is quiet and i am quiet, and it seems like she is not intrested in me. i want to know what should i tell her?
and also what is usually going through her mind when this is happening? what do you think of this whole thing all together?
PLEASE HELP IT REALLY BOTHERS ME AND I WANT ADVICE!

2007-01-08 14:34:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I find this pretty weird.

2007-01-08 14:34:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating