I know. It's an odd question. But after the christmas holidays I've been feeling sooo fat. I'm going back to school in 2 weeks and I'm excited to see my guy. It's just every time we get together we hook up and I don't want him to think I don't want to because of something HE did. Can any of you think of any believable excuses for why I can't take off my clothes for another week? I need that time to work out. (I have an ed, so obviously this thinking is distorted. But I just was wondering if instead of criticism and "oh it'll be fine-if he really likes you it won't matter" sort of statements people could give me some actual creative excuses. It matters to ME how he sees my body, even if it doesn't matter to HIM whether i've gained weight.) PLEASE DO NOT ANSWER THIS QUESTION IF YOU'RE NOT GOING TO TAKE IT SEMI-SERIOUSLY. THANK YOU!
2007-01-08 14:37:20 · 26 answers · asked by cooljuly88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jeez this is hard. I didn't mention this is a new relationship and I've been taking it slow in the revealing-personal-details department. I don't want to scare him off. So I'm not planning to tell him about the ed or even the body issues. The only thing he does know that's pretty personal is that I took a year off of school for depression so I used feeling depressed as an excuse when he wanted to come visit me this break.
2007-01-08 15:02:14 · update #1
Tell him the truth about your feelings. Let him know it's YOU and not him. Because by continually putting him off, he will get suspicious that something happened over the holidays.
2007-01-08 14:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by nkroadcaptain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question to answer without saying, "oh it'll be fine-if he really likes you it won't matter". Because, really, that's the right answer.
Or maybe it's, "Aren't you too young to be taking off your clothes?"
However, could you try telling him the truth? If you lie to him, he'll probably know that you're lying, but won't know why. He's likely to think it IS him. Does he know about your ED?
If you can't do that, and must, absolutely, have to lie to him, use the parents as an excuse. They wanted to spend more time with you, you had to clean your room, your grandmother was lonely, your brother was acting weird, they wanted your to study in your time off, etc., etc.
2007-01-08 14:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jean Talon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't love the lying idea, and if you really do want a straight answer, I honestly think you should be honest with him. He does love you right? He'll give you time that you need. Tell him that it's not exactly wanted from you right now and you need some time to gain composure and that. All of us have that feeling of being fat over Christmas break - I feel the same way! But my guy doesn't really care. Heck he actually feeds me more chocolate :P.
But if you love this guy, don't lie to him. Because if he found out, he'd be very hurt that you didn't tell him the truth - the truth he wouldn't even mind.
2007-01-08 14:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by qtshakeshake93 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about the abortion. You shouldnt have kept it from him in the first place. You guys should have made the decision together whether or not to keep the baby or not. Now he will feel as if he has no say in what goes on with you two. Not only will he be mad, but if you just lie to him he will think something else is up.
2016-05-22 21:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best excuse a female can use for not wanting to take her clothes off: I am on my period. That is all you have to say, and it sounds like you are pretty self-concious about your body: if you two are serious enough, I am sure the truth wouldn't hurt anything.
2007-01-08 14:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by aSchway 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the truth. You don't feel comfortable about your body image and would like to take the week to exercise, and it would undermine your self-esteem if he insisted.
Surely he must understand and respect your feelings otherwise you may be in a relationship where he is controlling you.
2007-01-08 14:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by ThinkaboutThis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not follow anyone's advice to be honest. Do not tell him about these concerns no matter how badly you may want to. If you start with that insecurity bullshit, it will be the beginning of the end. I think the best suggestion is from the people who said to do it in the dark or with candlelight.
2007-01-08 14:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you feel fat and would be embarrassed if he saw you.
BTW, if he wouldn't want to see you because you put on some weight, I think your relationship is not going very well.
2007-01-08 14:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, dun worry. I guess you could say (if you could be really personal with him) that you're having your period or you're being forced to spend time with your family XD. Maybe you'll need to "study" for back-to-school exams. Hahaha, hope you feel better about yourself. Just remember that he won't think negatively about you because you're already his girlfriend. :)
2007-01-08 14:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him how you feel. be honest. tell him you want to, but you want to feel great about yourself when you do it. let him know it is not him and you know it doesn't matter to him what you look like, but that it matters to you. i don't know if he will understand. guys seem to be touchy in those areas, but i think honesty is your best option. good luck!
i liek anettes idea too
2007-01-08 14:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by Tracie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋