I'm 24 and hes 22. I've been with him for 8 months and he wants me to move in with him. I've been staying with him every night, I just don't have my clothes, toothbrush etc there. I basically just go to work or school then over to his apt stay over and go home the next day. I love him a lot and I know he loves me. Is it too soon? SHould I just keep things the way they are? I'm scared of getting tired of one another.
2007-01-08 14:35:33 · 17 answers · asked by Helen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you can't decide for yourself, then i would say no. things change when you live together.
2007-01-08 14:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by dude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about you staying there for a week or two as a sort of trial period to see how things would go. You have a lot you need to discuss like having personal space within the shared space, having friends over, shopping and cooking, and consolidating if you both have a decent amount of something like kitchen utensils or furniture. Do you two keep opposing schedules? Do the dishes in his sink or the fact that you leave underwear on the floor (for example, not saying you do!) become bones of contention? Trying it out and working out the kinks before committing to something you can't back out of is probably the smartest thing to do, and I'm sure he will understand that.
2007-01-08 22:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man, I feel your pain in some ways you think; yup would make life so much easier etc etc but on the other hand you like having your independance too. My bf and I live alone seperately and sometimes we think we're crazy but when we need our space it's great. If you have to think so hard about it perhaps you're not ready yet. Once in the past I moved in with a bf and had my own room that worked too! Sorry I couldn't be more helpful!
2007-01-08 22:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Nightflyergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the heck not. You said you're there everyday anyway. Wouldn't you be tired of eachother by now? BUT if you're hesistant then don't move in. Just be honest and tell him how you're feeling. There is nothing wrong with being hesistant. It's actually a good thing because you're less likely to jump into something and regret it later on. It's up to you and you don't have to do anything you don't want to.
2007-01-08 22:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by azjen77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i would not move in with him. because there is always that chance that you two could get into a huge fight and break up or something. also, living together too early also causes some couples to fight alot. if you move in with him you might start noticing things about him that really annoy you. you should wait and if you two get married then i would move in. but hey its your decision, as long as you will have a place of your own to go back to if anything happens between the two of you. Good luck on your decision, and i hope you make the right choice.
2007-01-08 22:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by hotty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first even though u know him 4 8 months u should still get to know him alot bettter u know his family what he does and stuff . Moving into together is a big step. if u take 5 big steps forward u might get pushed twice as much steps back and go back witha broken heart. plus u have to work things out and make big sacrafices for eachother. thats just me tho so be happy live a healthy loving life as long as u can before u get pushed back
2007-01-08 22:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Animal Luver 4 life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there many moons ago. But I was the boyfriend in this case. My opinion is dont move in. Let things be for now and see where it goes in a year or two. Basically, you guys are too young.
2007-01-10 00:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by landsharks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES AND YES!!!! I was going out with my bf for six until he asked me to move in. It's so much fun. Now we are engaged to be married. I think everybody should live with thier bf before they get married. This is so that you know if you are really and truely compatable. Oh yea Ive been with my bf now for 2 year.s GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-08 22:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until it feels like the right thing for you to do. Don't move in because of pressure. If he loves you, he will patiently wait. It is kind of soon to move in together.
2007-01-08 22:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this MOVING IN anymore? What's wrong with getting married if you love each other? There are legal ramifications of not being married. Old shipmate of mine had a son who was living with a girl. She was involved in an auto accident and was in ICU. He was not allowed in...FAMILY ONLY. She died with out him being allowed to see her again.
If he gets tired of you and kicks you out, where will you go? Think, think, think.
2007-01-08 22:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question it probably is too soon. It is ok however. If you are really in love, you'll be living together soon enough. Peace.
2007-01-08 22:40:14 · answer #11 · answered by jandracu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋