Family & Relationships - 11 December 2006

I'm in a relationship, we've been together for about nine months. Right now, I am not sure if being in a relationship is the right thing for me. I feel I have some other issues I need to work on, dealing with the deaths of two close people and other personal issues. Is it a bad thing to take a break and deal with these issues and once they've been dealt with, possibly continue our relationship? Or am I just better off breaking up and ending it. My idea for the break is to set a 3-4 month time limit and once that time is up, sit down with each other and see if we can make our relationship work or not. I have no intention to go out and date, I specifically need some "me" time. Please give me some advice/opinions.

2006-12-11 20:19:03 · 10 answers · asked by Meg P. 1 in Singles & Dating

She has husband who doesn't support.
She works and supports with her parent's help.
She owns her own home (not sure if its paid off).
She has changed careers to boost her income.

She is showing interest in a relationship.
She expressed she wants to get married (in general).

Looking ahead I am wondering...

How to structure a relationship and/or marriage with her financially?

Any experience or ideas?

Obviously if I care then I will want to be fair and do my share.

What would you see as FAIR ON MY PART, and MY SHARE in such a relationship in relation to her and the kids....

1. Premarital and
2. After marriage

in the areas of

1. Our common expenses/assets
2. Her personal expenses/assets
3, My personal expenses/assets
4. Her kids expenses
5. Expenses of future kids we have (if any)


Seriously thanks for your help!

2006-12-11 20:18:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my girlfriend have been together for three years, our relationship has been based on stricktly love. Now we're ready to have sex. Im a virgin and we've tried like 8 times to have sex. I get aroused all the time around her but when we're both hot and heavy and clothes come off, and its about to happen, I get nervous and I go limp. Can someone tell me why this keeps happening? Im getting frustrated and my girlfriend is really getting frustrated and I dont want this to become a problem. CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME SOME GOOD ADVICE?

2006-12-11 20:18:29 · 16 answers · asked by Jacks 1 in Singles & Dating

I know she's a virgin, but I want to make sure she is protected when she starts dating and doing the wild thing

2006-12-11 20:18:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My gf recently told me she is 4 years older than I thought she was (42 not 38, me 37). I had to pull the truth out of her about this by confronting her about it. She cried about it and said she did it because I had said I wouldnt want to be with someone several years older than me (ok, maybe that impression came out). We became close&she says she never corrected her age because she was afraid to lose me. I believe this and know she loves me very much but this lie is so heavy on my heart. I asked her if she had more lies about herself she needed to tell me and she says she has an older brother and 2 older sisters. Huh? She had always told me she was the eldest! Turns out her older brother was abusive toward her and family, one older sister is a drug addict and the other wasted her time in school(like that's a reason to deny her existence). She says she doesn't consider them family so she made up these lies? Is the woman I fell in love with a pathological liar or just weak in character?

2006-12-11 20:17:50 · 8 answers · asked by Delightful123 2 in Singles & Dating

He hates computer games if this helps.

And he has an ipod already. I don't want to buy Gift vouchers. help!

2006-12-11 20:17:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

PLz im 2 FaaT ... i want 2 do ex ... and walk but no Time .. i dont know whay ?

2006-12-11 20:17:36 · 3 answers · asked by FaT_GiRL 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-11 20:16:39 · 10 answers · asked by Jobet 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i feel like im always singled out by him, without any provocation on my part. one day i feel as if i'll just stop speaking to him, and move somewhere where i never have to see him again, if thats what it takes to stop being treated that way

2006-12-11 20:16:04 · 7 answers · asked by Playdint3 1 in Family

Hello,

I am in grave need of help (hence the name)!!! I would love to give a friend of mine a great present for the new year. She is Hindu, and this is an aspect of her life I would like to touch in giving her a gift. I have very strong feelings for her and would LOVE to touch her heart with this. The only problem is I'm clueless and frustrated! I've lost sleep over this and thought I would take it to the wonderful world of the web! I would appreciate it, with all my heart, of a kind person out there would give me some advice. I live in New York City(if that helps in any way?). Also, she is a twenty year old marketing major that enjoys reading and REALLY loves shoes and jewelry. She has the most beautiful smile, and I want this gift to bring it out in full effect! This is really important to me, so I would forever appreciate any help thrown my way.

Thank you for your time and understanding!

2006-12-11 20:15:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

jason and i have been talking and we liked eachother. but i started really liking his friend brian. i told the truth and told brian i like him. i shouldn't have told him because it was way too early. but he said lets get to know eachother better but after a couple of days i told him lets just be friends because i thought i was going to get hurt. he called me when he got back from florida and asked if i can come out but i already had plans for that day. how can we get to know eachother better if we barely call eachother or hang out? could it be that he is testing me by keeping a distance because he thinks he might end up like his friend jason? or am i just wasting my time?

2006-12-11 20:12:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

OK Ladies, here it is. Are you aware or do you have any idea of how many hearts you break when you tell your best male friends that you just want to be friends and that's all? Does it bother you that they truly love you? Why do you sell yourselves short? Do you feel yourself unworthy of such devotion? Don't rationalize or make excuses for your actions or your feelings. Just answer the questions.

2006-12-11 20:12:07 · 9 answers · asked by Monsieur Rick 7 in Friends

Ok, I spend too much time having sex. I have it alot. I do it in many different positions. From buttom, from below. Although I am getting tired of it. Because it makes me too tired. Do ya feel me or what? After I am done having sex each time with my hand, I close the porn sites and wash my hands after having sex with them. What do you think?

2006-12-11 20:12:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What is the best way?

2006-12-11 20:11:57 · 9 answers · asked by ? 5 in Weddings

talk to a girl he fancies, and is a friend to, in a sarcastic way?
also to be really nice when alone with me?

2006-12-11 20:11:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I really dont have an older brother, but I have been having the same dream for about a week now. When I have the dream he just comes through the door, and says to my mom that he is her son. He is about 16 or 17 years old. Its been scarring me cause Ive told my mom about the dream, and she thinks I am crazy.

2006-12-11 20:10:57 · 7 answers · asked by Krista k 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-12-11 20:10:45 · 16 answers · asked by ? 5 in Weddings

but won't say it?also,why do they sometimes deny it to their friends?but flirt with you like crazy when they're alone with you?

2006-12-11 20:10:32 · 5 answers · asked by brian c 1 in Singles & Dating

My best friend’s older brother is 19, and I am 17. He is still living at home since he goes to community college, and works close by his parent’s house.

He’s not real open about girls he likes, and is really into video games, cars, and stuff like that so he doesn’t really spend much time with girls other than when I’m over, or when his sister’s other friends are over.

He kind of seems to like me; he shows off a lot when I’m around, and sometimes teases me or smiles at me. But I can’t tell if he just thinks of me as a little sister.

I’m going to be over at their house tomorrow doing homework, what are some things I could say to get an idea of how he feels?

2006-12-11 20:08:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you like going out with guys about 35 or so? If so, how could a guy like this attract you?

2006-12-11 20:08:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

One of my friends has just started to date someone new. He was really nice and they have been goin out for about 2 months.I had thought he was really good for her until one day I saw him with another girl.I was on the other side of town and I saw him in his car with another girl and they were kissing each other...I don't know how to tell my friend what I saw.She really likes this man and I know she will be heartbroken if I tell her. What can I do?

2006-12-11 20:07:04 · 24 answers · asked by dcutegirl06 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-11 20:06:01 · 7 answers · asked by bharti s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok here is the situation. My friend went back to the states and left her appartment to some other friends they trashed the place and almost got them kicked out when i told her that her husband had me kick these people out he is in Iraq so he couldnt do it. Now these peoplehappen to be accointances of mine and they treat me like i did something wrong to them although they all have a place to go. If i wouldnt have gotten involved my friend and her baby wouldnt have been able to come back to germany cause she wouldnt have had a place here. Now where did i go wrong did i make a mistake or why are they treating me so differently now.

2006-12-11 20:05:09 · 6 answers · asked by purple butterfly 4 in Friends

.i love a guy since 4 months.he too loves me .but he has an x. we have talk to each other only a few times.in d month of october he has again proposed to his x but it seems dat she told she is in love with an another guy .after some days another boy named kiran started loving me .then my lover dint talk to me .he dint even show a sign of love .i was really fed up and i said my frnd to ask him wheather he loves me or not .when my frnd asked him , he said "dont talk abt her and y r u just talking abt her and torchering me?"den i dint talk to him.den my frnds too asked him a lot and a lot of times weather he loves me.but it seems dat he wont even answer .it sems dat he will just say "i dont know".den on dec1 he atlast asked me directly wheather i love him or not .i said yes .den it was fine but sterday he asked my frnd wheather i love dat kiran.she said no .but he was keeping onon asking to her..wat should i do now ?should i go &tell dat i dont love anyone or leave it like dat

2006-12-11 20:04:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you know a girl and you want to know if she really like you or love you or no...

2006-12-11 20:04:16 · 9 answers · asked by Shadow OF Death 1 in Friends

why cant the shoe be on the other foot.your input will be greatley recived.

2006-12-11 20:03:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

mother get it at 11 i wanted to have it like otjers my friends talk about me and ask my date. i say i have no they dont talk me they say ypu are not a man neither a woman

2006-12-11 20:02:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-12-11 20:02:34 · 8 answers · asked by phyro 1 in Singles & Dating

how would u know if u r too afraid to tell?

2006-12-11 19:59:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-11 19:58:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family