Me and my girlfriend have been together for three years, our relationship has been based on stricktly love. Now we're ready to have sex. Im a virgin and we've tried like 8 times to have sex. I get aroused all the time around her but when we're both hot and heavy and clothes come off, and its about to happen, I get nervous and I go limp. Can someone tell me why this keeps happening? Im getting frustrated and my girlfriend is really getting frustrated and I dont want this to become a problem. CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME SOME GOOD ADVICE?
2006-12-11 20:18:29 · 16 answers · asked by Jacks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way im 24 (Yes a 24 year old virgin get over it)
2006-12-12 06:42:21 · update #1
Don't worry, it's just nerves. I think the problem is that you are basically falling under her "trap" to have sex and rushing too much into it. You'll know when you're ready and you won't get as nervous because you'll feel like you want to do it. Until then, don't have sex and just wait it out and see. If she really loves you, she'll stay with you and see beyond the sex.
Good luck! ^_^
2006-12-11 20:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you people?! He is only 16! First of all you are nervous because you know you are wrong. You are not mentally ready for this. The responsibility of a sexual relationship. What about pregnancy? Are you ready for that? You are still a teen! A teenager for goodness sakes! Wait! Don't do it. There is a time and place for this and this isn't it. Ever think about abstinence until marriage? That should take the edge off and then you can enjoy your wife all you like with out the stress and worries. I wish you other adults out there would watch out for our youth. Come on! Help just one!
2006-12-11 20:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get drunk or slightly merry, because it will help you loose your inhabitions. because the problem u have now, is that u are getting used to this happening. So your brain almost expects you to go limp! and the more this happens the better you'll become at going limp! not what u wanna hear now i know! So get drunk, u'll be relaxed and and ur brain will forget to make u go limp. And you'll feel great afterwards cus u managed to keep it up. So when it comes to the next time, your be ready to go! and wont need the drink to help you!
Come on son!! Got my fingers crossed for you!
2006-12-11 22:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Craig L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey guy u have a problem that u r not mentally ready for sex. first get urself mentally ready for it that think abt enjoying it.before having sex u r thinking whether i will be able to satisfy her or not.u put ur extreme effort and see the results.
bye have a good luck
2006-12-11 20:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you're no longer waiting. And that she isn't the two. Neither of you're sufficiently previous to even comprehend in case you're waiting. If she breaks up with you given which you will no longer have intercourse along with her you would be nicely shot of her.
2016-10-05 05:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't recommend pre-Maridel sex but if you must.....before intercourse maybe try something else, fellatio, or a HJ....or if she doesn't mind being on top, try that, even if you aren't erect you will be shortly once she gets going.....although its not for men under a certain age there is always viagra right?hmmm
2006-12-13 21:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Matthew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a mental preparation before proceedings and don't be fast when doing. Take ur time and go ahead as you like there is nothing to worry...
2006-12-11 20:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not ready to have sex slow down you have a life time for sex because good sex there is foulplay befor sex and when youre ready you body will lets you know good luck
2006-12-11 20:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be nervous first of all just be your self & do the thing. nothing to be ashamed of.
Try this - Make love with lights off. (effective for beginners)
try to read some kamasutra thing styles & arts you can learn.
2006-12-11 20:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by CLoud9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you she won't leave you so don't worry about theat for a start! If you can't get it up do things for her instead! (You know what I mean!) Then without thinking about it you'll probably get hard again and then you can just do it!
Good luck!
2006-12-11 20:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋