I'm in a relationship, we've been together for about nine months. Right now, I am not sure if being in a relationship is the right thing for me. I feel I have some other issues I need to work on, dealing with the deaths of two close people and other personal issues. Is it a bad thing to take a break and deal with these issues and once they've been dealt with, possibly continue our relationship? Or am I just better off breaking up and ending it. My idea for the break is to set a 3-4 month time limit and once that time is up, sit down with each other and see if we can make our relationship work or not. I have no intention to go out and date, I specifically need some "me" time. Please give me some advice/opinions.
2006-12-11 20:19:03 · 10 answers · asked by Meg P. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're asking, then you already know that you probably need a break or a breakup.
2006-12-11 20:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER a bad thing for some "ME" time. Your partner should completely understand, especially with two deaths! Although it may be somewhat offending they should understand. As for break or break-up, I would leave that up to your partner. It depends on what they want at that point. Whether they want to try and wait for you, or continue dating. TALK IT OVER! That's the only way you'll know what will make you BOTH happy.
2006-12-11 20:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you do need some personal time, but time off can be tricky. All i can really say is if you do decide to take a break, decide beforehand if youre going to see other people, etc. because that alone can ruin a relationship while taking a break...
2006-12-11 20:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by Christines256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard for me to answer cause my ex needed time cause of a similar situation.(death of close friend and other personal growth issues)I loved him so much and respected his situation so I gave him the time he needed even though i didnt understand why he couldnt do it with me still in his life.In times like this,i believe that you need someone to comfort you and guide you and so he found someone else.Not intentionally but slowly that person took my place.And whilst i waited for my true love to come back to me,he slowly slipped through my fingers.I lost him, and found it hard to forgive myself for letting him go.I guess we just werent meant to be.This was about 6 years ago and even though i've truly moved on,I still find it so hard to accept the way it ended.It really hurt cause i thought that if i loved him and gave him his space,we would be truly happy once he overcame that rough patch in his life.Hope you make the right choice!
2006-12-11 20:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3-4 months is a lot of "me time" to need... If I were on the other end, I'd be thinking "you want me to wait 3-4 months before you decide if you want to continue seeing me... great." I'd just break up with her now, as amicably as possible, and stay friends.
2006-12-11 20:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow me time is always a wonderful thing when you can get it in, but to break it off for some months i wouldnt but it imagine how your mate would feel aand the things you are opening up gor him to do in those months time what if he does the unthinkable and have unprotected sex get a chick pregnant would you be able to cope with that? love is not to be played with you can find you some me time at the gym go check out all the hott bodies lol but you can find me time in the steam room at the park you and you alone im pass due for me some me time with all of my problems hanging over my head but i wouldnt say lets call it off for a few months no way gl p.s the steam room lol
2006-12-11 20:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a good idea to take a break. sometimes, distance makes the heart grow fonder. but its also important to think that sometimes its best to keep that person by your side for the hard times. talk to them and tell them what you've told us. a little break may be what you need to get over this. tell them that right now you dont need a lover/boyfriend. tell them what you really need and want right now is a good friend to talk to. if they dont understand this, then im sorry honey but thats not the type of person you need around you right now
well i wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-11 20:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by ~*LoSt*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to assert it yet sure you ought to, for now a minimum of. you could tell him issues are not understanding and that i imagine we ought to continuously cut up and spend your time faraway from one yet another,yet in case you 2 grow to be friends like genuine friends then it is your selection in case you opt to pass back out. And who's conscious you may locate somebody else even more desirable ideal because NO female ought to wade through a nasty courting and also you deserve more desirable ideal.
2016-10-18 03:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone can't be supportive to you in your grief, or they're smothering you with their own needs, they're not the right person for you.
2006-12-11 20:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don\'t think it\'s necesary or yes or not
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2006-12-11 20:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋