One of my friends has just started to date someone new. He was really nice and they have been goin out for about 2 months.I had thought he was really good for her until one day I saw him with another girl.I was on the other side of town and I saw him in his car with another girl and they were kissing each other...I don't know how to tell my friend what I saw.She really likes this man and I know she will be heartbroken if I tell her. What can I do?
2006-12-11 20:07:04 · 24 answers · asked by dcutegirl06 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should tell her. My friend took a risk and told me and I appreciated it because it kept me from looking like a fool. Of course it hurt but not knowing would have been worse. Be prepared though. You don't know what kind of hold this man has on your friend. She might turn against you and say you are lying but it will be her own denial. You have to take the good with the bad. If you are close she will trust you and know you wouldn't lie to her about something like that so I think you should tell her.
2006-12-11 20:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Tina S 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would make sure you are right about what you saw. After two months,I would hardly call this a commitment. So what? Maybe he did kiss someone else. Is your friend engaged to marry this guy? Are they committed? Nothing says a guy can't play the field if there is no comitment. I think i would leave it alone and let your friend find out for herself. Maybe what you saw was just a passing thing. just because someone kisses don't mean they are in love.
2006-12-11 20:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If possible than try to find out more about the situation. Sure you saw the guy kissing…but if your friend likes him so much, then try to find more about the guy and the girl you saw. Remember! There are always two sides to a story. On hindsight it may seem that he’s a cheating SOB but maybe he made a mistake and is shameful about it. But if you can’t do that, then I suggest that go with your gut and as a good friend tell your friend about that cheating bastard, she may be hurt at first but its better now than after when she gets even more deeply involved.
2006-12-11 21:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
After having those concepts particularly some circumstances in my lifetime i visit claim 2 issues: a million) allowing the criminal to be certain your pal chuffed and transferring on is type of a slap contained in the face. and a couple of) karma somewhat is the baddest *****. Chin up, it's going to all artwork out.
2016-11-25 22:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As her friend you are obligated to tell her what you saw. You have to leave it up to her to make the decision whether or not to stay with the guy. You can offer her the suggestion to leave him alone but some people need to to play with fire and get burned before they believe it is hot.
Continue to be there for her through whatever may happen.
2006-12-11 20:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by velveeta00 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a friend you have to do what has to be done. Tell her about her boyfriend. If she insists saying that her bf is a loyal guy who won't cheat, show her some evidence. Try following her bf, record him with another girl if possible like kissin. Show it to her. As a friend maybe you could do this I hope. BYE!!!
2006-12-11 20:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by theguy932 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You just have to tell her, and be there for her, just be there and let her know youve got her back. Its worse if you dont tell her or tell her too late, its bad enough to be cheated on, but way worse if its been going on a long time and everybody knows about it except her, she'll feel like a fool. You can also volunteer to be near her when she confronts him about it, it will show that you stand by her and is willing to defend her from this creep.
2006-12-11 20:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell this to her:
As difficult as it WILL be, you need to walk away. Making yourself vulnerable to him and coming off as needy is really not the way to get someone back. If he doesn't love you, nothing you say will change that. I would let him be and go on with your life. Even if you never forget him, it's best to let him go.
2006-12-11 20:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First you have to be sure it was him, and not someone you though it looked like him. be %100 sure.
Then if you are sure it was him, tell her and say look this is want I saw it was this day and at this time. and that's it,
don't make any other commits like his a jerk or want ever, let her deal with the rest.
2006-12-11 20:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her, the only thing worse than telling her is not telling her...but she will probably want to find this out for herself and she may never get to. Explain to your friend's boyfriend that you saw what he did, and if he doesn't get his act together his *** is gonna be sorry as hell!
Good luck! ^_^
2006-12-11 20:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋