Family & Relationships - 29 November 2006

I feel bad all of the time for the way I feel about it. I went to see him in a play at school, he is larger than the other kids because he is 11 and in the 2nd grade. Tthe most disgusting thing is that he is one half black and one half white. I never thought that I would have one of "those" . I wanted a white child but screwed up and got this black woman pregnant when I was younger. PLEASE DO NOT HOLD THAT AGAINST ME...I WAS DRUNK AND COULD NOT TELL SHE WAS BLACK.....i tried to get her to abort but she would not...I told her that alchohol would cause birth defects....I tried to find drugs out of the usa that would abort the child but could not.... The WORST THING IS THAT HE HAS THAT REALLY CURLY HAIR THAT BLACK CHILDREN HAVE......and it is horrid. The kid is a sweet kid but I can not longer look at him.. He is trying but I can not any longer. Now my wife is pregnant with another mans baby....God only knows what "it" will look like or be.

PLEASE HELP ME>>>>

2006-11-29 09:55:26 · 18 answers · asked by toplessone1970 1 in Family

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2006-11-29 09:54:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

have mother in law that lives with us and takes care of the household and kids she does lots of good things,but i cant live with her in household any more it looks like my marrige is nightmare,i dont live like i used to.she is with us 3 years and no intention to leave.it gets on my nerves but i dont know how to get rid of her.Help.

2006-11-29 09:54:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

ok now tht i got ur attention my real question is WHY do girls put up w/ **** from guys?? them always going to strip clubs and thinking grinding on other girls and watching other girls strip and giving them lap dances and **** isn;t cheating. and i know wut u guys r gonna say going to strip club isn't cheating well if any ordianry girl w/o pay did it 4 u it'd be cheating so wut's the diffrence when it's a job? nywayz, and looking at other naked girls in ponro having posters and magazine and falling for i love you's and sweet talk when u know hwo they r and just want sex and u now trhey really wanna be playboys and live out theri fantasies and being w/ other hot girls instead of u even though they r (y guys?) and all tht other kind of ****! and they're sexist too thinking we shud be housewifes and thinking feminsim is gay and just want us to be their sex slaves w/ a bunch of other girls instead of really wantinf us (again the fanatsy prt) oh and guys cud u also answer my last two quest

2006-11-29 09:54:06 · 15 answers · asked by mamama 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-29 09:54:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i really like this girl i told her she said she cares she ignores me sometimes and says she isnt in a "talkative mood" so i didnt pay as much attention as i normally do and shes like one word answering me and is like giving me a stingy attitude so what does that mean and what should i do help plz?

2006-11-29 09:53:46 · 6 answers · asked by NOOB 3 in Singles & Dating

the day before thanksgiving my bf decided to break up with me.he said it was because he had doubt about a lot of things.he's a freshman in college and i'm a senior in high school. So after he used this "reason" i didn't believe him because i figured that he just wants to play around while he's there and i told him that i didn't want to see him again. later, he told some mutual friends of ours that he didn't trust me but he wanted to talk to me.they also said that they asked how i was doing because he wanted to know. he's even tried to contact me through facebook and even one of his friends, who had a part in the break up tried to request me as a friend through the site. i happily declined. for me, it seems like he wants to be friends to make himself feel better about everything. when we broke up he hinted at getting together again in the future. i told him that i never want to speak to him again. lately, i've wanted to contact but i don't want to be the one who caves. Advice?

2006-11-29 09:53:46 · 4 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Singles & Dating

Its not my child in question its my boyfriends 7yr old daughter who feels she has the right to choose for her dad when he can get married, when we make plans together she will decide she wants to go to a movie out of nowhere and he will break our plans to take her, her mother does fuel this and poors on the guilt to him that he is neglecting his daughter, although he is the custodial parent and she just has been given right to have unpsupervised visits,grant it its his fault because he allowed her ie., his child to be this way out of feeling guilty she will feel unloved and unwanted, she adores me and loves me but feels she has the control to make that decision. I have a child as well from a previous and I do not feel he has the right to tell me who and who not I cant be with or marry for that fact, What do you think? Should a 7yr have that power and right to make decisions on who their parent wants to marry or give the go ahead on the decision?

2006-11-29 09:52:49 · 17 answers · asked by brite star 3 in Singles & Dating

me and my bf just broke up and i dont want him anymore cuz hes such a jerk to me now (ignoring and all to me and is telling lies to ppl left and right acting like an ***) hes not the guy he was while we were going out but like i still cant imagin being, kissing, hugging, talking on the phone with another guy, and i hate imaging him with another girl or even seeing him talk to another girl. is this normal?? what should i do? like i guess i still could have something for him but its out the question cuz our parents wont let us be together (thats the truth why we broke up, his mom hates me viceversa cuz we got introuble and his mom blames me 4 everything...but he is telling ppl he got sick of me...hence the *** thing)but anywayz. he doesnt want me back and is a coward so wouldnt go aginst his mom. so what do i do. it hurts seeing him and knowing we dont have what we did, but i need to move on from him so is what im feeling normal or what? and what should i do about this whole situation

2006-11-29 09:51:56 · 15 answers · asked by Ladyjack12 2 in Singles & Dating

I am in my mid 20's married, and have been with my husband for 5 happy years. We own a house, have college degrees and have enough money to support several children.

We have traveled and feel ready to have a baby. My mother hates the idea of me getting pregnant, her excuse is that she wants me to wait until I am in my 30's to be a mom.

Is she jealous of me because she had two children by 22 and was divorced when she 24? She also had no education and was struggling when she was my age.

Is it that she doesn't want me to have children or is that she is jealous that I have a happy marriage and I am well off. Will having a child mean she has nothing on me anymore?

2006-11-29 09:51:28 · 15 answers · asked by PrettyWifey 2 in Family

i love my boyfriend with all my heart, but im 18 years old and i want to be able to hang out with friends, and do my own thing when i please. not on his terms. i live with him so he feels hes in complete control of me, i just want to live my life and be a party animal while i still can before i grow up and have to be a serious adult for the rest of my life. he doesnt have much of a life for himself, other than me, which is why its so hard for me to just tell him. but with the way he thinks, i know when and if i bring this up, he will think im trying to break up with him and just want to be single to mingle and do my own thing without him...but thats not it at all.....on top of that im sick of all my friends being able to buy nice clothes for themselves etc, and i have to worry about grocries and rent bcz i live with my boyfriend who always needs help with the bills...please someone help me i love this guy but i cant be with him without losing myself......

2006-11-29 09:51:20 · 22 answers · asked by samsam 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ex-girlfriend dating a close friend of her ex's friend.

2006-11-29 09:51:04 · 2 answers · asked by sweetladytease 3 in Singles & Dating

We have only been married ten months. We had a fight over something stupid (I don't even rember what) but he went out and got drunk with some friends(who for the record have wanted to do a threesome with him) while he was drunk at their house they planned a way to get him involved and he had sex with the women. I don't know what to do, I cant' afford financially a divorce but my trust is no longer in him. Help

2006-11-29 09:50:55 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

he talks to her alot he does not think he does first she said she never married then she says she is she comes on line when she gets out of work and my b/f will stay on line with and vise versa til they are to tierd to talk any more the longest that i know of is 5 hours and i guess whats up i told my b/f her husband must be sleeping with his secretary because his wife is always on line with my b/f and when i say anything to him about it he gets very defencive about it and gets MAD and takes it out on me and tells me i am a idiot please give me straigh answers

2006-11-29 09:50:24 · 3 answers · asked by Bianca H 2 in Singles & Dating

i know really stupid, old question, but i have a problem with being to staight forword, so i'm wondering if theres some other way i'm supposed to go about asking

2006-11-29 09:49:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My hubby is going on a business trip tomorrow for one week.I am pregnant with my 3rd but he would not even touch me or show me any affection.He treats me like the volunteer live in housekeeper/babysitter.I know he has other women in his life and its getting really hard not to go ballistic about it.I love him very much.Now he wants to pack his suitcase because he's going out.When Iasked him where he said to mind my own business.
I use to be so sharp tongued and that had once gotten him to end his first affair but now its like he just does not seem to care about how our family will be affected by his behavior.He hasn't touched me in months

2006-11-29 09:49:09 · 33 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-29 09:48:19 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda S 1 in Singles & Dating

I really don't know the guy I am getting married to, it is our tradition that our family select the perfect groom for us. I am in love with someone else I have been with him since 8 months. He loves me too but he works in a sensitive politic position that he is not aloud to get married to any lady that has a parent from certain countries, as my mum she is from one of these countries, we can get married. The thing is till when we will be like this??? I am just confused I need some advice.

2006-11-29 09:47:32 · 13 answers · asked by JO JO 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She said she would stop and she did but im still worried b/c anther friend cuts like crazy. And she is always talking bout death and skulls. Its so deppersing!

2006-11-29 09:47:28 · 8 answers · asked by Emo_Gurl™ 2 in Friends

Sometimes married people form friendships that are not 'work related' with peope at work without the knowledge of their spouse. I have heard of SOOO many infidelities coming out of these situations and I feel they are innapropriate. What do you think?

2006-11-29 09:47:11 · 19 answers · asked by Bet S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-29 09:46:28 · 15 answers · asked by gustavos girl 1 in Friends

2006-11-29 09:46:00 · 4 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Family

I've been seeing a lovely guy for a few months now. He has a 17 year old daughter whom he soon wants me to meet. He said she will probably ask me alot of question like past boyfriends etc. I know this is to be expected but i dont like being put on the spot with questions as i have social anxiety. I am worried i will embarass myself or something. I am also 22 and her dad is 42 so i think we will both be very nervous meeting one another.

2006-11-29 09:45:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am currently in the process of a seperation, her decision not mine. She had pulled away from me and from our son for a few months while I was starting our business and was not working. This caused many fight and led to me getting some serious depression, which lead me down very dark path in my life and I had said and done things that were very hurtful to our marriage. My wife has recently told me that she does not love me and that she has not been in love with me for a long time and that is why she has been pulling away. She had metioned alot of our "small problems" that had been occuring for the past 3 1/2 years and has told me that she beieves that she was acting that way becuase of her inablity to show love. We had split and both moved on a few years ago and she came back to me out of the blue and I took her back. So my question is if did not feel any love towards me why did she come back in the first place and why didn't she leave before we got married, had a son, etc?

2006-11-29 09:45:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i've been friends with sam for as long as i can remember. we talk on aim alot and keep in touch but, now that we're at college we dont see each other anymore. im looking foward to seeing her over winter break and want to get her a sweet gift. i was thinking of getting two rings one for me and one for her so that we're always connected. is that cool, lame, or what? i think shes going to get me a nice winter hat we saw last time we hung out.

2006-11-29 09:44:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i can never tell if a guy likes me cause they flirt with you but that can just be a friend thing but when a guy kisses you more than once what the crap is that like come on its pissing me off cause ive liked this guy for so long and he never use to pay much attention to me before but all of a sudden hes kissing me and its a tease cause ive liked him for so long and stuff im being hurt andi don't even know if its worth it i need to know his name is luke culuchie and hes so hot but he is just like other guys they never tell

2006-11-29 09:44:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My 2 boys 13 and 15 have been residing in Florida for the past 2 and 1/2 years and when I told there father that I would be picking them up he filed papers so that I could not take them out of the state. I have sole and legal custody of them and have raised them except for the past 2 years. He has spent months in jail for domestic violence against me in California. What are my options?

2006-11-29 09:44:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-29 09:43:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my best friend betrayed me. i was in love with a guy. i expressed my feelings for him to her. i mean everything. then one day i find the most devastating letter i could. the letter basically said that she had been sleeping with the guy i was in love with for over a 4 to 5 month span. i was angry but i forgave her. we moved on and remained best friends. then months later i find that she is still up to no good. i want to forgive her and become friends again. but the thought of her being with him just makes me want to vomit and die on the inside. she just acts like my feelings dont matter and that she is going to do what she wants regardless of how it hurts me. should i let her go or should i try to get back to where we used to be?

2006-11-29 09:43:44 · 9 answers · asked by DropdEadGorgEous! 2 in Friends

my best friend/ex-girlfriend/ONLY friend is moving to FL from NY. and ive told her EVERYTHING like i mean everything and noone likes me at school and i am ALWAYS with her at school and i dont really have any other friends until i get home b4 and after school and i dont think i can survive @ skool w/o her!!! this is going to be so tragic!

2006-11-29 09:43:25 · 2 answers · asked by zachary.sweet 2 in Friends