my best friend betrayed me. i was in love with a guy. i expressed my feelings for him to her. i mean everything. then one day i find the most devastating letter i could. the letter basically said that she had been sleeping with the guy i was in love with for over a 4 to 5 month span. i was angry but i forgave her. we moved on and remained best friends. then months later i find that she is still up to no good. i want to forgive her and become friends again. but the thought of her being with him just makes me want to vomit and die on the inside. she just acts like my feelings dont matter and that she is going to do what she wants regardless of how it hurts me. should i let her go or should i try to get back to where we used to be?
2006-11-29 09:43:44 · 9 answers · asked by DropdEadGorgEous! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can forgive all on your own. You don't need for forgiveness to be sought from you. Seeing how you've been betrayed, been made to feel your feelings don't matter, I'd question you on your reason as to why you'd want to be friends with anyone whom you'd allow to make you feel that way. I'd question you as to why you'd even entertain considering remaining associates with anyone whose lacking consideration for how or what you feel, as s(he) shows that s(he) is going to do what she wants regardless of your or anyone else's feelings.
Do you or do you not feel that your feelings do matter to yourself, and do you or do you not feel that your feelings should or shouldn't matter to your friends and/or family? I mean, are you or aren't you and your feelings and thoughts worth consideration? It's a matter of respect. Whenever you respect yourself, you show consideration for yourself. Whenever you respect yourself and include others, you show yourself as being respectful. You deserve people who are just as respectful in your life. Putting you down, in any way, shape, or form, is disrespectful.
You should talk to this person about respect, because that's what there's a lack of, and respect is what this is really all about. Be careful about who you give the honor of referencing a 'friend.' Let go of what or whomever is unhealthy to you and your well-being, but try to maintain relationships that prove to be fruitful.
2006-11-29 11:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving her is good, you have the right attitude about this. But a true friend wouldn't do that. So, basically although you've forgave her, you may not be able to trust her. Chances are she'll do this time and time again. Now, although she is friend, your boyfriend was the one with the committment to you.....so he's more at fault. Like the cliche' says,"It takes two to tango". Hopefully you've forgiven him too, and also dumped him, since it's obvious since he can't be true to you. My advice is to stay friends with her, but find another friend you would consider to be your best friend. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-29 09:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will desire to forgive. there is relatively no factor in preserving a grudge. To be honest, your friendship probable only isn't an identical besides. so which you forgive and circulate on at the same time with your existence. the two one in all them probable only isn't as widespread on your existence. it is complicated to forget approximately those issues, so the relationships would be plenty different. Your no longer being immature. They have been to have accomplished this to you. in case you chosen to no longer forgive, i think of you're definetly justified, regardless of the undeniable fact that it would desire to experience extra effective to in basic terms enable it circulate.
2016-10-13 09:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should forgive her with all your heart and dismiss her as a friend in all regards. The bible says cleave to that which is good and abhor that which is evil. To hurt someone is considered evil.
2006-11-29 10:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is how your friend is going to be everytime you tell her you like some guy, I wouldn't even call her a freind! Kick her *** to the curb and move on hun!!!
2006-11-29 09:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kat S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a up to no good, you said it yourself. You can't trust here and you shouldn't want to.
If you want her to keep making you ill then try to forgive here.
If you want to be happy then wise up and understand that some people are just dogs and useless.
Take your pick
2006-11-29 09:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by ABYSS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to forgive someone who betrayed you? Especially someone who betrays you often, dismisses your feelings and makes you sick. Move on- she's a jerk.
2006-11-29 09:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need a new best friend
2006-11-29 09:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by quitoslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is totally up to you!! i would just let it go. but do what you are comfortable with!!
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-29 09:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋