have mother in law that lives with us and takes care of the household and kids she does lots of good things,but i cant live with her in household any more it looks like my marrige is nightmare,i dont live like i used to.she is with us 3 years and no intention to leave.it gets on my nerves but i dont know how to get rid of her.Help.
2006-11-29 09:54:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you be polite
she is your spouses MOTHER and so live with it.
show her to the nearest motel if she has no intention to leave.
have you even asked her to leave?
n e way, she can't stay aganst your will
2006-11-29 09:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never said under what circumstances she came to live with you. You say she takes care of the household and the kids and she does a lot of good things. It seems that she's paying her way. Does she interfere with your life? Does she tell you what to do? Does she spend your money or do you spend hers?
Just think about what your household will be like without her. If she does so much, then someone will have to do the stuff that she helps out with after she is gone. If you throw her out, there may be hard feelings, or maybe she's just waiting to be asked to leave. The best thing would be is to open a line of communication. It's best to be honest, but be prepared to lose her help altogether in the future.
2006-11-29 10:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone else in the family that she can live with? If so, talk to them - tell them you need a break. If there isn't, ask her to help you look for another apartment or room. Or tell your spouse that you will together take her to look at some places. It's worth a try. I moved clear across country to get away from my mother-in-law.
2006-11-29 10:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she sick or elderly? You and your significant other should seek counsel and discuss another residence for her. You have surrendered your position to her through your children and now she is manipulating the situation. You are going to have to find someone else to babysit and reclaim your authority.
The best way to handle any asinine person is with kindness. Be extra nice to her and your spouse! When you married, it was to each other. In laws can be a pain, but they are part of your extended family and be straight forward about it.
2006-11-29 10:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. sounds like my worst nightmare came true for you...
have a family meeting and set some ground rules.
Probably speak with your wife first and then make a list of stuff that bugs you.
Do it in a calm manner and be open to hear their side too.
2006-11-29 10:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Super 21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your husband, you're able to a minimum of TOLERATE her... in case your husband is the only baby she has; you're in for the long haul! She seems at you because of the fact the guy who took her infant away. i do no longer care in case you come across a treatment for many cancers AND the chilly, she'll in all hazard declare you merely ruined the careers of medical doctors. no longer something you will do is going to be impressive in her eyes. it particularly is until eventually at last you're making her a grandmother; then she would be throughout you approximately a thank you to be a much better mom, what she did whilst your husband exchange right into somewhat one, etc. etc. permit your husband understand what's happening and PLEASE do no longer positioned him in the middle or make him decide for between you and his mom... merely you're able to be friendly once you're all jointly. If she visits, merely count variety the days until eventually she leaves; and in case you bypass to her... insist on staying at a lodge!
2016-10-04 12:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and tell her that you love her and y our glad shes around but you and your family need your own space you need privacy and as much as you love her being there its time for her to find her own place. try having my mother in law she lives 2 hours away and is a nightmare (but i still love her)
2006-11-29 09:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to a real long skinny house, with a long hallway and a rec room on one end and a living room on the other...
then where ever she is you can go to the other end of the house,
2006-11-29 17:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your wife, maybe the two of you can get a way for a while and come up with a good solution.
2006-11-29 09:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a bitchy witch ? I can imagine what you are going through if my mother in law came to live in my house i would do whatever it takes to get her out !!!!!!!
2006-11-29 09:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by liza 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋