Family & Relationships - 26 November 2006

I am preparing my getaway plan to leave my abusive husband of 12 years. I am taking my 2 chidren 6 and 4 with me over my mom's while I get on my feet. I am unemployed & looking and I have job skills. Should I be concerned about taking the big things with me because I don't want to have to come back. He hasn't been physical in years but he intimidates me with the verbal and mental abuse hollering in my face, calling me names, shaming me). He threw away all of the clothes he had bought me and now I don't have much to wear. My mom bought me some outfits and boots. He has taken all the money out of our joint account and opened a new one. He doesn't know I have access to it. He has about $950 in there and he makes about $900 a week and gives me about $60 a week if that. Our mtg is 7 months behind yet he orders from ebay and tells me to go over my mom's and leave him the f alone. Should I take money out of bank for us? He says he won't give me anything until the courts make him.

2006-11-26 10:55:48 · 35 answers · asked by Veronique 3 in Marriage & Divorce

GUYS COULD YOU ANSWER THIS ONE please?
do you get nervous around women you like...i texted this guy i use to date we dated fora bit he was really into me although at first he said he thought i was a little scary..and was frightened to approach me..basically i was having a difficult time at work and it was right guy wrong time i could not give him the attention i should off also i was so upset about work and i was bottling it up well i just acted really wierd..Anyway its been 7 monts and i texted him to say sorry for my erratic behaviour and jokingly said 'do u still think i should be locked up?' He replied and he said "Dont worry about it. It doesnt matter. Glad u and u friends can laugh at it. Take care" what does this mean should i text him and ask him for a drink ...i really like him...if u were in his shoes what would u think if this girl asked you out..he approached me initially on new years eve and his friend said he had been starirring for about 40 mins before he came up to me...what does that say about him??HELP

2006-11-26 10:55:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have two brothers their cool but you can never tell them secrets they are total blabber mouths! They are bothe annyoing they are 2. 2!!!!2 I say!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But they keep me company.

2006-11-26 10:55:10 · 7 answers · asked by Joa 2 in Family

My biggest problem in life is that i just can't losen up.. Its just not in me .. No matter how hard i try .. i just can't do it.. Im too Picky.. Im fun around my friends ... But i won't give a guy a break.. At this rate I might just endup being lonely 4 the rest of my life.. And that is too scary ...Does anyone else have the same problem as me??If yes how do u guys cope??

2006-11-26 10:55:01 · 5 answers · asked by julia1975 4 in Singles & Dating

Last year I went to Disney with my aunt, 2 cousins, and my grandparents. This year it'll be my aunt, my 2 cousins, my grandpa, & my cousin and his wife. My cousin Katie and her sister-in-law, Coral are going and any time they get together they leave me out of everything. They include everyone else except me. My mom suggested that I just tell them that I'll be busy with college and can't go but I think I should tell them that I feel left out. I don't know what to do. Suggestions please!

2006-11-26 10:54:31 · 8 answers · asked by Lucy 1 in Family

A guy is interested in you, do you straight up ask him or are there signs?

2006-11-26 10:53:45 · 11 answers · asked by me 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-26 10:52:48 · 9 answers · asked by roy070267 4 in Singles & Dating

i broke off a 3 year old relationship just 3 months ago because i was afraid of getting married!she was a wonderful girl,good family,educated,good looking,understanding.but my fear of marridge just drives me away.

2006-11-26 10:52:27 · 8 answers · asked by R.A. 1978 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was raped by my b/f's friend. My friend says not to trust ne guy. We are 16.
Is it wrong to trust my b/f when I fall asleep in his arms and know that he won't want more?? Is this too much trust/too much to expect from him??
My friend says that no 16yr old boy can sleep with only his arms around his g/f and not cop a feel or ne thing. Is she right??

2006-11-26 10:52:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We are both young. I have known him for 2 years and we will be making our first anniversary next year. I love him, but lately he seems so distant.

2006-11-26 10:51:15 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

just wondering what everyone thinks about this?

2006-11-26 10:51:01 · 22 answers · asked by Mr. X 1 in Singles & Dating

this is they boy i talked about in my other question (if u havent see it please fing it and try to give and answer) ok after we had sex and we broke up i feel this need to wan to do do it again and i can be doing anything and this feeling comes over me and its so strong and i feel like i need in in me and the sex was good and all but i mean damn i trying to get over him but i am craving for him sex what can i do to chage this. and just to show u how strong we broke up and and about 2 monthe later the feeling came over me and and i went so low i amost begged him to come over i said sorry for every thing i might have said worng i was just saying anything to make him come over and he did now i feel dumb? what should i do?

2006-11-26 10:50:45 · 12 answers · asked by ocn2bfw 1 in Singles & Dating

should i go uot with this guy if i know he is a cheater and probably will cheat on me

2006-11-26 10:49:49 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay, I have a major crush on one of my best friends, Zach. He has 6 classes (of eight) with me and in most of them we sit by eachother. We hang out ALL THE TIME and were GREAT FRIENDS. about a week ago, my friend asked me if i liked him and i said no, but kept thinking about it. the next day i realized that i DO LIKE HIM!!!!!!! hes not going out with anyone! What should i do??? i no he has a thing for me, but i dont no if he wants 2 *go out* with me. Help!!!!!


P.S. I am pretty, sweet, funny, and we have a great time 2gether.....ive had tons of bfs but should i tell him i like him???

2006-11-26 10:49:28 · 7 answers · asked by sweet_and_innocent 1 in Singles & Dating

yeah whats up with that
doesnt personality mean 100000 times as much?

2006-11-26 10:49:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

just for laughs not real!!!

2006-11-26 10:49:23 · 3 answers · asked by schulteboy4life 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband drinks often and some times so much that he is verbally abusive and throws/breaks things. I have tried to talk to him and ask him to get help, but he insists he doesn't have a problem and that he never intends for that to happen. Right now leaving is not an option and if I did leave I'd feel like I just abandoned him when he actually needs me. He is losing a lot (friends, respect, etc.) but blames it on me (of course) because I put my foot down about some stuff. He also involves his mother in our business which really does make things worse due to her not being able to see the bad in him and having her apron strings in knot. She also gives him Xanax to calm him down, even if he is drunk!!!! I have asked him to just look at what is happening and he refuses and says I am "bitchy" instead of seeing things for what they really are. I am begging for some help with him but nobody will do it because he is an adult. This isn't funny to me so SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!!!!

2006-11-26 10:49:00 · 19 answers · asked by IrishEyedGal 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I had been with this guy for 3 yrs and only one time as he taken me out in all those 3 yrs. I love him, but it's getting old. He never buys me flower, never takes me to the movies, or even a walk . Nothing. I asked him about it, He says he doesn't have the time. I've broken up with him many many times, but he keeps coming back. I even moved. But he keeps telling me he still wants to be with me. So I tell him to take me out, he keeps telling me that if he had time to do that he would. He's a sweet man, non abusive in anyway. Just not very thoughtful when it comes to taking his girlfriend out. Should I find someone else, I am 42 and am tired of this game. I want to settle down.

2006-11-26 10:48:01 · 6 answers · asked by cnacyn 1 in Singles & Dating

He knows i like him cuz my friends told him so one day my friends drag me to him and i trip and bumped into him while i felled. He act like he didnt want 2 b around me. He just stood there and looked at me from da corner of his eye. Im was so embrassed. How can i tell if he likes me. He told his friends dat i never talk 2 him even doe i like him. wat should i do?

2006-11-26 10:46:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

last week my boyfriend came from australia on visitor visa. now he wants to get greencard so that he can get some good job and work legally. his uncle suggested him to get marry with someone who has citizenship on contract basis and after 6 months he will get his greencard and they will get divorced. he asked me if i still wants to marry him. i dont know wht sould i say. should i take it lightly or should i breakup with plz give me some suggestions.

2006-11-26 10:46:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

patooty and nosey parker hahahahaahahahahahahaha (im not on cheap drugs)

2006-11-26 10:46:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Both of our intentions were just to have fun but then feelings got involved, can this really work out? And also ladies would you consider her less of a lady because we had sex before any commitment or even knowing each other for only a month or so before we did it? (I know it shouldn't matter if i care about here, but I was jw)

2006-11-26 10:45:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

After inviting himself down to my holiday home (I'm staying away from London for a month working) two weeks ago my new flame has not contacted me. He has also ignored a text asking if he was ok. I phoned him casually tonight and he answered the call and was friendly. He acted as if never mentioned anything and reminded me of the fact that i acted as if wanted to finish the relationship the last time we spoke. He said he would call me tomorrow but i'm not sure whether to continue the relationship. If he really wants to be with me then of course i will be keen. But not sure if he's just being half hearted. I'm not sure? Is he trying to play it cool? Or should i just ignore his call?

2006-11-26 10:45:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friend is so annoying she calls me by my initials cuz they're JZ (haha?) and she also calls me by my full name which i hate. She stopped the full name this but still....arggggh!

2006-11-26 10:45:15 · 8 answers · asked by Cloudyheartgurl 3 in Friends

My parents are always fighting over every little thing. Of course they tell me theres no way they'll ever get divorced, and there not fighting that often. What I hate is how they always bring me into it, either by fighting about me, or by asking me to side with one or the other. Its bad enough they fight, but how can I get them to leave me out of it?

2006-11-26 10:44:53 · 4 answers · asked by Emily 2 in Family

so my parents are bothhh really short 5'2, (dont hate ) haha
my 13 brother is like 5'2
my 17 brother is like 5'6 or 5'7
im 5'0 and im 15
my 23 year old sister is 5'2 i think
my grandma on my dad's side is really short like 4'10 but my mom's side she was average like 5'4-5'6
so yeah. haha what will my brothers and i end up being

wow thats confusing but if anyone could um help me figure it out
that will be greatly appreciated :)

2006-11-26 10:44:12 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my boyfriend walks around with bad underarm odor, smelly breath, and bad butt smell! weve been together for 3 months and he just started this a month ago. he hasnt took a shower in 3 weeks. hes depressed because he doesnt have a job. what should i do?? ive tried everything but he said if i left him he would kill himself! help??

2006-11-26 10:43:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay, so here it goes, I really like this guy, but there is a very big difference in our respective heights...i am 5'2" and he is 6'5". Is that too much of a difference? I think we look cute together...but other people think it would be way too strange and hard to work with if we started dating...what do you all think????

2006-11-26 10:43:44 · 5 answers · asked by Erin B 2 in Singles & Dating

we had a friend who visited...he lived in our living room....me and hubby were watching movie in the living room and my friend fell asleep in his sleeping bag...my hubby was so horny and secretly had sex with in sheets while my friend was asleep in living room...
is it weird?or what do u think?

2006-11-26 10:41:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

If people say this all the time, shouldn't I be confident?

2006-11-26 10:40:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating