We are both young. I have known him for 2 years and we will be making our first anniversary next year. I love him, but lately he seems so distant.
2006-11-26 10:51:15 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would not, having done so in the past. Guys who are bi are actually usually gay. Society frowns on gay though, so they try and focus on bi. You cannot argue with anatomy--if he is into guys, he probably at some point will be less interested in you.
2006-11-26 10:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because he told you he was bi that does not mean he loves you any less I am bi and I have been married to my wife for almost a year now make the best of it you two can check out guys together and if you ever want to have a threesome hes "up" for it on the subject of him seeming distant maybe he has been distant because hes been scared of how you would react when he told you he was bi stay be understanding and continue to love that boy
2006-11-26 10:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by mrpoet03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who was in the same situation as you. At first he said he, even though hes bi, he still loved her, then he told her that he liked guys more than girls, then he broke up with her. It really broke her heart and still to this day I doubt if shes over it.
I dont think I could really trust a guy who suddenely told me he was bi. If he seems distant, something really must be amiss. I hope all works out for the best for the both of you.
2006-11-26 10:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by flesh_of_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very loaded question and the answer is sure to be just as loaded. Only you can decide what's best for you. Think about how you felt the first time you heard that. Did it hurt? Where you grossed out? Turned on? What?
You did say that you were both young. Maybe he's just going thru a discovery phase. That's fine, but you have to ask yourself if you really want to wait around for him to figure himself out, join in, or walk away. Either way, you're not guilty. If he cares for you at all, he'll understand. If he freaks, then he's really not about you and your wellbeing at all. Again, the question then comes back to you...do you want that in "your" life? Good luck. : )
2006-11-26 10:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're confused about this yourself. When you have to stop and question a feeling that should come naturally, you know theres a problem... you don't love him. You're either offended by the fact that he's bi, or is just something that's come up that's helped you to realize it's not worth it. Whether you stay or not, get checked for STDs... Either way, good luck. And listen to your heart before you listen to any of us other folks, including me.
Good Luck
2006-11-26 10:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Miss,
I am sorry to tell you this wont work in the long run. If he is forward enough to tell you he is bi, then he is really bi. Understand that means he enjoys partners of both sexes. It is difficult enough for most of us to stay loyal in our relationships with all the temtation of the opposite sex that we will encounter. This same temptation is double in your boyfriends case.
An aggrivating factor is that at least if a man is tempted by another woman, he knows he can and does get what he needs at home. Liken it to when a man goes to a topless bar and goes home to make wild passsionate love to his wife/girlfriend. In this case, you can't give him what he wants when tempted by another man. He will cheat on you with another guy. By telling you he is bi, he wants you to endorse his preference by staying with him. By staying with him, you are giving him permission to be with men. So, unless you enjoy a very colorful sex life and want to participate, you have to leave him. Even if you do chose a swinging lifestyle, it is not likely to last.
2006-11-26 11:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that seems how he still loves you then you should stay with him. Because if you think about it it most likely was not that easy for him. But if you feel a little awkward with him since he told you he was bi then you might want to maybe take a little break. Just for you to think about what you really want for you both.
2006-11-26 10:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to go at least go in so much as you never have sex of any kind with him . sorry but he is in a very high risk group for aids and other std if i dont want to worry you but i think you should have at least an aids test now .
the other reason for leaving the boyfriend husband part out is because of the really high difforce rate in situtions like this.
take care your will find a good guy a str8 guy / also i would not mention the guys sexual bend to others keep that to yourself unless you do have some std then be sure to let any girl you see with him be aware of this .
2006-11-26 10:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a decision that you're going to have to make on your own. This may be something that he is still working out for himself and that's why he seems so distant. But bi or not, he is not focussing his commitment on ONE person - you. I don't think you'll want to share him - and then you have to worry about STD's, etc. There is a lot you'll have to talk about. Good luck, sweetie. =)
2006-11-26 10:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by LaLa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of you all have the worst fing opion about people that are bi or gay not all of them have aids and **** anyway just becuase hes bi he still loves you him being bi shouldnt change who he love aas far as being distant its more than likely becuase he was trying to figure out how to say or was scared as how to tell you and now he could be worried that he might lose you just sit down and tell hi how you feel
2006-11-26 10:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋