whats up with guys being obsessed with boobs and big butts these days?

Question

yeah whats up with that
doesnt personality mean 100000 times as much?

Answer 1

"These days..." *lol* :))

Well for starters, I think you over-generalize a bit much here, I think a *lot* of men and women alike are enough of a *thinking* sort that they can and do overcome their instincts.

But you have to understand, we do, even as people, have *instincts* in terms of what turns us on typically.

And it's always been like this too. Basically, in brief, for most heterosexual humans:

--Men look for women who show signs of fertility and physical maturation. Again, this is an instinct, a lot of folks aren't even aware of it as such...but men look for developed breasts, and not so much big butts, but a definite and pronounced waist-to-hip ratio that signals to them "gee, maybe she can carry my kids."

The general trend is to favor a bit of an hourglass figure, like what you might see in the old, old-school "blonde bombshell" movies of the late 1940s and early-to-mid 1950s....if anything, the trend to favor *skinny women* is actually the more recent and aberrant trend historically.

--Women, on the other hand, are much less concerned with physical attributes and more concerned with behavior. I mean, yes, there is more attraction to men who show signs of full maturation (the jawline, muscles and full facial and/or body hair), but for the most part it is all about "being a good provider."

Meaning, women look for men who seem able to take care of themselves (good hygiene, sharp clothes), have good resource management skills (think budgeting) and have access to resources (be they jobs, political and social connections, or just plain *hunting skills*). Women's instincts are generally biased towards men who would be *good fathers* versus *good lovers*.

--This is complicated somewhat on *both sides* of the fence by a couple more contradictory things. A) Humans in general are also attracted to what biologists would call a "neoteny of permanent immaturity." Cuteness in plain english. The idea is that symmetrical, youngish features, especially facial features, end up being more attractive in general to humans because on an instinctual level that is a sign of *potential intelligence*. B) Also, one cannot discount the role another hormone, Epinephrine (a.k.a. adrenaline), plays in the early attraction or courtship phases....the idea here is that for some couples, the arousal that brings them together isn't so much about lust so much as it is about *risk* and the excitement that brings.

But yeah, that is it basically. People not only have hormones to deal with, but some degree of hard-wired instinct too, that takes some thought and effort to overcome.

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Answer 2

I don't want to get all ADULT on you but you shouldn't be letting him do anything to your body. Ok now that I said that... The whole boob thing?? He's obsessed with boobs and you are the one that's letting him have free game anytime he wants. It's normal, I'd say. Everyone has their preferences in sexual acts and this is his. You should definitely think about getting with a guy that's more interested in YOU than just your boobs. You'll be amazed with how much satisfaction you can get out of a relationship when the sex acts are mutual.

Answer 3

boobs and butts get the first date personality gets the rest

Answer 4

guys just like having more to look at more to feel and to hold on to

Answer 5

all of them arent...l like having a partner first....if i want meat i go to a grocery....