Both of our intentions were just to have fun but then feelings got involved, can this really work out? And also ladies would you consider her less of a lady because we had sex before any commitment or even knowing each other for only a month or so before we did it? (I know it shouldn't matter if i care about here, but I was jw)
2006-11-26 10:45:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did. Neither of us planned on committing to anything but then we fell in love. It's been something like 2 years now and we are living together and happy. I do agree that you have to have more in common than sex, though. Some things to consider: do you like talking with her? Do you have similar hobbies and interests?
My (lady) opinion:
I wouldn't consider her less of anything. Sex is highly overrated. As Sheryl Crow says, "if it makes you happy, it can't be that bad". Prohibiting yourself from doing something because the rest of society is stuck in prehistoric times is no way to live. Do what you want to do and enjoy it is my philosophy. Life is too short for anything else.
Caveat: try not to hurt anyone else in the process.
2006-11-26 10:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by InsaneOrCroak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personaly I don't agree with what you both did at the beginning, sex isn't everything you know, there are a bunch of other things and you could get in serious trouble just by having sex because you want to have sex. But it's you're life not mine. If you have feelings for her and she has got feelings for you, then go for it. It's actually a nice thing, you started this based on "nothing" and now that is something good. Go for it. Make sure you'll be together for the right reasons, It will work if you really want it to. Good Luck
2006-11-26 18:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking the ladies if they consider her less of a lady? Where did your testicles run off to? Yes, it does matter how long it took for you guys to hook up, I don't know where you heard that cr4p form. The third date is the important one. If you have sex before the two of you have your third date, then she is considered easy. You never try to make a relationship out of a fling, because you will end up getting screwed. At some point she will think about hooking up with another guy, and she will already have the convenient excuse that you guys really just hooked up for sex. Building your relationship on that kind of a dung heap isn't a good Idea.
2006-11-26 18:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. Relationships start this way all the time. And no, of-course I wouldn't consider her less of a lady. I've only slept with a few people in my life, but with those people I knew pretty early on that there was something special and it was difficult to resist them for very long. Sleeping with someone soon doesn't make one a "slut," but rather how many people one sleeps with. And "slut" is a personal opinion, anyway.
2006-11-27 00:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by solaralley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question here is, whose feelings got involved, yours or hers? if both than I can only say that yes, if both of you will it so a relationship can last if it started with sex but only if BOTH of you want it. If it began with only fun and it continues than way down the road, than hey...it was fun and you should just back out. But all in all my advice is that if your having second thoughts, you should discuss this with her immediately. Oh well, good luck!
2006-11-26 18:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by NEGRONE1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could deffo work. I got into a relationship this way a while back - it didnt end up workin but that was down to my own foolish mistakes. Which i deeply regret and i still love the guy to bits. We promised ourselves no feelings but sometimes u just cant help it hapenin. Go for it.
Hope evrything turns out ok for u both too. :-)
2006-11-26 18:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by jaynee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your going to base the relationship only on sex. it more than like will fail. You soon will tire of each other possibly and then the cheating starts. You will have to each decide for yourselves . just a sex relationship or one based on love,trust and the sex.
basing it on sex alone just may lead you to failure.
Just my thoughts let's see what others feel.
2006-11-26 18:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...well yes makin the relationship work is up to the both of you, yes sometimes sex complicates things, but to no extent should it ruin it. Make sure that she understands that you dont look down upon her because you two had sex before the first month, make sure she knows that you respect her and appreciate her. No i dont look down upon her, if she felt she was ready and she wanted it then no, none of my business.
2006-11-26 18:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by Katieee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is entirely possible to have a long term relationship that started just with sex --- if you find a connection a spark between you then nurture it let it grow
ill put my 2 cents worth in and no i would not think your lady is any less a lady for how the relationship started
2006-11-26 18:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lady??? Really??? You wondering that??? What about your morals??? Are you less a gentleman???
Of course the relationship can work out...if you fall and love and get married after you get to know each other good for you.
2006-11-26 18:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋