Family & Relationships - 21 November 2006

My fiance's mother lives with her because she doesn't make enough $ to support herself. She is seperated but not divorced from her husband who, I'm assuming, hasn't divorced her because he doesn't want to pay alimony. She doesn't speak English and can't drive. She is fifty something and has never lived alone. Plus she needs constant supervision in the kitchen because she always leaves things on the stove and and walks away from it or goes to bed. She has almost burned the apartment down three times in the last three months. She blew up one of their old apts because she left the gas on. I'm not joking either. They are trying to get back into those apts again and had to leave her name off the app because she was permanently blacklisted. She doesn't need to be put in a home, she's not senile or mentally ill, just very inept. The thought of having her live with us after we get married wakes me up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat. I don't see any other way though. Help!

2006-11-21 05:43:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Out of all the guys I serve with the only one whom I the least bit interested in got talked into challanging me. I'm almost 5'2" and he is a little of 6 I think. I'm a Hapkido instructor and hand to hand combat instructor. He is pretty good but....... If I turn down the challange, they will think I'm afraid of getting beat. If I let him win.... well, that can't happen. If I beat him I'm afraid I'll crush his male ego and he will loose face with "the guys". What would you do and why?

2006-11-21 05:42:57 · 7 answers · asked by Becky 5 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 05:42:50 · 25 answers · asked by flak 1 in Weddings

My girl friend has been acting strange for the past few months. She won't hold my hand or really look me in the eye. She doesn't really like to get close to me. There are times when she is close, but its only when I make the first move. She says we shouldn't have sex until next year because she wants to make sure that our relationship hasn't been based on sex. The other part to this is that she talks to a guy far away. She has been talking to him longer than she has known me. She gets on webcam with him too. He calls her every once in a while. I really don't have much of a problem with her having male friends.The problem is that I asked her a few times what she is doing for her birthday in December and she keeps saying "nothing". She doesnt know that I found out months ago through myspace that she is going to New York (263mi) and she is meeting him there. She keeps saying things like "Wish I could go to New York" when she sees it on TV. Im waiting for her to ask me to go. What do I do?

2006-11-21 05:42:40 · 3 answers · asked by Sepis S 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is not a verbaly emotional person, but he is a very physicaly emotional person. One night after drinking him and I were talked about 2 friends who were dating and living together and were most likely going to get married. Well she has 2 kids from a previous relationship. Yadda Yadda Yadda about them. My BF and his friend were talking and my BF said that he was going to get his friend a Tattoo that said "stepdad". Then we were talking some more about kids and stuff and he said "I guess I'm going to have to get one too" HELLO shocked the heck outa me. He hasnt spent a lot of time around my son becasue the scheduals clash but the time he has spent, I've caught him looking and smiling and laughing at me son. This has must be a good thing, and does this mean that he is leaning twords marriage? And if so how far along in the realationship does a guy know that he is going to marry the woman he is with?

2006-11-21 05:42:24 · 9 answers · asked by little1-27 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 05:41:17 · 58 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1 in Singles & Dating

ok i know this is gross but its true i promise no lies!! anyways my cousin told me her boyfriend likes to lick her Bu.t.t hole! that is nasty and i dont know why she would tell me that but she did! my question is do you also find that nasty! what would you do if your boyfriend did that to you would you tell him to stop or let him do it because he likes it!...no dumb answers im being serious this is not a made up joke or question

2006-11-21 05:40:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Here is a picture of me and i want to put in on my yahoo account but i dont know........ please be nice

http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o190/kprejean0817/HPIM0447.jpg

2006-11-21 05:40:35 · 7 answers · asked by Kayla P 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-11-21 05:40:21 · 8 answers · asked by Loose Cannon 1 in Singles & Dating

here's the deal...this guy and myself have been friends online for over 2 years now. About a month ago we decided to meet IRL to see what would happen. He lives about 2 hrs away.

We got together 4 weekends (fri-sun) and hung out...things progressed somewhat from hand holding and cuddling to being more frisky but no sex. After his fourth visit he told me that when we'd started getting "more physical"...like me touching his chest and thighs....etc. that he was getting anxious and didn't know why.

He said he's totally attracted to me and gets sexually aroused so he didn't know what the problem was.

When he went home he said he was going to think about things. He made lists of things important to him and "us" was #2 right after his family but he still can't pinpoint the anxiety so he doesn't want us to continue into a relationship like that at this point. Other stressors in his life school and work, but he says these aren't the problem either.

2006-11-21 05:40:18 · 10 answers · asked by A B 1 in Singles & Dating

I can help others get together but i can never get a girlfriend!!! These girls belive in true love, i want to build a relationship before saying anything about love at all what do i do

2006-11-21 05:39:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 05:39:40 · 9 answers · asked by SHYONE 1 in Family

How many of you have done something to please your partner that you really didn't want to do, just to make them happy?

What was it?

2006-11-21 05:39:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just curious what your thankful for as we get closer to thanksgiving. I'll start. I'm thankful I've made such a dramatic recovery, and can now walk on my own again. I'm thankful that after my sister spent a year in ICU, she is now fully recovered and no longer needs dialisis. I'm thankful I have a family that cares so much about me, and has helped me through my difficult battle with RSD. So now its your turn. Come on were talking easy points here.

2006-11-21 05:38:52 · 7 answers · asked by Emily 2 in Family

2006-11-21 05:38:41 · 7 answers · asked by gaz 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

do they get to go out at weekends eg clubbing and could someone tell me if you have ever been in the army what goes on just interested when your with the lads is it always talking about girls thanks x

2006-11-21 05:38:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2006-11-21 05:37:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

there's this guy i really like.. he asked me to send him an email and i did! i told him about my feelings for him! do you think i did the right thing?

2006-11-21 05:37:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We are married and I am in my 50's and he's in his 30's and there is a 15 year difference in age. My only real worry is age related health issues with me that he will face at his younger age. If we have issues, they are ones that most married couples have. He takes good care of me and we are both pretty independent people.

2006-11-21 05:36:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she left work 3weeks ago. and at that time i started to like her and i think she liked me as well. but never spoke about this. now she called me 3:00am while she was drunk ad steaming and told me that she got a man. however she is missing me and would like to meet me some day.

now i m confused that y she told me that she got a man and at same time she wants to meet me. is she just kidding on that she got a man or what. i dont know should i call her or no.

2006-11-21 05:36:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

As a husband, I try to be as supportive of my wife. I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry in the house, as well as take care of paying the bills and plan for our future. I also run my own business. I have a 10,000 sq ft. office, with about 15 employees. I enjoy doing things for myself. My grandma always said," why make others do things when you are capable of doing things yourself". It is a philosophy I try to live by. When I got married, I thought my wife would help out around the house, freeing up some time, so we can spend some quality time with each other. She exagerrates that she can cook, I have yet to see an attempt. She may atempt to start cleaning, but leaves things half-way. She spends most of her time watching TV (80%). I've even gone to the extent of telling her that even if she does nothing, don't make any additional work for me, but nothing registers with her. I tried not cleaning the house hoping she would, but after 3 weeks, I had to clean. I don't know what to do.

2006-11-21 05:35:50 · 20 answers · asked by Mr M 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

...having sex, ...whats going on? ..he says,
mum says ''just trying to flatten dads tummy''.

Son says: you're wasting your time cos Mrs Murphy next door comes in when your at work, gets on her knees and blows him back up again!!

2006-11-21 05:35:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

im a busy person but at the same time i need a GF and i don't want to go around talking to women or angaging in online date is there any other way that i can get a GF without all these i have mentioned

2006-11-21 05:34:43 · 12 answers · asked by marvellousdiva 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok, Me and My Ex are "talking" Again, But everytime i wanna get back with her, i feel like its old already, i wanna find someone new, but here in Baltimore City. Theres No One Here For Me, Especially in my High School. No Hot Girls lol. Help!

2006-11-21 05:34:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex boyfriend asked me to come stay with him in Tulsa. He called me while I was at this guys house that I was seeing, yet had agreed it was'nt a commited relationship. Well, I told my ex I would come and the other guy was like so your leaving to Tusa I told him I was leaving the next day. Well the next day i talked to him after i got to Tulsa and he was sad saying I was there and he was there and why was i trying to make him cry. I love him and felt bad but he always acted like I was just someone to have sex with. Ne way I stayed for two weeks with my ex and told him I have to go home because i miss my family. Ne way since i been back I seen the other guy twice and talked to him a few times but he doesnt make a effort as much mabey i hurt him but i thought we werent commited and the guy in Tulsa wants to move here and that would be good in the since that hell work and take care of me and my kids he loves my kids but i really want this other guy help

2006-11-21 05:33:53 · 20 answers · asked by mystical 2 in Singles & Dating

There is a guy at my gym, around my age. We usually see each other at the gym a few times a week because we workout at the same time. Whenever I am near him, I catch him looking at me for a moment. Not ogling, not staring, its very hard to read his face but his eyes are fixated for a moment..on my face. I meet his stares and look away. What's the next step, and what can I do to spark his curiosity....Many thanks. At this point I am not ready to go up to him and speak....Let this game last a little longer...

2006-11-21 05:33:08 · 12 answers · asked by ultra _ girl 3 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is from India and his family is very traditional. I want to make a good impression the first time I meet his family. Does any one have any advice? I'm a little intimidated because his mother has told him she doesn't like American girls and she really hates white girls. I'm an Internationl Affairs major in college so its not like I'm cultually insensitive I just want them to consider liking me =(

2006-11-21 05:32:48 · 8 answers · asked by annesaqt214 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 05:32:48 · 16 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1 in Singles & Dating

My x and I have been aprt for over 8 years now and hes made those 8 yrs a living hell for both my son and me. He would always show up for a month or two then disappear for about 6 mo to a year and then show back up again. Our son has been diagnosed with ADHD, Aspergers Syndrome, Hightened Anxiety disorder and now Bipolar disorder. I believe at least some of this to have been a direct issue from his constant diapointments when our son was only a toddler....waiting at the door for daddy to show up and he never did..those kinda things. Plus he would have girlfriends with older children that would hit and punch my son. Now hes taking me to court saying that Im and unfit mother, and that he doent believe there to be anything wrong with my son, (he says because he doesnt act that way with him) What can I do about this...please help!

2006-11-21 05:32:26 · 15 answers · asked by StReSsOuT 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've noticed that kissing during sex is sometimes a difficult task if you're really not feeling that person. Like if this is someone that you want to have sex with but really not be that intimate with. As anyone else noticed that? I mean for me kissing is more intimate than sex, I know it sounds funny but do you get it. Guys, is how you feel about a woman really in your kiss. Do you enjoy kissing women that you really don't like or do you avoid the kissing and go straight for the sex?

2006-11-21 05:32:26 · 26 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Singles & Dating