My girl friend has been acting strange for the past few months. She won't hold my hand or really look me in the eye. She doesn't really like to get close to me. There are times when she is close, but its only when I make the first move. She says we shouldn't have sex until next year because she wants to make sure that our relationship hasn't been based on sex. The other part to this is that she talks to a guy far away. She has been talking to him longer than she has known me. She gets on webcam with him too. He calls her every once in a while. I really don't have much of a problem with her having male friends.The problem is that I asked her a few times what she is doing for her birthday in December and she keeps saying "nothing". She doesnt know that I found out months ago through myspace that she is going to New York (263mi) and she is meeting him there. She keeps saying things like "Wish I could go to New York" when she sees it on TV. Im waiting for her to ask me to go. What do I do?
2006-11-21 05:42:40 · 3 answers · asked by Sepis S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have already asked her whether or not if she liked this guy and she says no. I have asked her if she has lost interest in me and would rather not be with me and she denies it. She says that she wants to be with me otherwise she would have left me by now. I don't see how someone so distant and acts like they're bored with a relationship can say that. In my opinion, she would be all over me if she was afraid to be alone. I can't understand why she wouldn't tell me about this trip to New York to meet some guy. I just think it will take her a few drinks and dancing then they'll be on eachother. It is stopping me from sleeping and I feel fatigued throughout the day. I feel I have no other choice but to tell her I know about the trip, but I really feel I have to wait til December to ask. After all, she just might ask me to go. Which would be a huge relief.
2006-11-21 15:36:22 · update #1
Sounds like she's cheating on you. Cheating isn't based solely on sex. Just ask her what's going on with what you found out online. Ask her if she likes this guy and if she wants to be with him, because you want her to be happy. Not holding hands, not wanting to have sex, not wanting to be close...are all signs that she's not into you anymore. You definately need to confront her about how she feels about you and your relationship.
J
2006-11-21 05:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes cheating on you dude. Shes taking a chance of getting him but at the same time not at the expense of loosing you. Basically having you as a back up if it doesnt work out with him.
I dont know the perfect solution for this but I explained u the problem.
One solution is - move away from her, stop calling her, stop any contact with her. She`l obvously still go to NY to meet the guy. But I feel sorry if shes trying to take advantage of you. Women many times keep back ups. Find a different group to hang out with explore new girl friends...is all I can say.
2006-11-24 06:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to http://www.oatmealmedia.net - they have several programs there that you might want . . . . 1 you can put on her computer (if it's a common computer that you both use) and record what she is doing. It captures chat, browser pages, basicly anything that she does, it records. 2. If she uses yahoo messenger for webcam, and you know when she is using it, they have a program there to let you watch without her knowing it. You can also record what she does to video if you want, so you can throw it up in her face.
2006-11-21 21:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋