My ex boyfriend asked me to come stay with him in Tulsa. He called me while I was at this guys house that I was seeing, yet had agreed it was'nt a commited relationship. Well, I told my ex I would come and the other guy was like so your leaving to Tusa I told him I was leaving the next day. Well the next day i talked to him after i got to Tulsa and he was sad saying I was there and he was there and why was i trying to make him cry. I love him and felt bad but he always acted like I was just someone to have sex with. Ne way I stayed for two weeks with my ex and told him I have to go home because i miss my family. Ne way since i been back I seen the other guy twice and talked to him a few times but he doesnt make a effort as much mabey i hurt him but i thought we werent commited and the guy in Tulsa wants to move here and that would be good in the since that hell work and take care of me and my kids he loves my kids but i really want this other guy help
2006-11-21 05:33:53 · 20 answers · asked by mystical 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What?! "....the guy in Tulsa want to move here and that would be good in the SENSE that he'll work and take care of me and my kids..." Sounds like you want to use him for what he can do for you. Listen, exes are exes for a reason. Something didn't mesh with you guys and chances are that it's not going to work out a second time. I keep saying that sex is waaaay too casual these days and this is what I mean. Morally it's not right to have sex with two different people. This guy is hurt because you left him for your ex! Now he's not into you. Can you blame him? I can't. Don't get back with your ex, it's not going to work out in the long run. And as for the other guy, you haven't told me enough about him for me to give you advice on what to do. You should talk to him about what he wants from you and what he wants for the two of you as far as a relationship is concerned. Then go from there.
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2006-11-21 05:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other guy probably is hurt that you went to Tulsa to stay with your ex for 2 weeks. I know I'd be hurt. It sounds as if he really cares about you. It doesn't sound like he's only interested in sex.
As far as the ex goes, if the reason the two of you split is still there, then that relationship may not be something worthwhile to pursue. I'm sure he does care about you and your children, but do you feel the same way about him?
I think it'd be worth it to talk with this guy and see where he wants to take your relationship.
2006-11-21 13:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by artsycasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a step away from everything. Think about your kids, they might not want to be messed around with mummies boyfriend. Take your kids on a break for christmas spoil them a bit and show that your not neglecteing them, then maybe think about the situattion and try to work out who means the most to you. Have a chat with both men and see what their opinions on you are. Then try make a decision. But don't do nothing until you are sure thats the right thing.
Hope I Helped =D
2006-11-21 13:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To say follow your heart would be bull crap. As a single mom with 3 kid's I say go with the one who accepts your kids your kids are # 1 for you and If the ex is willing to accept them stay with him. I know you love the other guy but sometimes we have to make sacrifices for our kids. Lots of guys don't want us cause we have kids and to find one that does is a diamond in the rough. Good luck
2006-11-21 13:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by teena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your heart. Do what you think is right for you. I love kids, but in a case like this, you being happy is probably the best things for the children also.
Good Luck
PS, things will work out, hang n there.
2006-11-21 13:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to Las Vegas and become a stripper.
2006-11-21 13:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to the other guy and explain that you didn't think it was serious. But if this other guy has a job and is responsible I won't bother with the other one if he's not.
2006-11-21 13:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and breathe! Write all the pros and cons down and think what u should do next.
2006-11-21 13:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be with the person you like and leave the other one alone.
2006-11-21 13:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. Let your heart led you the way.
2006-11-21 13:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by Lil' Foot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋