Family & Relationships - 16 November 2006

I have a male friend who is also friends with my husband. He just got married 3 mos. ago. He told me that he's not in love with her, doesn't trust her, and they have nothing in common. He just told me that they have more bad times than good. I have been married for almost 17 yrs. I've never cheated. I do have feelings for my friend. I've never told him, nor has he told me he has feelings for me. He doesn't spend as much time with me as he can, nor does he talk to me on the phone as much as he could. But the way he looks at me, I just don't know if I'm reading more into this. Should I tell him how I feel, even though we can't be together because I'm not a cheater--How can I know if his feelings for me are more than just friendship--I don't understand you guys---what should I do

2006-11-16 12:45:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i dont know how to love because i am scard of it

2006-11-16 12:44:12 · 21 answers · asked by Dark~Deadly~Dangerous...I;m 3D 1 in Singles & Dating

you guys are TOO mean.

2006-11-16 12:43:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

She is upset that she can't afford stuff for me and her 2 grandchildren. She acts okay sometimes, but I can tell she's not. I allready told her that it is just a present and that's not what Christmas is about anyway, but it did'nt seem to help much. My dad is taking x-tra days to go to work and my 15th B-day is 3 days after Christmas. Please help me help my mom.

2006-11-16 12:43:20 · 16 answers · asked by fombellgirl 2 in Family

I really like this shy girl and we've known each other a few weeks but so far it's just small talk. She seems to enjoy my company and sometimes she laughs and we have a good talk and other times she's quiet, but she stays for a while till the talk runs out. I really think she likes me but I can't figure out how to tell her my feelings! Sometimes when I say how she's pretty she'll laugh and look embarrassed but then we carry on like I didn't say anything. I've said how I enjoy her company, how it's really nice talking to her. I don't know what else to do. I'm shy too so I don't think I can just say I love you.

2006-11-16 12:43:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Long Story! Ok, 5 years ago she was dating (not committed) to another guy for a few months when we met. We did sleep together but the other guy asked her to be her boyfriend and she accepted. A year later she was cheating on him with me. We were seeing each other for like 8 months. (I was seeing other people and not committed to her at all at that time). It was killing her to be cheating on him and even hard for me to watch her pain so we stopped seeing each other. It was VERY hard to get over her. Now 3 years later we both just got out of relationship (hers was the same guy). I am over my ex (she was crazy!!) and now we have been seeing each other again (two weeks now). Here's the deal, He (here ex) did something messed up like 5 days ago and hurt her. She wants to deal with it alone. She feels she needs to get over him before we are together and I have been very supportive. I feel I really love her and always have...Am I crazy for putting myself in the same exact position to get hurt again or just wait it out and see how it goes? Give me your honest opinion anything will help. Thanks!!

2006-11-16 12:42:52 · 12 answers · asked by Mr. Blonde 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-16 12:42:25 · 7 answers · asked by hi miley your so kewl 1 in Singles & Dating

Does he like me or am I imagining it?
Okay so there is this guy who is now single for like a week now and well on Monday we went to dariy queen with the school a few kids got to go and so we sat together on the van u know someone to talk to. We talked well then we got there and the whole time he would hold doors open and let me go first with every thing. So I sat down with my food and then he came and sat by me we talked then our principal gave us little tokens so we could get dessert and he asked me if I wanted dessert and I said yes and he actually went and got it for me I was so surpised then we talked and had a great time. I think he was staring at me yesturday at lunch so maybe he likes me. My friend talked to him about me and a couple of other girls who like him he said no way in hell would he go out with them. Then she asked about me and he changed the subject quick so what do I do do u think he likes me or what

2006-11-16 12:41:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

first contact?

2006-11-16 12:41:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my friends and i were discussing, so i wanted to get more insight.
thnx

2006-11-16 12:41:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. We've talked a few times since but she's very troubled--has a crazy past. She called me most recently to apologize for how she treated me and that she's moving away. She called and wrote me a note saying how sorry she was, that she needed to get her head together, and told me how amazing she thinks I am. I don't want her to go anywhere--truth is I still love her. I just do. Her birthday is coming up and I'm wondering if I should call and ask her out now that we've both had time to decompress or if I should just let it go. But that's the problem. I CAN'T seem to let her go. I forgive her for being mean to me and I'm not being a pushover. By mean I mean she was distant and emotionally unavailable alot because of her own stressors. What should I do??? I don't want her to move! Should I call her??

2006-11-16 12:41:18 · 12 answers · asked by LBF 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Women, please help, My girlfriend loves talking to me.. every day on the phone for three hours straight! She ignores it whenever i actually have to go do things. I don't want her getting mad at me for cutting a conversation short because when i have to leave I HAVE to leave. I tell her the truth and she don't like it. What do i do?

2006-11-16 12:41:03 · 11 answers · asked by Cold Fart 6 in Singles & Dating

My father used to snap my bra straps and fondle my buttons, ear holes and inner thighs...
he liked went to bathroom without closing the door and changed his clothes(take off his pants) in front of me. he also liked to rub his penis in public.
is it okay and normal things to happen? or it consider sexual abuse?
i feel he is so disgusted....and i hate him...

2006-11-16 12:40:26 · 11 answers · asked by woodland0304 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Is it cheating when your b/f hides things from you while he is chatting on-line or using Yahoo Messenager? I have caught him twice making "play dates" with other females! He says he would never go through with them and that its all in fun. Also signing up for dating services and saying he is single. No we are not married but we have been living together for 8 yrs. I am ready to blow his computer up! Yes we have a very good sex life too. And have done other adventerous things with another couple. So Whats up with this???

2006-11-16 12:39:45 · 21 answers · asked by Sweety 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-16 12:39:42 · 37 answers · asked by loveless 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-16 12:38:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-11-16 12:37:46 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa23 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

What do I do to become friends with a girl I dont know?

2006-11-16 12:37:41 · 7 answers · asked by [quarantine] 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-16 12:36:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met someone on line a while ago and our relationship has "evolved" into something that i never expected..i am married but i find even though i've never met my on line "friend" that i have feelings for him..we have cyber sex alot..we will never meet that much i know..he lives on the other side of the country..i am married to a wonderful man but obviously something is missing..is this considered an affair??

2006-11-16 12:35:41 · 37 answers · asked by confused 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-16 12:35:02 · 2 answers · asked by Pradyut 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2 weeks ago my boyfriend of 9 months left for Thailand for a LONG holiday (8 months). We're still together and we love each other to pieces... but if ever i see anything that belongs to him or go to his house and see his room, i break down and cry and feel like a big chunk has been ripped out of me. Do you think i'm just dead soft and get myself together and stop being so pathetic or do you think this is normal?? Any advice to get on with things?

2006-11-16 12:33:10 · 29 answers · asked by honeypot56000 2 in Singles & Dating

Hi!
I'm just looking for some objective advice on this. My bf and I have been together for 3.5 years and we both know that we want to get married. We have about 2 more years of college left and are definitely planning on getting married right after graduation. (We've secretly set a date, too.) The thing is, we've been talking a lot about getting engaged and making the fact that we're going to get married and be together "official." I know people will say, why rush, you have 2 more years of school, you're so young, blah blah blah, but we really just want to do it for us. In fact, we've got a bit of a game going- to see who will ask who first and who can think of the most creative way.

So what do you think? Is being 20 & 21 too hurried? Is 2 years too long of an engagement? We're considering doing it around X-mas. The fact that it's official isn't going to change the way we feel for one another, but we want to just... shout it to the world... you know, that cheesy stuff.

Thanks!

2006-11-16 12:33:05 · 14 answers · asked by Stina 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm so lonely. My husband is in the military and works nights. I work days, and haven't made any real friends, so I have no one to do anything with. We've lived here for 2 years, I've met plenty of women like me, and always offer to get together, but no on ever takes me up on my offer. They never offer to get together with me. The only time I get social interaction is at the grocery store. Or if my husband has his friends over, their wives will pretty much stick to themselves or make small talk. Then I think we've chatted enough to hang out just girls, and they never come around. I am the one who gets left out whenever the other wives get together. My hubby thinks it's just me taking it personally, but then why don't I have someone I can call to do anything with. I am so freakin lonely, it's depressing.

2006-11-16 12:32:24 · 6 answers · asked by little mama kat 23 3 in Friends

Me and my ex-girlfriend broke up about 2 1/2 months ago. At first we didn't talk and she started dating someone else a couple of days after we broke up. She told me then that there would never be a chance for us to ever be together again. She worked at the same place I did and quit cuz she got a job somewhere else. I gave her a hug the last day she was there and it turned into a long hug where she started to cry. Lately she has be calling me and we have talked almost everyday for about a week. She came into work a couple of days ago and gave me three hugs that she initiated before she left. She called me yesterday and wants me to help her with getting her brakes fixed so she is going to pick me up tomorrow so I can help her. She is still going out with this other guy. What does all this mean, and what do I do if I still love her and want to get back with her. We were together for 3 years, and I have always thought of her as the one that I wanted to marry someday. Thank You

2006-11-16 12:31:53 · 13 answers · asked by fxtrader 1 in Singles & Dating

My sister show no respect to anyone in my family expecially my mother, She is a freashmen in high school and she drinks and smokes and she was on probation for shoplifting, she cuses at her parents and siblings and teachers and get's suspened form school all the time and she wont listen to anyone. how can i get her to show some respect to people and get off the bad path that she is on?

2006-11-16 12:31:07 · 10 answers · asked by Matt 2 in Family

well my parents r alway fighting and i always get in the middle of it somehow.then my dad curses about my mom my brother and me. and if my mom leaves light on in the bathroom he will get really mad and then something starts. and if he does that and we tell him that he left the light or tv on then he will get mad at us for telling him. and if someone is telling him something he doesnt want to hear he tells them to shut up or starts yelling. and if he does that to us and we tell him to shut up or we yell he will either ground me and yell at my mom and my brother. and then the next day he comes home from work he acts like nothing has happend. i cant take it what should i do??!!

2006-11-16 12:30:25 · 9 answers · asked by divachick95 2 in Family

ok...there is this guy from church...i like him ALOT...i think he likes me...but idk...he flirts w/ me...and i flirt w/ him back...weve been friends for like 6 yrs...and every sunday in church i sense someone staring at me...then i look up...the guy that i like is staring at me...then he looks away real fast...it happens all through church...i want 2 go out w/ him...im thinking of having my best friend do it...but idk...i would do it myself...but im too much of a wimp...should i have my friend do it...o ya...im a freshman (14) and hes an 8th grader (14 also)...we are from different schools though...what should i do about this whole deal w/ me and him??...and do u think he likes me??...please help...thanks

2006-11-16 12:29:34 · 3 answers · asked by lil_hott_stuff 1 in Singles & Dating

Right now I have a crush. We've been flirting and talking and stuff, and things have been going so awesome that I was getting close to asking him out. But then this girl who I REALLY hate somehow found out that I'm crushing on him, and she went right up to his face one day and told him that I like him. Now I feel awkward around him, and I hardly ever talk to him. I basically just avoid him as much as possible. But this could be bad, because he could think I'm not into him or something. He seems the same, but he's gotten more quiet and he keeps looking at me more. What should I do? Should I act like nothing happened or dive in and ask him out?

2006-11-16 12:29:18 · 8 answers · asked by Gizelle 3 in Singles & Dating

i got in a huge arguement with these girls because they think i was talking about them behind they're backs. im not but they say one of my friends is telling them that. now i don't know who to trust and they're all saying they're gonna "whoop my a**." i really don't wanna fight with them so don't tell me to just fight them. i want to resolve this peacefully without anyone raising they're voice or cursing and especially without fighting. what should i do? im in school so should i tell a counselor and let them deal with it? i don't want to because they don't do anything about it they just call the people in and have us talk things. and of course, they're going to lie about it. please help me!! i really don't want to fight anyone and im going to ask for backup.

2006-11-16 12:28:48 · 11 answers · asked by azngrlzkickass 2 in Friends