i got in a huge arguement with these girls because they think i was talking about them behind they're backs. im not but they say one of my friends is telling them that. now i don't know who to trust and they're all saying they're gonna "whoop my a**." i really don't wanna fight with them so don't tell me to just fight them. i want to resolve this peacefully without anyone raising they're voice or cursing and especially without fighting. what should i do? im in school so should i tell a counselor and let them deal with it? i don't want to because they don't do anything about it they just call the people in and have us talk things. and of course, they're going to lie about it. please help me!! i really don't want to fight anyone and im going to ask for backup.
2006-11-16 12:28:48 · 11 answers · asked by azngrlzkickass 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Bring all of the parties together and discuss it. Have a backup in case it can't be resolved.
2006-11-16 12:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this is an unfortunately common occurrence among girls. If this is going on at school, then I think your bet bet would be to as a counselor to have ALL OF YOU, in the room at the same time and face each other with the accusations and lies. Most of the time someone will try and change the words of the lie and backtrack, the most common phrase is "that's not what I said" followed by the second runner up "that's not what I meant". Have you asked who the "friend" they got their information from is? And if so, have you confronted the "friend" and asked them if they did this? Or why would they do this? Like I said have your counselor get you all together at one time and Call the instigator on it. More than likely he/she will try to get out of the situation, by retracting the gossip. Good Luck
2006-11-16 20:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by lilyvix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say:
"Listen I know you think I was speaking about you behind your back but I wasn't, and honestly I don't have time to talk about other people behind their backs anyways - I am the type of person that if I have anything to say I am going to say it, and if I have a problem with you I am going to tell you, straight up no bull ****. I don't want to fight with you, I dont condone violence - and I am not about to start now. So, if we can sort this confusion and clear miscommunication and misunderstanding up that would be great, cuz honestly I don't have time for this, and I am sure you don't either"
2006-11-16 20:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like fighting but you can still stand up for yourself without fighting, shouting or cursing. But if you dont feel they would talk about it without argueing over it then just forget about i had the same probably a little while ago.
2006-11-16 20:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in highschool, it may alreayd be too late. Unless they are mature, they will think whatever they want. The best thing for you to do in the long run is be the grown up. If they confront you, you tell them the truth and if they don't believe you it is THEIR problem. You do not have to prove anything. If they are makign a big deal out of it they probably aren't worth being friends with to begin with. A counsellor will probably worsen things.
2006-11-16 20:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by Chris R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could ignore them but if it gets out of hand then GET SOMEONE. If they lie about all of it tell the counselor that you knew theyd lie. Just tell him/her the truth. Maybe put on a show & act real upset...haha. That will make them believe you more. Good luck.
*Abby*
2006-11-16 21:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like the schools around hea,you handle your business whether you want to or not.Sort it with your so called mate and ask that person why they stirred up so much s***. If you think you can resolve it with those girls then try but i doubt it bcoz you added to the caos when you argued back.good luck
2006-11-16 20:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by paulina83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you ask your friend if he is telling those girls lies if he says no then dont tell hem he is lying that will just make it worse then go apologize to those girls and say i did not say that stuff about you but i am sorry that you thought i did then just walk away and ignore the situation (praying helps ask god to open those girls minds to let them her what you have to say)
2006-11-16 20:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to talk with them some more. I really think that they will catch you alone & get you. You need to talk with an adult you trust about this and get their oppinion. I hope things work out.
2006-11-16 20:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You want to live in a fairy tale don't you? You have to stand up for yourself even if fighting is the end result.
2006-11-16 20:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋