Men only--please help me out here!?

Question

I have a male friend who is also friends with my husband. He just got married 3 mos. ago. He told me that he's not in love with her, doesn't trust her, and they have nothing in common. He just told me that they have more bad times than good. I have been married for almost 17 yrs. I've never cheated. I do have feelings for my friend. I've never told him, nor has he told me he has feelings for me. He doesn't spend as much time with me as he can, nor does he talk to me on the phone as much as he could. But the way he looks at me, I just don't know if I'm reading more into this. Should I tell him how I feel, even though we can't be together because I'm not a cheater--How can I know if his feelings for me are more than just friendship--I don't understand you guys---what should I do

Answer 1

Don't be an idiot...what good would come from telling him you have a thing for him, whether he feels the same or not?

How would you feel, if you learned your husband had feelings for another woman and told her?

Treat others as you would like to be treated...if you wouldn't want your hubby lusting after someone else (whether he took action or not) then you should not do it...

Leave this situation alone...all you stand to do is damage (or ruin) your marriage...and maybe make a fool out of yourself...

Answer 2

Married for 17 yrs huh, now u want to explore
as to what ur husband's friend really thinks
about u and if u should tell him what u think
about him. Don't go there because if u do then
u will end up destroying ur magic number 17
because ur marriage looks solid. So why take
a chance of ruining it just for a FEELING. Stick
with what u have especially if ur hubby is good
to u because the department of feelings for
this other guy will lead to your downfall.

Answer 3

A good rule, you can look but not touch.

If you talk about your feelings with the "friend" of your husband, you are in essance saying to the male brain. "'I am interested, come after me."

You said you aren't a cheater. So if that's true, and you have to talk to someone. Talk to an unbiased trusted FEMALE friend about your feelings.

This is not about talking about your feelings. Its about the signal that sends.

It is your life, just accept the consequences for your actions.

Answer 4

There's no magic that makes other guys unattractive once you get married. You admit you can't be together but you say that you aren't a cheater. Why would you need to know if his feelings for you are more than friendship?

Answer 5

You're a married woman and you want to tell a friend of your family's who is recently married that you "have feelings" for him?? Whatever for??? Do you really want to humiliate yourself and your husband like that? And what's he supposed to do? Cheat on his wife, betray your husband and ruin your marriage?
Don't even go there.

Answer 6

Beth, if you have feelings for this guy then that means you're cheating on him, not physically but mentally, which is considered cheating. get it? lol, well if you feel you need to get it out of your system, and gotta tell someone, it doesn't necessarily mean you have to tell him, talk to someone else, cuz maybe if you tell him, your husband will eventually find out and you'll destroy your marriage! don't be a fool, think bout what you're gonna do!

Answer 7

this is a mess so lets start at square one. 17 year relationship and you have a crush on another guy that is f'ed up. tell your "friend" to get a divorce for christ sake mi 2 year old cuzin could tell you that. he doesnt like you. sorry. good luck. this is a mess.

Answer 8

Sounds like your ready to jump into something that will destroy your 17 year marriage. Stop and think. Is it really worth it?

Answer 9

you probably hot as hell and he just getting an eye full we are pigs you know really though we cant stop our selves from looking at good looking women its nature

Answer 10

Skank.

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