I need a womens advice and or opinion?

Question

Me and my ex-girlfriend broke up about 2 1/2 months ago. At first we didn't talk and she started dating someone else a couple of days after we broke up. She told me then that there would never be a chance for us to ever be together again. She worked at the same place I did and quit cuz she got a job somewhere else. I gave her a hug the last day she was there and it turned into a long hug where she started to cry. Lately she has be calling me and we have talked almost everyday for about a week. She came into work a couple of days ago and gave me three hugs that she initiated before she left. She called me yesterday and wants me to help her with getting her brakes fixed so she is going to pick me up tomorrow so I can help her. She is still going out with this other guy. What does all this mean, and what do I do if I still love her and want to get back with her. We were together for 3 years, and I have always thought of her as the one that I wanted to marry someday. Thank You

Answer 1

Well, it seems to me that she still likes you, or loves you for that matter. Perhaps you should think about how you really feel about her, and if you are still in love w/her make it point of finding out if she still loves you and wants to be w/you, it seems like she does. But if that is the case, she is not going to up and break up w/her boyfriend unless she knows she has a chance to get back with you.

Answer 2

It could mean any number of things, but it's hard to say without understanding why you broke up:

1. She may have rebounded to her current boyfriend because she's the type of woman who can't stand being without a man.

2. She may regret the break-up

3. She may be testing you to find out if she still matters to you OR if she can still get your attention

There had to have been a good reason why you broke up after three years. Give yourself some time to evaluate that. Frankly, she made the decision to move on to another. If she's not happy with that decision, that's her problem not yours.
She has a boyfriend; he now has the responsibility of doing all the "boyfriend" things, and he should be the one helping her with her brakes, not you.

Given the time you spent together, two and a half months is really not a lot of time spent apart. This is especially true with her maintaining all the contact. If you want her back and regret the decision to end the relationship, that's one thing. But you broke up for a reason; is she into you or just wanting to know if she can still pull your strings. As a woman, I know how easy it is to play lost, hurt and needy. Is that what you want?

Answer 3

Why did she start dating this other guy to begin with? Was there something missing from your relationship?

I think she may of been looking for something you aren't providing and turned to this other guy. And I think she learned that wasn't the solution.

Obviously she still cares about you. But there is still something there making her hesitant to come back to you. Talk to her while you are fixing her brakes. Try to figure out what went wrong. If she won't tell you, then you have no future. And whatever it is, you have to be willing to fix it because she gave up 3 years because of it.

I have no clue your age.....but if you are an adult, 3 years is a long time for her to wait for you to say you "thought of her as the one I wanted to marry someday". Maybe your relationship was getting stagnant.

If you are a teen then that wasn't a problem.

After you spend time with her tomorrow, and TALK to her and get feelings in the open, I think you'll know if she really wants you back or is friendly because of her brakes.

Good luck.....you sound sweet.

Answer 4

You know what...she likes you! she wants to be with you, she just has bad days sometimes and takes things personally and to the heart. I think you should leave her with a choice to leave you or to stay you can't be friends because you where never friendds to begain with, you where lovers.If you stay like that with her she would bring you back and forth like a yoyo. Tell her how you feel but tell her that breaking up is not the solution to every problem and it should be the last thing considered! She should take your relationship more seriously and except everything, the bads and the goods. Put a red line!!! That should wake her up, and the guy she is dating now...ignore it she is trying to fill up in her heart what she emptied out when she said goodbye to you. If your leaving someone for all the right reasons then you shouldn't have any regrets whatsoever, and looks like she has so many!!!!! Give her the red line and if she decides to leave then her loss! You deserve better then to be treated like that, and as bad is it may hurt time will heal the pain. You will find someone who is more committed. Hope you do the right thing. God bless!

Answer 5

It really seems like she still have feelings for you, but what puzzels me is that you all were together 3 years and as soon as you and her broke it off she found somebody else in a couple of days that is fishy. But who knows, maybe since you and her were together a long length of time maybe she just needed time apart from you for a while. Go with whatever your heart tells you to do what doesn't destroy you only makes you stronger and tougher if it doesn't work out and who knows the time apart could make you and her closer if you and her were to get back together. So my advice to you go for it if its what you really wanna do just take it one day at a time and don't expect alot out of it that way if it goes sour it want hurt that bad. Sometimes it takes separation from a love one to make a person realize what they had in their life is really what they need and should have, so maybe this will work in your case with your ex. Just don't let her use you as far as just talking to you because she needs something from you. GOOD LUCK AND GO FOR IT.

Answer 6

OK, first of all she was probably cheating on you. if she was with a guy a couple of days after... that in my mind means she didn't care about you.. she probably is having troubles with her new guy, and needs someone that she knows will love her... drop her if you get back together it will happen all over again.. yes it hurt i know, but be brave... there is someone out there for you that wouldn't leave you... trust me.. and when you meet her you will know...

sorry you have Togo through this but it happens to the best of use... i wouldn't even go to help her get her brakes fixed .. why isn't her man going with her???

women suck.. well most of them.. society tells women to use and get what ever they can from a sucker.. don't be a sucker... your better than that

i know this isn't what you want to here by it had to be said..

diamond

Answer 7

I was with someone for 3 years and we broke up and I dated someone I lived with for 1 -1/2. We broke up in June and now I'm ''working things out'' with the guy I was with for 3 years. During my relationship with the 1-1/2 years, I always called my ex..told him I love him...dreamt about him..nonstop thinking about him..because you just know..u know...so I think she's either not happy with this guy she's with and she def still thinks about u =)

Answer 8

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Answer 9

She still is interested. But be a man, and don't do anything that will cause her to cheat! Keep your intentions pure even if you want to pursue her. Maybe you should let her know she's interested, but don't go any further than that because you want your intentions honorable. If you go further while the other man is still in the picture there will be a lot of pain. Good luck!

Answer 10

obviously her new guy doesn't know how to fix car brakes, so she asked you too.
She tested your feelings about her by calling you, so she would know if she should
ask about fixing her brakes.

She came into where you work and hugged you , and just for good measure she hugged you three times.
And now she knows you still love her so she is using your love to fix her brakes.
Enough said....