well my parents r alway fighting and i always get in the middle of it somehow.then my dad curses about my mom my brother and me. and if my mom leaves light on in the bathroom he will get really mad and then something starts. and if he does that and we tell him that he left the light or tv on then he will get mad at us for telling him. and if someone is telling him something he doesnt want to hear he tells them to shut up or starts yelling. and if he does that to us and we tell him to shut up or we yell he will either ground me and yell at my mom and my brother. and then the next day he comes home from work he acts like nothing has happend. i cant take it what should i do??!!
2006-11-16 12:30:25 · 9 answers · asked by divachick95 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im also 11 and he sayd that he wasnt brought up in a bad family he was brought up in a nice house without fighting
2006-11-16 12:56:42 · update #1
and my brother is 27
2006-11-16 13:52:25 · update #2
Please talk to your school counselor. They will keep it private and help you.
2006-11-16 12:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your mother when it's just the two of you and tell her how much this is bothering you. This is abusive behavior and it needs to stop. Your dad seems to have an anger management problem. Or maybe he's depressed and taking it out on the rest of the familiy. The adults are the ones who need to take care of this problem, and they need to do it before it gets even more out of hand. Whatever you do, don't yell, or tell anyone to shut up - that just aggravates the situation. Remain calm, and if you need to then go into your room and take some time to yourself. If your mother doesn't get the situation under control, seek help from a relative. Something has to change.
2006-11-16 20:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea when he is calm to tell him you want to talk to him. Not while everyone else is around, but calmly let him know how the situation is making you feel and that you hate the family arguing like that. Chances are he was brought up that way and really has no idea that he is upsetting everyone else in the house. He might just be blowing off steam in this way, although not a very good way or excuse, it might be just that. Different people take things and express things in different ways. Try to talk to him and see how it goes. I hope all calms down for you indeed young lady!
2006-11-16 20:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Babe I just recently went through this. My parents finally split up. Its an extreamly harsh reality, but it is working out to be the best for us all. I was to the point were the fighting was so much and it got to me so bad that I was going to attempt the worst. Then I found some really good friends and they brought me to youth group. I was so hardened and I had so much anger built up that I was going to blow and nothing could help. But this gave me a way out of the house and then turned into what was keeping alive. The support and strengh I got from Jesus was tremendous. He gives love you are missing and then fills you up with hope. Don't lose sight of hope, it is there and he will save you. He's now my rock and My everything. Find out what he is to you. God Bless you.
2006-11-16 20:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jesus makes it happen 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You didn't state your age but if you're old enough to do things on your own you might get involved in school activities that keep you away from home until the early evening. Then after you eat and do homework it will be time to go to sleep. This should keep you active and you won't have much time to think about family problems.
2006-11-16 20:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your father has some anger issues. Talk to your Mom, about how you are feeling. Maybe there is something going on, that is keeping your father on edge. But whatever the reason, he shouldn't take it out on the three of you. If he loves you, he needs to get some help dealing with this.
Go talk to your Mom!
2006-11-16 20:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok....try not 2 get involved....if a fight breakz out between him and another family member take your brother and go outside or in your room......i have the same problem except that itz my mom...when a fight breakz out me and my brother go upstairs and try hard 2 ignore it...we mite turn on music or the TV....try 2 consentrate on your homework or something else like that.....good luck!
2006-11-16 21:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your dad really has some anger issues and he's taking out his bad moods on you guys,it;s hard to have to walk on egg shells all the time..maybe you and your mom and brother can have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him how his yelling for such little things are stressing everyone out and it;s hard to talk to him anymore,,,, good-luck
2006-11-16 20:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go to your Mom and explain to her how this is making you feel. If she cannot or does not offer help for you guys, go to your school counselor. They can get someone to talk to you and teach you coping skills. Good luck to you.
2006-11-16 20:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋