I'm so lonely. My husband is in the military and works nights. I work days, and haven't made any real friends, so I have no one to do anything with. We've lived here for 2 years, I've met plenty of women like me, and always offer to get together, but no on ever takes me up on my offer. They never offer to get together with me. The only time I get social interaction is at the grocery store. Or if my husband has his friends over, their wives will pretty much stick to themselves or make small talk. Then I think we've chatted enough to hang out just girls, and they never come around. I am the one who gets left out whenever the other wives get together. My hubby thinks it's just me taking it personally, but then why don't I have someone I can call to do anything with. I am so freakin lonely, it's depressing.
2006-11-16 12:32:24 · 6 answers · asked by little mama kat 23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People keep saying to forget those people and move on to find someone else like me....well I've been looking for someone "like me" for 5 years now. I'm still lonely...
2006-11-16 12:37:54 · update #1
I have problems getting people to hang out with me I try to be social, I understand your problem.
2006-11-16 12:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough one. I was in the same boat as an officer's wife for several years. I eventually made friends with a few of the girlfriend's of some of my husband's buddies. These girls were also excluded from group events because they weren't officially wives even though they were living with or in serious relationships with their boyfriends. Does your husband have a new buddy with a girlfriend you guys could try a dinner date with or something? Just one time out with them on a double date might be enough to break the barrier and develop communication. I also joined a ceramics class and made a few friends there with ladies who normally would not have been part of my expected "social circle". If you live near Ft Campbell then email me. I'll socialize with ya!
2006-11-16 12:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by chicpower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kat: You are a married, "military widow" at the age of 23 years !!! You are young still and have 1 child with a "bun" in the "oven" . Well; I can sympathize with your loneliness! Your husband is doing an Honourable service for his Country. You need to have adult company to enable yourself to "bounce" adult conversation off of. May I suggest, that you could spend some time each day, doing some volunteer work ? !!! I fully realize you have a child and finding time is rare. But, start working your way into a line of service towards others ... something small, perhaps. Herein; you will develop friendships. (You know; I can feel your loneliness even, answering this posting you forwarded.)
You will have to take things easy for now, though. You have another one on the way. Try inviting people over for coffee or tea. You will find someone eventually, who will warm up to you. Good luck to you.
2006-11-16 12:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a family member the same as yourself. You know what you should do? Forget those people! Turn your backs to them and give them a look, be strong! And move on to people like yourself. There are always some out there like yourself.
2006-11-16 12:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give up you will find suitable friends soon and also depression is greater when your spouse is overseas , keep your head up
2006-11-16 12:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by gettin it 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
email me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com
2006-11-16 20:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋