Is it cheating when your b/f hides things from you while he is chatting on-line or using Yahoo Messenager? I have caught him twice making "play dates" with other females! He says he would never go through with them and that its all in fun. Also signing up for dating services and saying he is single. No we are not married but we have been living together for 8 yrs. I am ready to blow his computer up! Yes we have a very good sex life too. And have done other adventerous things with another couple. So Whats up with this???
2006-11-16 12:39:45 · 21 answers · asked by Sweety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok we are not married because I Don't want to be married again. Its the sneaking that has me concerened. Doing things in the open and agreeing as a couple is fine with me.
2006-11-16 13:16:16 · update #1
I just wonder what else he's doing that you don't know about. The internet is insidious. It's turned a lot of guys into sex addicts. You need to think long and hard about the kind of relationship you want to have. If you don't have honesty you don't have much at all.
2006-11-16 12:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The trouble with cyber, is that it can be addicting. Sure it's fun, and if you are on your own, a fun way to pass the time.
However, if you are in a relationship and living with someone, it's time to give the cyber up, for the real thing.
You say you are adventuresome, and from what you say, it seems so. Why don't you do cyber together, if he has trouble giving it up for you.
He should at least try to give it up, it's like any other addiction, it's hard to break. But if you stay away for a few days, it's easier to kick the habit.
So join in with him, with you there, it can either be more fun for him, or turn out to be a bore. Both ways, you should come out the winner.
2006-11-16 20:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. If he's doing things that he has to hid and lie about, it doesn't matter if it's his cyber life or 3-D life. Cheating is cheating. If you've already done things with another couple, what is there possibly left to hide?
It may be his way of establishing that he still "has it" with other women. You can believe that he wouldn't be happy if you were doing the same to him.
It's disrespectful to you and makes your unhappy. That should be enough for him to back off all this silliness that he's into.
2006-11-16 20:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, When you play with fire you will eventually get burned. If your already spicy for him in and out of the sack then it makes no sense for him to go looking for it elsewhere.
The truth of the matter is hes not single and you shouldn't have to blow up his computer to make him understand how not ok this is.
8 years and no commitment is kinda a sign that maybe you should leave. Why should he commit to you he already gets to play with you as well as others whether its online or face to face. its not ok.
You probably already know this its just if you can ever admit it to yourself..
Goodluck
2006-11-16 20:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by kaliprincess82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Maybe mentaly, but, that is completely different. I have a question for you though. Would you rather him be doing those things on a computer or in real life? Probably neither, but, from you saying everything (sex life, etc.) is going great, I am not sure I understand or see a really big problem here . . . . possibly elaborate a bit more?
2006-11-16 20:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Cheating isn't only about physical sex- it's being deceitful and intimate with another person and hiding it. It seems that he lacks a conscience... is he using the emotions of other women to satisfy himself, and playing games with other people for kicks? He's cheating you, and he's misleading innocent women by pretending he's single and wanting to meet them. That's cold.
2006-11-16 20:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's innocent, I'm sorry to say. Otherwise why would he have anything to hide? If you look anything like your picture you're a gorgeous girl and can get anyone you want. Do you want to spend your precious time with an unfaithful person? Good luck. You deserve better.
2006-11-16 20:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda caught my bf doing the same thing. I don't know what it is with that. It took me a long time to get over, and I'm still not sure I'm completely over it. I know that he's been faithful to me, but why does he have to look and act like he's single? People have told me that it's a "guy thing", and to be glad that he's at "home" and not out with other people, etc, etc...but, I understand you feeling weird about it.
2006-11-16 20:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by Froggy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe it is, although if he hasn't actually met any of them you can't call it cheating yet. However he is being deceitful. Some guys say they flirt on-line to see if they still have the skills but I think its BS. It may start out innocent but eventually he'll cross that line.
2006-11-16 22:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by mslilbit24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend did the same thing! Thing is, it was me he was talkin to, i pretended to be some girl bla bla bla he gave me his # and i had my cuz call him then later I YELLED AT HIM AND SLAPT HIM he gave me this bullshit lie..told me he wouldnt do it again, and guess what? He did it again! it was me pretendin again, AND i know he did things that I didnt approve of with his "friends", and not on the computer, so if he has the nerve to do silly sh!t on the internet, he is/will most likely be doing it outside the internet too. Just watch out..keep an eye on things so he wont fool you
2006-11-16 20:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋