Long Story! Ok, 5 years ago she was dating (not committed) to another guy for a few months when we met. We did sleep together but the other guy asked her to be her boyfriend and she accepted. A year later she was cheating on him with me. We were seeing each other for like 8 months. (I was seeing other people and not committed to her at all at that time). It was killing her to be cheating on him and even hard for me to watch her pain so we stopped seeing each other. It was VERY hard to get over her. Now 3 years later we both just got out of relationship (hers was the same guy). I am over my ex (she was crazy!!) and now we have been seeing each other again (two weeks now). Here's the deal, He (here ex) did something messed up like 5 days ago and hurt her. She wants to deal with it alone. She feels she needs to get over him before we are together and I have been very supportive. I feel I really love her and always have...Am I crazy for putting myself in the same exact position to get hurt again or just wait it out and see how it goes? Give me your honest opinion anything will help. Thanks!!
2006-11-16 12:42:52 · 12 answers · asked by Mr. Blonde 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No matter what you choose to do, Bubba, I love you. I wouldn't blame or judge you in any way no matter what you choose to do. You are a great person with a great heart,and you deserve the best. Thank you for always being there even when it was hard for you to watch me in pain over someone else. I appreciate your consideration and understanding. Basically, there are three possible outcomes....1) You choose not to wait...say goodbye....and move on indefinately....and never see her again...2)You wait - and she heels in timely manner and deals with her problems allowing you guys to try and build something healthy, fulfilling and well worth all the wait...or 3) You wait - and either you or her has found something else....or you try to build something, and realize that it just cant work. Considering the 3 options, some would say the odds are against you, but considering I know the "gurl" better than anyone else possible could, I would say the odds are for you. I believe that if you do choose to wait....you will at least be able to give it a shot and know the unknown-if you and her were really meant to be.
2006-11-17 06:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Christina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is don't contact her. Let her come to you. It sounds a little dangerous. It's not a good sign when a woman needs space. I only say it if I'm trying to ditch someone without hurting their feelings........like when I feel I may have made the wrong choice. I don't know her so I can't say that is her feeling but my experience with men is the less they get, the more they want. Shift your focus, join a gym, go out and let it go. There are two ways to get from point A to point B. The easy way and the hard way - either way you end up in the same place. The unknown is B, but you will get there eventually. Don't tourture yourself on the trip.
2006-11-16 12:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think, by the sounds of it, that anything anyone tells you will change the way you feel about her. It might work out or it won't, but either way you have to go for it again or you will always wonder. When we love we always put ourselves in a dangerous position, one that could cause heartbreak, but because we are human we keep on trying. I think that's what you will do too, and I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-16 12:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of a relationship--one in which I would do ANYTHING to get her back. If it's been 3 years I'd give it a chance but you better have other stuff (girls) going on so you don't fall too hard too fast because then you may be asking for severe pain. Take it really slow and ask her lots of questions. good luck.
2006-11-16 12:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by LBF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe crazy,only time will tell.If you really care about her,I suggest you wait it out and see what happens.
2006-11-16 12:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally like the amber ale better than the pale ale.
2006-11-16 12:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWWWWW!!! That is so cute. If you really love her, i think you should just go for it. For all you know she feels the same way.
2006-11-16 12:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right it is long and yes you are crazy.
2006-11-16 12:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you feel in your heart. If it is meant to be then it will be.
If you two are meant to be together then you two will be..
2006-11-16 12:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like the both of you need time alone for awhile.
2006-11-16 12:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by jungle cheeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋