My b/f just found out on Halloween that his ex's child is his. The story with that is she told him she was pregnant while they were still dating, he caught her cheating 5 times. So, they broke up, and she told him she was putting the child up for adoption and wasn't sure who the father was. Fast forward, he gets a call saying the daughter is a year old, she kept her, and they live in the Netherlands (we live in the USA). She asked him to take a paternity test, he did, and he just told me that the child is his.
1. Question: How can I deal with this? Since he knows, he's talking about traveling there to see her, and for some reason I'd like to go as well...but I don't know how I should handle this. What about the future? How does one go about a relationship after finding out that your partner has a child they're dying to see and never knew about?
2. What's next? How does he go about things like child support? Since we're in college, does he get leniency (like a discount)?
2006-11-02
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