My gf needed space?

Question

I know I have been pushing kinda hard b/c she just withdrew herself from the relationship. We talked about it, things gotta sorta deep and awkward. She said she does this a lot in relationships. It's hard for me b/c I get fewer opportunities to see her so I want to make every chance I do see her more and more special, which I know is bad to try. Anyways, just wondering, we talked Monday and she said she didn't know what she wanted out of the relationship but that she loved me. I assume she is just scared for whatever reason. I want to go wait for her at her work tomorrow and just tell her I miss her and want to be with her and am willing to give her space if she thinks that's what she needs. Sound good or sorta stalker-ish? Does this sort of thing ever work?

Answer 1

It's probably not a good idea to go wait for her at work just to tell her you are willing to give her space. That is not giving her space, and yes, it is a little bit stalker-ish. If you want to give her space, but want her back, maybe you should act like it doesn't really bother you and she may think you are letting go. If she doesn't want to let go, then she will get over whatever her problem is and try again. Just my opinion though. Do what you feel is right. BUT, don't push her.

Answer 2

I wouldn't wait outside her work because before you get a chance to say a word she may think that you are not respecting the fact that she needs space. If I were you I would call her or write her a letter. That way she will hear what you are but won't feel like you are smothering her. I once had a boyfriend who never gave me time to myself. It was as if he where rammed up my but 24/7. I told him to give me time and space and he decided to not respect that and I ended up breaking up with him.
If she said she still loves you I think that's a good sign so give her space And maybe ask her if you can call her every other day or so just to say. Show her that you can back off a little and she may come around and be fine. If you back off and you relationship still doesn't work out you'll know its her and not you because you did what she asked. I wish you the best and I hope everything works out for you!!

Answer 3

Did she already tell you that she needed space? if not..then I think that it would be a good idea to see her after work. If she did say that she wanted space, I would wait a little bit longer before meeting her at work. You don't want to pressure her if she has already asked for space. Maybe you can leave a sweet little note on her car window that says that you are thinking about her and there for her if she needs somebody to talk too. I think this will be easier for the both of you if she actually tells you what is bothering her so that you can understand as well what is going on. Maybe the 2 of should talk again and figure out what is wrong with her.

Answer 4

dont push her. if you want send her flowers with a card or even just the card and put a letter in there saying... look i love you and i understand if you need your space i will give it to you... just let her know that she needs to let you know what is going on and if she does need the space then that is what you nee to give her. but it sounds like she leaves everytime the relationship gets to the point of commitment and she needs some counseling. an until then she wont be ready for a relationship with any kind of commitment.

Answer 5

Instead of waiting for her at work send flowers to her work or home. Send candy to her work or home. Send a note with them saying, "I miss you" or "just thinking of you" or something. Most girls/women like romance. Receiving a gift is very romantic. In this way you are letting her know you care and you are not perceived as a stalker. She will be getting her space but you are not totally out of the picture either.

Good luck.

Answer 6

ok i know what you are goin through i just went through the same thing and me being a gurl was the one to push him away give her her space but make sure she knos u love her and always will. one thing you better not do is talk to any other girls u will screw up bad there trust me she needs time to breath then when she realizes that you are the best for her she will come back but sweetheart if she doesnt you will find another one treat her good

Answer 7

Ok, i'll spell it out for ya,

when she said she needs space, she means that you spending every available moment of your time with her is smothering her,

u really do need to just back off and let her make the next move if you really want to save this relationship.

Answer 8

No, don't do it. If she needs space and you care about her needs, respect them. Pushing yourself on her will only make her want to draw back even more. Trust me - I've been there as the girl with a guy who was being just a little too desperate to tell me how he felt about me.

Answer 9

The deliver would have already sailed. i'm quite sorry, yet you're replacing your existence too overdue. Have a communication such as her and ask her to be completely straightforward with you. If she will't be straightforward even as talking to you, tell her to write down you a letter it really is brutally straightforward. even if it really is over, take a even as to grieve the lack of the relationship. yet understand that there is existence on the different part of "divorce." A e book that helped me contained in the previous became "everlasting companions." you're able to %. up a replica on the library. good luck! :)

Answer 10

Text message her cell phone - tell her you love her, but you want to give her time.... ask her to contact you when she is ready... Then LEAVE HER ALONE!!!! 2 weeks... if in 2 weeks you haven't heard anything, you are allowed to call ONLY to see how she is doing. DO NOT tell her how miserable you are... This time, it isn't about you... She already knows how you feel.

You'll get your anwer in 2 weeks as to the outcome of this relationship status.