i got the most amazing letter today off my boyfriend but enclosed was a cheque he sed it was for me to use as i wished the thing was i felt guilty having to accept it i asked him why he did it and his reply was i wont you to be happy and use it on yourself please can you help me on this 1 am i being selfish hellllllllllllllllllllp
2006-11-02 05:03:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And It's not an anniversary or birthday? Is there a reason he couldn't buy you something himself?
Well, I think you should tell him how you feel. After all relationships should be built on trust and friendship as well as love and so talking about it is OK!
Just say "i don't feel comfortable accepting a cheque from you. It makes me feel..... (fill in the blanks)"
If he insists it was purely out of love and not meant the way it came across (and basically he just wanted to spoil you) then go out there and spend it! But perhaps on something you will both enjoy. Good luck.
2006-11-02 05:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Fay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept it in the manner in which it was intended. If you reject the gift you will only hurt his feelings. If this becomes ahabit that bothers you then you need to sit down and talk to him. Buying somthing that you can both share will help if you are that uncomfortable. But all in all men are suposse to buy gifts for the women they love.
2006-11-02 05:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by harmony moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a gift and it's something he gave you to make you happy. but let him know that its not all about materialestic things and you love him for him and not for what he can give you, But there is nothing wrong with accepting a gift.
2006-11-02 05:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return the cheque to him saying that you would prefer if he bought something for you instead. Then it would be more personal
2006-11-02 05:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by CERISCARIAD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gave it to you because he wanted to. Accept it gracefully and if it bothers you buy something you both will enjoy.
2006-11-02 05:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend it on kinky underware and let him have some enjoyment out of it aswell . he gave you that money because he loves you or maybe he is feeling gulity about something ? but what the hell spend it
2006-11-02 05:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by bob a builder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spent the money on an english class so you can learn how to spell
2006-11-02 05:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No enjoy it's a gift.
2006-11-02 05:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept it.
2006-11-02 05:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, return the check back. say thanks, but no thanks. you don't want your relationship is base on money or gifts. and you don't want to be labeled as a materialistic type. if he wants to buy you a gift, that's fine. but a check? that's tacky.
2006-11-02 05:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋