iamnot cheating on him....just in case!!!!! i there is no t more feelings around ....i want to leave him.....
2006-11-02 04:59:40 · 23 answers · asked by KAREN Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not a bad person for leaving him! Its the way you leave that makes it bad or not! Don't be lie or deceiving! Take whats yours and leave whats his and try to make things as simple as possible.. avoid conflict even if it is something that you are right about or that is yours!
2006-11-02 05:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by --Br0oklYn-- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say your husband is a nice guy. Quite often this is a kiss of death for a man regarding woman. You are no longer attracted to him. You say love but it is about attraction.
We have no control over what or who we are attracted to. It is not a choice. You are not bad to feel the way you do and you are far from the only woman that does.
While it will hurt him deeply for you to leave, in the long run it is for the best for both of you.
You both can find someone that fits you.
For you to continue on will make you miserable. You live with a man you feel nothing for. It will only get worse and even though you are not cheating on him with another man you are cheating him by not giving him what he wants and needs the most......you.
If you think marriage counseling will not help then you must get a divorce. You mention nothing of children so if you have none this is the time to move. if you get pregnant your life will become very complex. Don't do that.
2006-11-02 05:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some might say three years is such a short time but I disagree. If you are in a loveless relationship three years is an eternity. If you can, financially, just leave. Better for both of you in the end. Make every day count and spend it in the company of someone who matters to you. Its very important. Life is very short, too short to spend it with someone you don't love. That feeling of not loving can so easily turn to not caring at all and eventually actually hating.
2006-11-02 05:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by linda b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in same position has you.I have been married 34 year,was going to leave him after a year he begged me not to go & here I am.We get on & I still do not love him.I think the world of him & would not hurt him yet looking back I should have gone.If you have no doubts then leave him.Do not end up like me,like your husband mine is kind,caring & loves me.I feel quilty that I cannot love him yet I care so much for him.You are the only one that can decide what to do.Its a tough call,Goodluck in what ever you decide to do.Also you are not BAD?
2006-11-02 08:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a "nice guy" is a man who has not embraced his own dark side....and if he hasn't, how can he embrace yours? If you are to be fully a woman, he needs to be fully a man. If he is unwilling to give you his nasty along with his nice (meaning, sometimes you need his strong masculine will to come into play) it will weaken the sexual polarity between the two of you. You will become nice friends but there will be no magnetism, no electricity. I highly recommend reading "It's a Guy Thing: An Owner's Manual for Women" by David Deida. It was very healing for me. If your man is open to it, recommend "The Way of the Superior Man" by the same author. It might be that you both need to grow and move on, but if you do divorce, at least you can use these books to heal yourselves and prepare for real, deep, lasting love with your next partners. The great thing about David Deida is he writes with deep insight about both men and women without judgment of either and with respect for both.
2006-11-02 05:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by tillibullu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have he changed during the 3 years is that why or do you just find him boring. You need to sit down and talk to him about it, If you still feel the same way, why not try a trial separation. You never know you might find that you really do miss each and that you do want to work things out. On the other hand you might enjoy it and then there's your decision
2006-11-02 06:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to share with you.
I know that when you are in a relationship for a while you do fall out of love, you both do at different times but you don't give up you stay and try your best to work at it. Sometimes it will happen a few times into the relationship but it's not the same for every one many people in long term relationships never fall in and out of love. Try to find the things that attracted you to eachother and use that to spark that fire again. good luck.
2006-11-02 05:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving him would be better than cheating on him if you were to stay together. Have you spoken to him about it? You never know he may already know you are no longer in love, maybe he is no longer in love with you! Be happy, that's what is important, personally i don't agree that couples stay together just because they have to, none of us get married believing that it will end in divorce, but sometimes it just happens that way and NO you're not bad, not at all. Good luck.
2006-11-02 07:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you mean you don't like him anymore.
love is not merley a feeling that you feel when you look at someone. Porn does similiar things to that. It's an action as well, what have you done lately to change the situation. Besides picking at what he does and telling yourself your unhappy and it's his fault.
Leave him NOW! He doesn't derseve the wretched hell you'll try to put him through.
2006-11-02 05:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then chick you got to go if there nothing there then whats the point in making your self miserable if you dont love or fancy him at all anymore then its over anyway gather yourself together and tell him then leave its best thing for you and him so both of you can move on
2006-11-02 06:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋