Family & Relationships - 25 September 2006

I have met this guy on the net and we have been out for quite alot of dates and i really like him, even feel a bit in love, the thing is i am a christian and hes not and i am also getting sexual feelings towards him. He even touched my breasts on the last date, and i really liked it, i am 46 and i have not had a boyfriend for 7 years and as a christian i am not meant to have sex before i gtet married but i do not feel i can last out that long, because i fancy him so much. I feel so attracted to him, i love cuddling with him, if they knew at the church they would go mad, and i feel bad. He says he fancies me crazy. I would of liked to have met a christian man but their are none around and i got fed up alone and wanted to meet someone. Hes a real nice person as well and we have a laugh. How on earth do i control myself.

2006-09-25 09:01:41 · 10 answers · asked by guysmithdenise 3 in Singles & Dating

I don't understand it. For instance, if a trans woman had had sexual reassignment surgery, and facial feminisation surgery, but told people she'd been raised a boy a lot of people would distance themselves even if they were good friends before.

Why? Why does gender change make people so uncomfortable? Why do trans women and men that 'pass' impeccably still get treated as "a transexual" instead of the man or woman they are inside?

2006-09-25 09:01:35 · 6 answers · asked by Aisha C 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-25 09:00:45 · 22 answers · asked by tyeh84 1 in Singles & Dating

he's a really great guy and i like him a lot and i know he wont care if i havent made out w/ ne one but i really wanna know how to make out w/ him

im really nervous please help!!! :/

2006-09-25 09:00:15 · 3 answers · asked by Ashes 1 in Singles & Dating

I have compiled a book of well-wishes from all over the world for him, and it has been a HUGE hit! I want to thank all of you for helping with it and being so supportive of him. We waited 7 long months for our Marine to come home!! Anyone who wishes to be a part of this book - please sign off with where you are from. Thank You!!!!

2006-09-25 09:00:07 · 11 answers · asked by kat85228 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

i live in the detroit area and all the younger black women ages 17 to 35 are really putting white men in there sites as lovers and marriage candidates. we see it more and more around here now.

2006-09-25 08:59:53 · 8 answers · asked by holyschnikies74 1 in Singles & Dating

My son in laws company are sending him out there next year and after his last job in Hungary, my daughter is going out with him. What should she be worried about, customs and stuff and my grandaughter is only 13 months old.

2006-09-25 08:59:44 · 11 answers · asked by eyebrows 1 in Family

Im christian and I love him very much but he already has a wife and I think I need more time to decide if I am willing to change my lifestyle so drastically.

2006-09-25 08:59:44 · 22 answers · asked by Blaque Inque 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Two guys, Martin and Corne. The are both great guys and i like them both, but I have to make a choice between them and I also dont want to lose their freindship. MARTIN is a very cute guy and a bit shorter than me, but its okay, hes loveable .CORNE on the other hand is a poet and treats of each girl he ever dated, not many girls, like gold. I want both but cant have them, plz give me your view and advice. I need it. Thanx allot

2006-09-25 08:57:52 · 10 answers · asked by ogies_01 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-25 08:57:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My bf of 4 years has been acting very distant lately. Well, it really started in the beginning of the summer. Not wanting to see me as much. Recently canceling plans a lot because of work. Past couple months, when I do go see him he always puts my car in the garage. He never cared about where I parked before.

There is this girl that is always calling and texting him. I noticed it really the last couple months.
Of course he says they are just friends, but things are seriously adding up to cheating and I want to know the truth.

What’s the best way to find out?
I saved her number one night. I thought of calling her, but that would only make matters so much worse if there is nothing really going on.

Maybe she is chasing him, he doesn’t want her, and really is working and things?

I don’t want to accuse and ruin things, yah know?

What are the best ways to find out the truth?

Hoping there are experienced people out there that have ideas
Thanks!!!

2006-09-25 08:57:35 · 27 answers · asked by Shanna S 1 in Singles & Dating

I met my ex-boyfriend in 91. We were together until 95. We broke up over a silly thing. We re-connected in 97. Unfortunately by then, I was engaged to someone else. Been married since 98. I don't love my husband as a wife should. I love him for being a wonderful father and a friend. I don't think I'll ever grow to love him in that way. This past friday I did an online background check and tracked down my ex. I called him and told him that after all these years, I still loved him. He said he'd also done a background check and had tracked me down. He said he was on his way to my home when I called. The problem - My son means the world to me. My husband means the world to my son. I'm not happy in the marriage and would like to leave. My parents and family also love my husband and would be upset if I left him. Shall I follow my heart and leave my husband for my ex? Should I sacrafice my happiness and stay with my husband for my son's sake ? What to do?

2006-09-25 08:57:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i like this guy...he only a year older then me...but hes like.............a foot taller and uber skinni when im like....healthy (being polite ofcourse) idk if he likes me...i get his eye every once and a while...but i feel so immature around him!!!!

2006-09-25 08:56:54 · 4 answers · asked by hopelessly romantic♥ 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

While dating, a couple spoke about having children together (the husband already has 2). After getting married, the husband (secretly) changed his mind about wanting children. The wife ended up getting pregnant anyway and he flipped out wanting to leave and resenting her on and off. He recently decided to have a vasectomy done and thinks he is doing the right thing (for himself). They are a church going couple, but the decision was made solely by the husband and he is now cutting off her right to have the two children she said she wanted and he agreed on from the start. His decision was not one obvisouly prayed for or included his wife's feelings. What does anyone in the same situation suggest or say to this unfortunate situation?

2006-09-25 08:56:53 · 8 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it creepy that i might have a crush on a guy is kinda like my cousin?? Our parents lived next door to each other when they were little and now his family is a really close family friends. And his sister is like my best friend. Is that weird??

2006-09-25 08:56:49 · 11 answers · asked by Target 1 in Singles & Dating

was he using me because he was upset his relationship was going no where?or did he really feel something? my two brothers hang out with the same crowd and one of there friends said he like he liked me but it was off and on and then all the sudden he would call me and say stuff like i really like you and i 'm starting to realize how much you meen to me and WHEN we go out i never want to break up and really sweet stuff!!! ( i mean it wasnt just really out of know where because we always talked and he knew i liked him) at that time he and his girlfriend were going out but she was a very flurty girl if you know what i mean and she treated him like $#it... so was he using me and trying to get my attention or was he really realizing something...?

2006-09-25 08:56:23 · 19 answers · asked by daddys_girl 2 in Singles & Dating

Do you agree or dislike with this statement or not?
30 Things a man should have by the age of 30
1. a suit
2. a resume
3. a checking account
4. a savings account
5. am investment portfolio
6. an ab-cruncher
7. a good barber
8. a good job
9. a good friend
10. a good woman
11. good credit
12. a library card
13. voter's registration card
14. an NAACP card
15. a life insurance policy
16. a dream
17. a belief that you can achieve it
18. a safety net if you fall short of it
19. a little brother
20. a big heart
21. a religion
22. a realization that one woman really is enough
23. a realization that calories really do add up
24. a realization that dollars saved really do add up
25. a realization that friends come and go
26. a sense of humor
27. a sense of responsibilty
28. a sense of pride
29. sense to know that even if you're already 30 you have time to achieve all of the above.
30. the wisdom to take the jokes in stride.

2006-09-25 08:56:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I keep hearing about acquainences who are friends with the opposite sex, and they just have sex for the sake of having sex and no more. There is no relationship/commitment or anything. I am not suggesting that I want to do this, but how widespread are "sex buddies" or friends "with priviledges"? What do you think?

2006-09-25 08:56:14 · 13 answers · asked by JohanStulmer 3 in Friends

my 3 year old's father (my husband, whom i'm seperated from) has not given me one red cent since baby was born. he rarely calls...and when he does, he puts me down like i'm a bad mother and tells me to send baby to canada to stay with him half the year (he's not crazy?) i just want to know how a man can not care for his own child (call, send money, send b-day cards, etc.) then turn around and say that they love baby sooo much, to the point of crying about not seeing the baby. i'm confused.

2006-09-25 08:55:52 · 10 answers · asked by retarded_heart 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

The other day I overheard this women telling her other female friend "im not going to settle for someone" like I did in my previous relationship?? Isnt true eventually we all SETTLE for someone?? To say that thier isnt someone in this WHOLE WIDE WORLD who would not..look better? treat you better? connect with you better? whatever it is your searching for?? Someone out there is BETTER then the next,,,,for those who disagree please explain.

2006-09-25 08:55:12 · 19 answers · asked by im cool 2 in Singles & Dating

self explanatory

2006-09-25 08:54:48 · 11 answers · asked by grace 1 in Friends

We're having a wedding in Jamaica in August 2007. Last week we sent out engagement announcements with a letter saying that we're doing a destination wedding and there is a choice between 3 nights and 7 nights. We asked that they let us know whether they THINK they'd like to go. I was going to send out save the date magnets and a letter with all of the travel info as soon as I have it (next few weeks)...then actual invitations closer to the wedding. Now that seems pointless to me...should I skip the save the date magnets (even though I love them!) and just send invitations with the travel info in a couple of weeks? Something with all info has to be sent soon, because anyone going needs to book and pay a deposit. I don't know what order or timeline to do all of this in...help!

2006-09-25 08:54:30 · 13 answers · asked by abbya11111 2 in Weddings

2006-09-25 08:54:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-09-25 08:54:06 · 2 answers · asked by marygold2012 2 in Family

I met this guy who goes to my school through myspace, he's a sophmore too, but i never see him because my school's fricken huge. He's really nice and we've talked online for like 6 months, and he's told me im sexy, cute, etc. But then i finally met him, and just like that i was gone, he's perfect and i cant stop thinking about him. The thing is I'm mixed (white/black) and a cheerleader and i hang out with mostly the white honors class crowd, lol, but he's latino and hangs with a mostly mexican crowd. So we dont have any close friends in common. So i have no idea what to say to him or where to go from here...sorry for the epic, it all kinda spilled out, lol.

2006-09-25 08:53:40 · 6 answers · asked by CheerleaderChic 2 in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I are trying to get our debt paid off to get married and have kids. He has a lake boat and I have an expensive car. He wants me to trade the car in on a cheaper one to lower payments, but I said I would only do that if he did something in return such as sell his boat that he still owes alot on. He won't do that. What does this mean. I feel that it's fair, I give up my toy, he gives up his, but he doesn't feel that way. What do you think??

2006-09-25 08:53:29 · 12 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-25 08:53:07 · 1 answers · asked by Sweetcakes 1 in Friends

How do you deal with someone who hurt you terribly but you inevitably run into on occassion?

2006-09-25 08:52:55 · 24 answers · asked by K 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok, I wont go into the gaggle of details here...but if you have a guy that says you are more than "friends with benefits" but not gf/bf...and the following is occuring..is he just messing with me?

*He gets jealous that his friends text me
*He has intro'd me to the sister
*We talk to eachother constantly, in one form or another
*He took me to his company picnic

The reason i ask is this: This weekend he asked me IF he were to ask...would i say yes to being a couple. I said yes, of course. But does he ask..no. After a small spat last night he asks again..would you still say yes? I say yes again. Ok, why would he do that but then not ask me...is he just toying with me or is he that confused?

2006-09-25 08:52:48 · 10 answers · asked by oogiebugg 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-25 08:52:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating