I have met this guy on the net and we have been out for quite alot of dates and i really like him, even feel a bit in love, the thing is i am a christian and hes not and i am also getting sexual feelings towards him. He even touched my breasts on the last date, and i really liked it, i am 46 and i have not had a boyfriend for 7 years and as a christian i am not meant to have sex before i gtet married but i do not feel i can last out that long, because i fancy him so much. I feel so attracted to him, i love cuddling with him, if they knew at the church they would go mad, and i feel bad. He says he fancies me crazy. I would of liked to have met a christian man but their are none around and i got fed up alone and wanted to meet someone. Hes a real nice person as well and we have a laugh. How on earth do i control myself.
2006-09-25 09:01:41 · 10 answers · asked by guysmithdenise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
God has got to help you to have that control. I understand it is easier said than done. But the flip side is if he really cares about you he would go to church with you and then hey who knows let God take it from there. I think it is time for lots of prayer and asking God if this is the man who is to be in your life. If we listen he will guide us.
2006-09-25 09:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by arieslady41456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there's the letter of the law and the spirit of the law...you choose which one you want to follow....if you have already been married...then all sex after that point wouldn't be considered pre-marital.
but my better advise is....no religion has it 100% right (not trying to offend you). just as long as you have faith in the one you believe in and try to lead a good life. doing something like having sex with someone you love is by no means going to be the deciding factor about where you spend your time when you die.
your body is a temple (loose translation from the bible) treat it like one...does that mean you can only allow a person in after he has given you a ring....i personally don't think so. as long as everyone doesn't have general admission to your theme park you can sleep better at night. If you love a person...truely love them...then you give them EVERYTHING. sometimes you have to put all your cards out on the table rather than possibly loosing someone from holding out.
Ultimately it's up to you....just remember no matter what you choose....god is a forgiving loving and most improtiantly...understanding
2006-09-25 09:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by anthony v 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason.
If you are 46 years old and just met the first person you have ever WANTED to sleep with....then there has to be a reason for it.
God knows the answer.
2006-09-25 09:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether he is a Christian or not, what is the difference? He is still a man by any other name. Well, you are eitger going to have to use will power or give into your lust...The decision is yours to make...If you give in to your lust, I don't think the members at church will ever find out unless you confess your guilt to them. Be reasonable!
2006-09-25 09:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Worry about yourself and not what others think. Stick by what you feel is right and if you should decide to have sex, be sure a condom is used.
Discuss this with the man you are dating so he knows how you feel and if he cares about you, will respect your wishes.
2006-09-25 09:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're asking the wrong person. WWJD? Being a Christian, you should pray over it. Ask for guidance and self control.
2006-09-25 09:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by stormywthr64 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
think like all other women do you can change him!
2006-09-25 09:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
funny stuff
2006-09-25 09:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it, god would want you to be happy, right.
2006-09-25 09:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by smars442002 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont. jump his bones
2006-09-25 09:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋