Hi all, my name is Bez from birmingham and im 26. This is my first post and being as there is an agony aunt section, i thought id try it and see what feedback i get so here goes... i've been in a long term relationship for 5 years with nicky who's 21. We have lived together for that time and all has been great untill now. She does genuinly love me very much, she washes my clothes, cooks my food, always shows me love and has a lot of love to give. The bad sides is that she dont stop talking, is a good liar, quite 2 faced and a pretty messy person to live with. She has lots of love to give, too much sometimes and it does make me thing that she's needy, clingy and an attention whore.
To cut a long story short i found out she gave her number to a bloke at a club and then found out later that she was texting raunchy sexy messages to my so called mate. She swears she has not shagged these blokes and i do believe her. This mate was an old school friend from 10 years ago, we lost touch but i bumped into him again about 2 months ago and he showed me the messages she sent to him. He said he wanted to see how far she would go and wanted enough evidence to show me, nicky admitted starting the sexy texts but swears she was only winding him up because of how weird he is and non of the girls will fancy him. I said i want her out my house asap. She is begging for forgiveness and is giving me her side of the story about what my mate was texting back to her. Im thinking that it is good of him to tell me, but why did he go so far with the messages. Nicky said she did all this because she was getting attention that she wasn't getting from me. My best mate harry is asking whats going on and i replied this...
"She still ain't moved out yet. I still feel the same and want her to move out but i know its gonna be hard and I'll miss her when she's gone. She has been telling me about what James said in the texts and the way he was looking at her down the waterfront. I know it is true about how desperate he is because I've seen it with my own eyes. You gotta admit that he is weird and is prob STILL a virgin. I do kinda feel as though he genuinely wanted to start gong out with Nicky and when she eventually told him she was messing about, me & James were playing pool at the time and James suddenly went in a mood and went all quiet and pissed off. I thought it was this other girl that texting him but it was Nicky.He got jealous/pissed off and told me simply because he knew he had no chance with her anyway. Apparently he asked her for a lift down Riley's a few times without me and asked if she wanted to come down to his house for A VISIT?!?. I've got a feeling that he is just as guilty as her, maybe worse..what you reckon? I've also got a feeling that he was trying to catch her out for 1 reason or another, but I'm thinking if my mates misses did this to me, i would DEFINITELY not gone as far as saying "come down my house" to my mates Mrs!!! I would have told my mate asap so why didn't James do that?? He said he wanted to see how far she would go, but why would he want to say VISIT ME??? I just don't get it and it's as if he's trying to get a load of evidence to split us up. I never saw any messages he sent her and i wonder WHY??? Surely a true mate would have ignored the messages and tell his mate when he feels ready!! James sent her messages suggesting seeing each other behind my back and when he gets the cold shoulder off Nicky, he feels truly dumped and very jealous of me who is in a relationship with a nice looking girl, nice car and own house whilst he lives with his mom and no Mrs. He tells me the truth, hoping we split up so maybe she will start texting him again and bingo!! he is with her just like he planned...what you reckon haz..have a good think and get back.
2006-09-28
23:32:29
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