I've known this guy through a friend for about two months and we start to date a month ago. At first it was incredible good, he was so nice, very kind, sweet, and caring. We had so much fun together all of the time, he seem to be doing extremely well in life. However last week I told him about few of plans I have which include going to bars or clubs with few of my friends and a bachorlette party.
Ever since that he has been pretty much avoiding me. I've tried to explain him that I'm not those type of wild girl. All he would say is "stop doing those crap and try again in couple months" I don't understand why he have issue with this.
btw he's 22 and I'm 24 and my friend say he's not controlling at all, he simply doesn't like girl who bar or club hop. Why is this a such problem for him?
2006-09-28 23:30:56 · 7 answers · asked by Glittery K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to be with him but I don't want to stop go to bar and clubs with my friends though.
2006-09-28 23:33:10 · update #1
If you have a guy, why do you want to go to clubs? The only reason to go to clubs is to meet someone. Why can't you your friends come over for dinner or double date? I don't go to clubs with my friends and my guy doesn't go out to bars/clubs with his friends. You need to either commit or have a relationship with someone who doesn't care enough about you and whether or not you meet someone else.
2006-09-28 23:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds overly conservative. Even if it continues, it wouldn't work out due to different moral standards.
I'd say he has no right to tell you what to do as long as you're not cheating on him. Maybe you can invite him to the bars/clubs too though to show him? Try reconciling the situation first, and if that doesn't work out, then don't try to keep the guy. Your needs come first.
Basically, ask him to go out with you some times to see how it is, for experience. I mean, if he goes with you, he can see what's going on....
2006-09-29 06:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to face the fact that he just might care for you a bit more then you think, I mean that type of life only ends up in bad situations I don't think you want that. right?
2006-09-29 06:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Neylly A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like it or not every relationship, whether it be gf/bf, normal friends or family, require compromise and doing/not doing things you like. How much you give and take is what determines your bonds with them.
2006-09-29 06:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by zooba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply put, he likes the quiet life
2006-09-29 06:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nelson M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him.....then u have to go for compromise.
2006-09-29 06:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by imnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's.. er.. um... erm... BBBOOORRRRIIIINNNNNNNNGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-29 06:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by dusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋