I recieved a text message today from my boyfriend. It was extremely racist, regarding the KKK & a certain derogatory term and Texas. I was extremely upset with him and told him I'd call him back later, but never did. He kept texting me back wondering what was wrong with me, I didn't respond.
Did I over-react? I mean, the one thing I can't stand...is racism. I HATE IT!
2006-09-28 23:43:25 · 32 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
**I did finally tell him that I was offended...and he admitted to being racist. What the buggar do I say to that??**
2006-09-28 23:55:31 · update #1
There are lines that have to be drawn in every relationship - they are personal lines that the other person must never cross. Some of these are the same for everyone - like being a violent relationship. Some are more specific to you and your beliefs. Some people wouldn't have a problem going out with someone who admits they are racist and will shrug it off, they may even be racist themselves. BUt if you have a problem with it (and what right minded person would not) then i think you have to end this relationship because there is no future in it, every time he makes a comment of this nature it will upset you and what if you married or had kids - would you want your kids to pick up racist views?
2006-09-29 00:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sometimes difficult for people to understand each other's sensitivities.
Have you ever discussed your non racist attitude with your boyfriend? Have you made absolutely clear the fact that a series of actions and / or discussions do insult you?
Maybe your boyfriend is racist. But on the other hand maybe he considers what he did funny and does not realise the boundaries that you have.
Without an honest discussion you cannot resolve the issue and it is not right to judge him without examining the matter further.
2006-09-28 23:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should discuse this issue with him and your views on the matter. There are way to many issues going on in this world and those are the things we should look at. Not the color of someones skin or thier religous beliefs. If it offended you to that degree then the two of you need to sit down and talk about where you stand and dont stand. Then make a choice on if you can stay with him or not..
2006-09-28 23:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by tammy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have the right to be p*ssed. My question is does your bf know you hate racism? If he doesn't he has no idea what is wrong. If he does, then he is just totally disrespecing you and your beliefs. Your best bet in my opinion is to tell him one more time of you views and opinions. If he does it again, then you need to decide if you can live with that or not.
2006-09-28 23:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR BOYFRIENDS ACTIONS SOUND HIDEOUS!HE CAN NOT BE A RACIST THOUGH IF HE HAS HAD A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU MAYBE HE JUST TRIED TO SAY SOMETHING TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS LIKE WHEN PEOPLE CALL OTHERS FAT AND THINGS ITS JUST MAYBE A SICK WAY TO GET TO YOU.I SAY DUMP HIS **** ANYWAY BECAUSE THAT KIND OF TREATMENT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE AND IT SHOWS A COMPLETE LACK OF RESPECT TO YOURSELF AND YOUR RACE.I HAVE MANY FRIENDS FROM MANY RACES AND RACE ISSUES NEVER ARISE AS WE ALL LEARN FROM EACH OTHER AND EMBRACE EACH OTHERS CULTURES.I WOULD NOT SAY THAT WORD TO A DOG IN THE STREET SO DUMP HIS ****.
2006-09-29 00:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by mizz_lollypop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the loser! He has less brains than a slug and I wouldn't dream of insulting single cell organisms to express just how low his intelligence or lack of it he has.
2006-09-29 03:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by charlotte e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should know you enough to know what will upset you. everyone is entitled to their views, but not entitled to upset other people with them. I'm confused as to why he would send this to you if he's your bf he should know you hate anything like that, was he forwarding on a joke or was it a comment from him. either way if you don't like his views then get rid of him.
2006-09-28 23:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well please speak up. he certainly does and that is why this sort of behavior can spread b/c good people like you don't shout out your beliefs as loud as the haters.let him no exactly how you felt when he texted you that message and express your disgust.you never know he may be one of those wannabe's and you may offer his dumb a** another way of thinking.
2006-09-28 23:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him racists are retarded. but if he was just playing around, maybe u should try telling him what upset u!cuase I usually play around like that but Im not racist. I even make racist jokes when my black friends are around and they just laugh!
2006-09-28 23:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, we all have different life experiences and these give us all different points of view.
Try to walk a mile in your boyfriends shoes.
then, when you dump the racist SOB, you'll be a mile away, and have his shoes.
2006-09-29 01:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by pewnee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋