what am i going to do, i cant work out wheter i am being taken for a ride or not ??

Question

I metmy boyf in feb everyting was fine until about end of april, he said he didnt feel in the mood for kissing,cuddling etc,bearing in mind we only see each other at weekends, I started to think there was someone else? I went away on holiday for 2 weeks at the beginning of may, he said he did not want to come as we had not been together long and as I have 2 children it would be too much, I excepted this and went anyway, whilst i was away he went out with the lads for the arsenal uefa champion final, he told me to ring him but he did not answer! the next day he rang me and said sorry I left my phone in a cab!!!!! I pretended I believed him and of course when I flew home it was over,whilst all this was happening I find one of my closest friends acting rather strange,she changed the way she dressed and eventually left her husband, I had a feeling she was the culprit, I blew my stack at her she called the police now if i go near her i will be arrested, we're back on but i dont believe him

Answer 1

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. If he has already broken that trust to the point that you don't believe him, best get out and stay out of the relationship. Chances are you will be miserable with him, always wondering what he's really up to whenever you can't contact him. Not a good thing for the kids to see...you want them to learn the positive virtues that one needs for a happy and successful relationship.

Answer 2

I am going to send you a poem I wrote, hopefully, you'll get the idea. BTW, what is it about you that you think you don't deserve better than someone who treats you poorly (and that's putting it nicely)? Whatever it is, get past it and do what you need to do that will give you the strength to kick him to the curb and never let another man treat you like this. Here's my poem:

Best-friend, Sister, Girlfriend

You say he broke your heart and you can’t go on?
You cry all day and night until you think you’re going to drown?
Well, stop your sniffling sister,
It’s no ones fault but yours.
You let him get away with cheating* before
And you’ve let it go on for years.
The first time he lied, well honey, you should’ve dumped him then,
Instead you forgave him and denied away his sins.
If you’re not going to insist on the very best,
What in this big, bad world do you think your gonna get?
Sisters unite and demand the best,
Make these guys rise above-
Don’t give into his indecent request,
Take your time, until you find, he’s worthy of your love.
You’ve got to wise up, to know what’s up.
Have the courage to be your own best friend.
Cinderella didn’t date the mice.
Snow White didn’t wed the dwarves, (ok, she lived with them and that wasn’t smart).
Girlfriend your life’s not fiction-
Don’t let someone else write your happily,
ever-after endings.

*cheating: any inappropriate behavior; adultery, physical, verbal, emotional abuse, lying, using drugs, deceit, addictions, etc.

(The above poem is copyrighted and cannot be used without expressed written permission by the author, me: Candice Kelly.)

Good luck Girlfriend, I hope you find the strength to get rid of the louse, otherwise you're telling him it's okay to continue doing this to you, even if he apoligises and promises he won't do it again, chances are, he will. If he says that he won't, you can still break up with him and see others while he goes to counseling, which he should be willing to do to prove to you he means it. BTW, the reason people should be dating is to find the person who treats them better than anyone else, surely you can do better than him.

Answer 3

i began taking training at the same time as i changed into 7 and performance no longer been heavily injured. often, it really isn't any longer an impressive theory to start up lower than 6 because youthful toddlers have a problematic time making desciscions and preserving their stability, yet i understand those who've been driving earlier they walked. it really is all a count number of who you ask.

Answer 4

Well if you already have 2 kids by another guy you really can't be too fussy. On the other hand, since you are not getting enough from this guy anyways (looks like he is giving it to newly divorced chick) Why not just find a new guy to hook?

Answer 5

I think you'd better follow your instincts! Kick him to the curb! For future reference, don't ever fight over a man. If you find out he's cheated, let the other woman inherit the cheater! They deserve eachother, and you'll be better off without both of them! Concentrate on your kids. At least you know THEY really love you!

Answer 6

Frankly nor do I. You are better off by yourself than being messed around like this. When you meet the right guy you will not get this kind of c**p . Please have some self-respect and end this relationship now.

Answer 7

You say you have two children. I really dont think they need to be around this drama do they? Of course single parents can date and have right to romance, but I think you need to examine your priorites.

Answer 8

following your instincts, you know hes lying you said yourself you don't believe.

i would say dump the b*st*rd but its not my place to say so ill just say follow your heart it knows the answer really.

and as for your so called friend there more than one way to skin a cat if you get what i mean

Answer 9

OH MY GOD DUMP THIS GUY YOUR NOT A FOOL COME ON GIRL YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER HE IS PLAYING U DONT LET HIM FOOL YOU RIGHT NOW THINK OF YOUR CHILDREN AND HAVE FAITH AND MR RIGHT WILL FIND YOU!!

Answer 10

you dont believe him ? then finish it and try again. No trust - no love